been for a few drinks with special guy, he knows im holding back big time. im married but havent discussed it with him tho i think he knows. I thought we could just be friends but im getting feelings. Shoud i tell him or should i just stop seeing him?
2006-07-30 09:53:55 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX I think you should tell your husband that your marriage vows mean absolutely nothing to you and that you've been cheating on him so he should kick your butt to the curb.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-30 10:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him your married. You need to. Honesty is key in life. And you can continue being friends with him and seeing him only as a friend, only if you can stop those feelings and control them. Otherwise you're being disloyal to your husband. Something I've kinda discovered over time is...the only thing in attraction is lust, only lust at first sight. Love is something that develops by the choices you make. So if you choose to see this guy, let your feelings go, and eventually do something with him, then you choose to not love your husband. If you love your husband, and you cannot stop these feelings, then stop seeing him. Think of the choices and decisions you make for your husband, your loyality, and your future. What do you want, really want?? That will tell you what you should do. Do you love your husband enough to make the right choices, or do you not?? Can you control yourself and your lust, or can you not?? Take Care! I hope you make the right choices in the end.
2006-07-30 10:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband first, he might be so pi55ed off that he'll tell you to get lost and get out. Then you can pursue this other guy. But you are SOOOOOOO in the wrong in having meet up with this guy in the first place. Good to have friends but a relationship like you have started could only go bad. Honesty right from the start is the only way to go about finding new friends.
2006-07-30 10:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by theevilpowerpuffgirl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you done with your marriage?
If not, wise up and tell the bf that you need to work on your marriage. Then tell your husband gently that your emotional needs are not being met and that you like to work on that with him because you love him and need him. If you think you need a counselor see one to help you talk through it all.
If so, then have the decency to tell your husband that you need to move on before you humilate him and disrespect him by cheating on him. You owe him that at least.
Read the article below for the expectations of an illicit relationship.
2006-07-30 10:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell him, and stop seeing him. Look at the life your husband has worked so hard to give you. Think about him sitting at home wondering where you are. Imagine him finding out that the woman he swore to love forever, cheated on him.
Always introduce yourself as being married. Find ways to talk about your husband in conversations with other men. I know it's nice to be complimented by the opposite sex, but soon your need for compliments will develop into desire, and then it's really hard to back out.
Do it for your family.
2006-07-30 09:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by c_w_b_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should tell him. That is misleading him. He doesn't know. And also you are putting your marriage in danger and not keeping that bond between your partner.If your truly love your husband you would do the right thing. Catching feelings for another man while you are married is not fair to your husband.
2006-07-30 09:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Haze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him. how long have you been married? it's kind of odd meeting up with some guy friend without your husband being there and not knowing. but if it doesn't/wouldn't bother your husband, i suppose it's not a problem then.
2006-07-30 09:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by H.G. Swell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to jeopardize your marriage, just keep having a few drinks. He won't care about your marriage as long as he scores, and you may be getting feelings on your own.
2006-07-30 10:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him before you cross the line
2006-07-30 09:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Even friendships are built on honesty. Then stop seeing him. You husband does not deserve this.
2006-07-30 12:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your husband, but first, ask yourself why you have been having drinks with this other man and what it is about him that attracts you.
2006-07-30 10:30:44 · answer #11 · answered by aimeelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋