I know a girl that likes to be forced to do things during sex.She is consenual but being yelled at and tied up and forced into performing oral sex turns her on, as well as other things.This on the surface mildy turned me on, but she wants me to really force her and degrade her, what is this and why does she want it.I don't really like it.
2006-07-30 09:18:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
she needs a therapist or you need a new girlfriend.
2006-07-30 09:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people have those same tendencies. I think most of it stems from childhood guilt, or any number of deviations in the family upbringing. It's okay to go with her preferances as long as it doesn't turn into anything dangerous. Who knows, maybe if she gets enough treatment in that particular way, she will change her needs.
2006-07-30 18:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just play acting or role playing games. get a grip man and have some fun you insecure bastard. it's like you pretending to be a man.
and as far as that other answer up there about her being abused in the past,,, that's bullcrap its living out a fantasy. not abuse you simp. someone should beat you if you already haven't been beaten.
and mini...its order not a disorder. ever heard of a fetish?
2006-07-30 16:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tank Stillton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it worries you, it could be a sign of trauma in the girl's childhood. My ex was really into that sort of thing and I found out that she had been abused when she was a kid. Sometimes that stuff is normal and sometimes the girl can only feel loved through abuse.
2006-07-30 16:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Peakles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes to be dominated, but if thats not what your comfortable with you need to be honest with her about it....she may like this because of other experiences she has had or something else in her past made her the way she is sexually...if you care about her you may want to find out before she ends up with someone who will seriously hurt her.
2006-07-30 16:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a masichist (the M in S&M) on your hands. She enjoys pain a being abused, probably because of some event in her past. If it makes you uncofortable, you should tell her. Leather isn't for everybody.
2006-07-30 16:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by DonSoze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like sexual preferences to me. It makes her hot to be degraded & abused. & for you, not so much so. Maybe this isn't the girl you should be with if it's not your thing. Or maybe you should tell her if she wants to do these things with you, you want to keep it toned down because it's more her thing than yours. Maybe you could compromise.
2006-07-30 16:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Lady Beth*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called SMBD (Sado-Masochism Bondage), some people need or enjoy rough sex, if you don't enjoy it, you need to talk to your partner, preferably when you're not having sex, and tell them that you don't enjoy it, there may be some middle road that the two of you can agree to
2006-07-30 16:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by raburtz2@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can see yourself with this girl for the rest of your life, get away from her. If you just want to have fun, go with it for the experience. Learn from her - maybe she'll teach you interesting things?!
2006-07-30 16:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old r u?? Do u have a girl friend u need to get back to me so that i can tell u
2006-07-30 16:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie Pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sexual disorder or malfunction like sado-masochism. A childhood event or events caused it.
You will always have to do it and it will escalate. If you do not like it leave her now!
2006-07-30 16:24:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋