can depression be caused by a wife that constantly b#tches at you and never seems to be happy with anything?

Question

you do. i feel myself sinking badly into depression, progressively worse and i can't pinpoint anything but that as the culprit. i sort of feel like why bother trying in life because nothing can ever be good enough and whats the point of striving for a good life when it will always be brought down by this. is this a normal feeling? is this something that a lot of men deal with?

aquanas child sounds a lot like my wife.

are there decent women out there - women that are not like my wife or like aquanas child? women that will actually accept you for who you are and see your effort rather than criticize it?

Answer 1

maybe you two need to sit down and talk, and see if there's something really bothering the both of you and just need to air it out and go on. my husband and I were a little like this a few years ago...he would just sit in his chair like a lump and i would just get more and more frustrated with him, we finally discovered that he needed a hobby, something for HIM to focus on and do, besides the same old thing everyday, he started playing golf which has got him out of the house and exercising and enjoying himself, and now I've tried to pick up the hobby with him, it's something he and I do together and it brings us closer when he's trying to teach me his golf swings and whatever. My answer is to talk to your wife, as a wife myself, we don't know everything, we wish we did, that's why we b#tch at everything, because that is out only defense, or answer, to what we think is wrong. Plan a night out for just you two and start by asking is there's anything wrong with her, get her to open up and then you can fill in your feelings too and set time for yourselves apart, she can go do whatever she enjoys and you go do whatever you enjoy and then set some time for eachother together, there may not even be any particular reason why all this may be happening, just need to get out and enjoy eachother...

Answer 2

I am a wife of 7 years and I have Bi-polar 2. Yes, being ragged on so much can cause deppression. When some one tells you "Just talk to her" Don't listen Your wife probably suffers from a mental disease herselfe and it is only going to make it worse. This is how my husband dealt with it and it also helped me to. First he did sweet lil gestures like ran me bath water,Did the supper dishes,[Do the dishes right and wipe of the counters], he said sweet lil things like "I luber you" He made things very cute and it always brought a smile to my face.
next he would act like he had a problem figuring something out that was very simple and asked for my help than gave me a very sweet thank you baby with a kiss on my cheek.
Third, He would only do things I wanted to do. After a while I got to the point to where I felt guilty and started giving him the same treatment.
If any of these things don't work than that means she is not happy.Find out why and what is going on. Have someone else try to talk to her about it. But make sure she brings up the situation. or it's going to seem planned and things will turn even worse. I really hope this helps. Good luck and I will pray for things to get better.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I do understand how you could become depressed like that. My first husband wore me down into depression by telling me I was too old, too fat, and too ugly for him. (we were married 20 years) He found someone younger, thinner, and prettier. She treated him like crap for 8 years and I thought it was well deserved. I went to counseling and was put on an antidepressant.

Now I feel great about myself and my life. I could never have gotten through without the counseling and medication (don't need it any more).

Your feelings are normal. Lots of people go through depression. There is life after divorce, and there are people out there who will accept you as you are. Hang in there. You will get through this and be happy again. I didn't believe this when people said it to me, but it really does happen.

Answer 4

Maybe you should try listening to your wife, instead of saying she's bitching at you. try getting off your *** and do what she has asked you to do, take away her reason for bitching!!! You sound like my ex, he would cry and say that i bitched at him....wel i guess i did when he hadn't taken the trash out for two weeks, or spent the little money we had on liguor instead of diapers. Woman don't just ***** for no reason, get a life, and help out, you will both be much happier!


Thankyou for being so rude so that i could call you on it!

Your questions= " when my wife is riding me often she has her eyes closed. she is not the only woman that has done this with me?" , "women, do you think you would have more sex with your husband if he was in better shape, ex. had six pack abs","lifetime television is television for women, does this mean that the trash they show on this channel is?","what does it take for a woman to get wet? ","once a year, my friends and i get together at a motel for "poon pumping olympics". we hire a couple of escort".............and you wonder why your wife b*tches at you, LMAO. Thanks for proving my point there sunshine!

Answer 5

Absolutely, this can cause depression. A very close friend is going through this right now. The problem is amplified by the fact that her constant whining and complaining about everything makes him want a divorce, but he doesn't want to lose his kids...and this whole chain of thoughts is depressing.

I am trying to help him to see that he should focus on his happiness now and the happiness of his kids and try to shield them from her negativity as much as possible. He needs to understand that is wife's happiness is not up to him - it's up to her.

I don't have any brilliant solutions for you but I want you to know that you are definitely not alone.

Answer 6

Yes it can be caused by a hard to please person. You have red flags all over the place for depression! I know, I've been there. Please get some help, because the longer depression goes on, the harder it gets to treat. I don't know if a lot of men deal with this, but I know lots of women do. No, it's not normal, but there is help. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I have been married to my husband for 10 years this Aug. What I have learned is that respect is imperative! There are boundaries that you shouldn't cross especially with your mate. It sounds like she has crossed some and now the affects of it are demoralizing you. This is unhealthy for both of you. I would suggest counseling if you want to save your marriage. And I would also suggest counseling for yourself so you can rebuild your self-esteem. You are suppose to compliment each others lives! But also, consider what your wife is asking of you. If you totally believe you are doing what you can and should be, ask yourself if it is worth it to stay married. Good Luck to you!

Answer 8

Yes. Abuse causes depression. Divorce her and then get a piece of *** on the side. Your depression will disappear (hers is just beginning...hehehe). Women have a shelf life. Men do not. They typically find this out the hard way.

Answer 9

It's a man and woman thing hun! Seriously though if she is making you miserable and you have self doubt about yourself, then its her. That is not normal and you need to sit her down and have a conversation. You don't have to disclose everything you are feeling because she may choose to use it against you but see what she has to say and if her answers are not acceptable to you, then you know that you need to move on. Misery loves compnay but you need to get out if its taking a toll on your mental health. I wish you luck

Answer 10

It can certainly take its toll on you and really wear you down to a depression and misery.

Been there, My wifes post partum depression took it's hell out on both of us.