2006-07-30 09:26:51 · 31 answers · asked by John K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That depends on the individual and how much effort you put in to moving forward. Lots of people sit around and do nothing but think about how much they lost and what was, those people tend to get stuck there for years, sometimes forever.
It takes time, but time in itself doesn't fix anything, its what you do with the time that counts. If you spend that time doing nothing but thinking about what was yesterday that is how you will spend your tomorrows. You have to grieve, but give yourself a limit, after that push yourself forward, no matter how much you don't want to, keep busy doing things that make you happy, at first it will serve no real purpose except distracting your brain, but eventually you will find joy in them again.
Take care of yourself physically, make great meals just for you, don't start eating junk just because its just you eating it, read some great books, listen to great music, DANCE (nobody can be sad when they dance) even if its home by yourself, spend time with friends and family, volunteer in your community with people or dogs if you prefer. Do whatever does 'it' for you. Do the things you gave up for your relationship. Soon you will find yourself understanding what went wrong and ready to try again. Good luck, be patient with yourself, and remember it will get better!
2006-07-30 09:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't think the pain ever stops-its up to, how long ur gonna sit and wallow in the loss and how much u really love that person-how long the relationship was, the longer the relationship, I find the longer the hurt will be and the harder it is to get over that person.
But u gatta accept ur lose, pick urself up and move on-don't give them the satifaction of knowing they've caused u so much pain...Good luck and look after urself! There's someone for everyone most times they're 100% better than what we've had before. U'll meet someone and wonder where they've been all ur life!
2006-07-30 16:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will always be with you but as each day passes your emotions do change. Then something happens and you feel back to square one again but eventually the things that hurt you previously don't bother you as much. I don't know how long ago the person you loved left and the circumstances behind what happend but the best advise i could give is to take each day as it comes and allow yourself to feel the pain. Not only will you feel pain but anger to, let youself experience these emotions they are normal and essential. It's very hard and what ever you do DO NOT rush into another relationship you could end up getting hurt once more and that's not what you need.
My heart goes out to you and i wish you luck.
2006-07-30 18:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just hate it when people say.... Give it time!....
try to keep busy , it only papers over the cracks but it reduces the hours in the day when you are really low. A good indicator of when things are beginning to get better is when they are not the first thing you think about when you wake up... don't be afraid to be self indulgent, play all those sad songs and have a good cry... it is a good release...... I'm 3 months down the line, it's still hurts like mad but I'm going through a sort of 'numb' period now... inadvertently I kept a sort of diary... emails I'd never send stacked in my draft folder... reading them i can see i am getting better slowly!
2006-07-31 03:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult question because it's an individual thing dealing with loss. It has it's own slow process and you will know when you're ready to move on because you'll realise one day that it doesn't hurt as much anymore. Trust , it will happen, only very few ppl do not come to terms with it. It has to be faced and felt, and like being in a dark tunnel you will one day see a pin prick of light and find your way through.
2006-07-30 16:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain never goes away, some of us just learn to deal with it and cope with it, while continuing to live our lives. Pain reminds us that we are human, and that we have feelings. It will subside, but there is not set amount of time it will take, love acts that way sometimes. Sorry, for your loss. I've been there.
2006-07-30 16:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Suga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been wondering the same thing.....it's so hard. I've been going out with my girlfriends having tons of fun, staying busy. But it stills hurts inside. I go home at night and the pain is still there. I guess my answer to you and myself is, one day at a time.
It may take awhile but the pain will soon subside. Best wishes to you my friend.....
2006-07-30 16:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sara Lee 23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loved that person, then I think and believe that there will always be some pain there. You have to remember though that you will find someone else who is lucky to have you. That person you once loved will always stay in your heart, but you can get over it eventually.
2006-07-30 16:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by brianna l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never stop loving but the pain gets easier when you dont see that person.Break contact and keep your self amused and occupied
2006-07-30 16:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Hubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't you just learn 2 live with the pain
2006-07-30 16:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋