Im getting married and im 19. Im still going 2 collage even if i get married! But i dont know if i should get married..I love the man more than anything and he loves me but we cant deside if we should just wait or get married now...we have known each other for 5 years..(he was my bf in high skool)....i have a good job...i work at abercombie and im a designer...hes in law skool b/c hes going 2 be a lawyer! Should we get married?
2006-07-30 09:40:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cold feet comes with every big step that we make and marriage is a big step. talk with your parents about you future, you also need to talk with your boyfriend, share your doubts and hopes the basis of any good marriage is communication and if you can not start now, then maybe you should wait until you can,
2006-07-30 09:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Welll I think u should wait and see how things goes between you and ur bf ... Things DO change after you both go to College and starting to lead to many different interests and meeting new people on the road to success with ur andhis careers ... None can be promising that you will get married to him or someone else.. Again, if u married him now then the chances are the marriage will be alive or divorce.. again, u are young and have a bright future ahead of you ... Just wait a few years to see if the love is still the same as u are right now ..
It happened to me.. I am not married to my High school boyfiend.. I will be marrying to a guy whos the dream of my love and is an engineer.. So possibities are different for everyone.... very rare stayed together from High school ..
things do change over time and keep that in mind...
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2006-07-30 16:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wait about another 1-2 years. Stay engaged because from what you have said you guys love eachother so there is no need to break up but marriage is a serious commitment. You do not want to get married and have to get divorced. Wait and you two can make sure you are the perfect match and then get married. There is no rush you are young. Make sure you don't get pregnant either you don't need a baby in the mix of this! I wish you all the best.
2006-07-30 16:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're undecided at this time, maybe you should wait. On the other hand, most people question whether they should get married or not. It's a decision only you 2 can make. You have a lot of life to live yet and if you have been together since h.s., then you really haven't done a whole lot in the way of life yet. Whatever decision you make, please make sure you've looked at all the pros and cons. Remember too that if you've stayed together this long, then a little while longer shouldn't make much of a difference if you really are in love.
2006-07-30 16:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? if you love eacthother and and want to be together then why rush into marriage? Shouldn't you save that money for law school? Might as well wait and have more time for a honey moon, etc, and money for a nice wedding. Besides, you can be married with out "being married". Have a ceremony for yourselves, and exchange rings and vows. If you both believe it in your hearts then it will be so!
2006-07-30 16:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think you should wait because regardless of how long you've known each other, you're too young. College is a life-changing experience and you will grow and change a lot in that time. You need to make sure that once you've fully matured you feel the same way and have the same goals. If your love is true, it won't matter.
2006-07-30 16:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by misslabeled 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two really love each other you should wait a while. You both will change drastically within a few years. My suggestion is to wait I was married early and me and my X-wife change so much that we grew apart. She tells me that I'm not the same man she fell in love with. Be careful but you always have to follow your heart.
2006-07-30 16:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by colmustard2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should marry him, but after both of you are finished with school. I know it seems like a long wait but in the long run you would probably appreciate it. Plus, if you both love eachother now, then you will after you finish school. Rushing into marrige is only going to make things complicated at such a young age. I wish you luck.
2006-07-30 16:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by TheDude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to college, he's in law school. The stress created by these things alone is going to make things a bit crazy. Experience life for a while and let things go with the flow. Hold off for a few years on the marriage.
2006-07-30 16:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by jethrobodinebh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait tell your in your 20's, Thats what i think but its all up to you. If ya really dont have that much money then go to collage and finish then get married. If ya really love each other then ya can wait, but dont listen to us its all up to u 2.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 16:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by casper077801@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait till after you finish college. Not only because that would make college easier in ways, but also because if you can make it through the strains and hardships of college, then I think you both will prove your strong enough to be married. But I think you should definitely wait till after. Take care!
2006-07-30 17:06:27 · answer #11 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋