My son is four years old, and is disibled, now that his father and I are devoresed, and his dad has a new woman. he wont come see is son, are he say's he will and will not show up, what should I do, I cant see my son's heart broken any more. my son is very angery and they are thinking about putting him in the hospiteal. becasue of it,..
2006-07-30 09:47:59 · 8 answers · asked by cathryncsck 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's awful. If he can't be man enough to be a responsible father then I wouldn't even bother trying. Explain to your son that's it's not his fault the way his father is acting, and that he is a good person and doesn't deserve it. Let him know that there are other people that care about him, and even though it hurts.. he deserves better than that.
2006-07-30 09:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
What is the custody agreement, he cant put him in the hospital if you don't agree. And dont tell your son that daddys coming, that way if he doesnt show then he wont be hurt and if he does then its just a pleasant suprise. The best you can do is love him enough for the both of you and just let him know daddy loves him very much but is busy. And as he gets older he will see your ex for the man he really is.
2006-07-30 09:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has court ordered visitation, BRING YOUR SON TO HIM and drop him off for the weekend, per court order.
You should also (if you can) make overtures to the new stepmom, and discuss any special needs your son has with her as well. She can be your ally and help you and your ex co-parent your son.
I don't understand why a 4 year old would be angry, unless you are helping him to feel that way. But I can understand why a man who's divorced and remarried might not want to visit his kid in your home.
But be prepared for him to abandon your kid later on. My ex-brother-in-law doesn't visit his 24 year old developmentally disabled son any more. And he's never going to be independent. Ever.
2006-07-30 10:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are they? I wouldn't tell your son his father is coming but would try to surprise him. That way there is no disappointment when his father no-shows. Either his father doesn't care about his son enough to be there for him or there are other issues, neither of which is okay.
2006-07-30 10:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not going to be easy but your going to have to be Mother and Father to your beautiful son.I would not mention or bring up his fathers name in front of your boy.Your son might be sensing your anger for the father.It does not seem like he wants to be a father and later should you meet a nice man,he may want to adopt your boy and should not have any problems with him giving up his rights.This happens quite often in cases like this.If he does not want to be his father you can not force him. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 10:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy sounds like a total loser...
Stop telling your son his father is coming to visit - that way he can't be disappointed when he doesn't show.
Then go and file for total custody!
2006-07-30 09:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have your son talk to his father on the phone if that does not work then you have to tellhim everything that happen and he is not coming cause he has a new woman in his life. Good luck!
2006-07-30 09:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by casper077801@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't force his father to do anything. What you can do is be the most loving parent you can be.
2006-07-30 09:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by julielove327 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋