You see we beagn dating firhg t after prom I was 18 and we were crazy for each other. I made it clear that if we were to be together I wanted to be able to trust him. I wanted him to be honest with me I know honesty whenit comes to guys is a real pain. To my surprise he came out and told me that he ws writing to my ex best freind. They wer freinds for as long as I could remember. He asked me not to get mad because I knew that they were friends for a long time. And he even dedicated a song to me do you guys remember "please don't go girl" (new kids on the block). I still love that song, he even told me that he loved me and he said to me please don't leave me over this. I was so mad that I ended the relationship anyway. I regret it because I did still love him I just felt like he was keeping that from me what else coudl there be hidden. I was afraid that in the long he would reject me so I rejected him first. He came back looking for me when he was done serving in the army.
2006-07-30 09:44:18 · 7 answers · asked by friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When he came back he tought that I had left him for another guy(not true). I was dating but that was two years safte we broke up. He was blazing mad. He showed up were I used to work one day and just stood there. It was a really intense moment we shared and I knew right ther and then that he still loved me. I was just caught of gaurd by him showing up that I was a a loss or words. I regret not ever telling him how I felt even to this day because he passed away and now he'll never know the truth. To my own surprise I still have love for him ir is it quilt for not telling him.I need some advice because I seroiusly hurt for not telling him the truth and now I feel like it's going to haunt me for the rest of my life. I hope that I can get throught this. It's making me rethink the relationship that I'm in now. Help I need advice how can I get throught this?
2006-07-30 09:50:49 · update #1
Hun is normal to feel that way. Honestly I met my husband at 16 we parted at 17 and by 24 we divorced with 2 children. That was 14 years ago and hes my best friend now and i still love him. I can understand you saying you cant tell him now as hes moved on but you can. Hes in your heart hun and will not go away and he would already know now how you feel so dont fell bad. We all say and do things that are not right at times its part of being human. He will know and you will take it with you when its your turn too, but for now try and live your life to the full, hold your head high, and know you was normal and did nothing wrong .
2006-07-30 10:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by angie t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal to think back on old relationships and sometimes wish we could resurrect them. As we grow older, marry or have other relationships and the real world sometimes makes life hard, we then long for those easier days when we had no responsibilities, but school etc. Those were the sweet years.
And sometimes that was real love that we let pass us by.
Recently I met a man that I dated when I was only 17. I didn't even know him. He told me that he never forgot me. I know he wanted to start something, but I just liked him and have no desire to start a relationship. You need to do a lot of soul searching don't you? Best of luck.
2006-07-30 10:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what happened then? A very similar thing happened to me... To make a long story short, about seven years ago I moved in with a friend I'd known for fifteen years, and for about a year, we lived with her fiancee, his brother, and the two of us. After about a month, she admitted to me that she'd had a crush on me for seven years, and well, we ended up the way raging crushes do... After about a year of secrecy, sneaking around, and things that would have been adultery (I'm divorced, and she never married the guy we were living with) I broke it off, since it was just too hard to deal with. Plus, it was ruining other aspects of our lives-- she started drinking, and we found that we could no longer be honest with each other, since we had to lie to almost everyone else. So I left-- packed up my stuff, and though it hurt, got gone. Fast forward five years or so. I hadn't heard from her, and didn't know how to contact her, and it hurt. Then, one weekend, I get home from bar hopping with some friends, and guess whose voice is on my answering machine? Yep. And you know what? I called her back, and we talked, and we're still friends; that was two years ago, and we still communicate regularly. So, the short answer to your question is, yes, it's normal to have feelings about people; just don't expect them to be the same feelings you had when you were eighteen. Feelings change over time, since the people having those feelings change, and the people about whom they have those feelings change, as well.
2006-07-30 10:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by devlin_grunloh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of path it'll hassle you and that is traditional. Act like a civil grownup and there will have to be no quandary. One factor you SHOULD do if you are involved approximately her sitting to your mother's chair is ask for the chair and purchase your father a brand new one. If the furnishings hasn't even been moved, it is time for that. Time to begin existence once more. (and I'm now not seeking to sound harsh, it is not approximately taking out a reminiscence, however there should be room to make new ones)
2016-08-28 15:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal especially if there's never been any resolution to ending the relationship to begin with.
2006-07-30 10:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal - especially if you had a strong emotional connection! The fact you feel this way is proof of your feelings.
The question is, what do you do now?
2006-07-30 09:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal....You haven't been through enough to let it go so you want more than just to have been cut off so long ago
2006-07-30 09:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋