It was to warn about the effects of drink driving (I was just back from a party but wasn't driving, I am pretty adamant about that).. there was this picture of a gorgeous girl who was horrifically burned in a car accident when a drunk driver smashed into them. Now I can't get the image out of my mind and feel physically sick every time I get in the car. I haven't been driving since I saw it and even as a passenger I sweat and feel sick on a journey longer than about 5 minutes. I feel so terrified something like that could happen to me and so sorry for the poor girl... can anyone give me tips to get over this please???
2006-07-30 08:53:22 · 15 answers · asked by Rox 4 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
I have sort of had the same experience as beforwe i went past a car crash and for ages after i couldnt get in the car and as you said started panicking,etc i found the best thing i did is drive for a 2 minutes journey then the next day i did 3 minutes and very gradually i built it up but til then i went around on buses as i figured if i sat in the middle of the bus if it crash it would hit the back or front not where i was and just keeping focused on this helped me. I know this might not help you but hopefully it will, if it doesnt you could always try a consellor as they may be able to help you through it
2006-07-30 08:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand how traumatic that must have been for you and I also had to see those horrific pictures by e-mail (http://www.helpjacqui.com) a few years back (which are at her website because she's a real person who was about 20 when a drunk 18-year old hit her) but I must say that the point of all that is: never get in the car with someone who's been drinking, even if YOU don't drink and drive. It's a sad story and a lot of persons die from car wrecks with such serious injuries, and I have to say, when I read your question, since I still after all these years, can't get those photos out of my mind, I just KNEW what you'd seen. But I do know the Panic attacks your having are not uncommon from seeing all that trauma. Believe me, it's a nightmare to see what happened to her. But, you can take heart in knowing that you are do NOT drink and drive, you don't get in the car with someone who does, and you just have to go out there, drive carefully, AND defensively if needed, but have fun. Be thankful that unlike her, you can go out and enjoy your life to the fullest extent possible.
2006-07-30 09:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this person as well, and I can see why you would feel this way, your dad probably didnt mean to scare you this badly, just try to warn you how dangerous irresponsible behaviour can be, but you have to take it in context, this type or severity of injury is not common, all you can do in life is be as careful as you can, think ahead, and stop worrying, there are things you cant avoid, things that will happen you cant get away from, but all you can do is deal with them as and when they happen, its no good bieng scared all the time, that WILL ruin your life, much more than an accident that probably will never happen, be brave, face what life sends you, and take what its got to offer, just live it!!
2006-07-30 11:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Dad probably thought he would do this to show you horrors of drink driving and now he's got u worried about cars in general.
Just get back out driving go at quiet times and gain your confidence back after a few weeks the image wont be always thought of when you are in a car.
2006-07-30 09:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the girl you saw was probably an actress. Im not saying that that kinda injury doesnt occur, it can do. You are a careful driver and can only do your best. Dont worry, you have to live your life. The chances of the same thing happening to you are remote.
Tell your dad how he has made you feel and how it has bothered you so much. Try and move on it was an actress.
2006-07-30 08:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by loopy lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its horrifying because you are thinking about it happening to yourself and that's making you afraid of getting in a car, try to remember that you cant shut yourself away or stop enjoying your life and doing normal things.
Don't try and push it from your mind, accept it, let it come in and ask yourself, "why does this affect me so much"? rationalize it by saying to yourself, OK, this is a real possibility, but I will do the things that are within my power to prevent it, (like not drink driving yourself or getting in a car with a drunk driver) I cannot influence the actions of others but I will not worry about it all the time.
Acclimatise yourself to being in a car, start off with short drives and gradually build up to longer ones.
I am absolutely terrified of car crashes, I have no idea why but I am. I just try not to let it affect me and though I refuse to even learn to drive, I can travel in a car, sometimes I am still scared but it's a case of managing your fears, accept them and don't ignore them.
2006-07-30 09:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by debz p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your father did the right thing - so many young people get maimed or
killed by not thinking ahead. Try to remember that a car is a lethal weapon and get back in and drive, you will always have these thoughts in the back of your mind, which in a way is a good thing, just try to build on the experience
and do your best.
2006-07-30 09:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult, I know. Just try to relax around cars, and think positive. Think ahead before getting in a car, plan the route, so you know where any difficult areas are to drive in. Even better, you could walk and save the environment!!!
2006-07-30 08:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please start by going to your dad. He seems caring, from what little you shared. If not, do you have access to your school phychologist? Run this by them. Have you pinpointed WHAT part of this traumatic experience hits a raw nerve for you? I understand how the answer could be "The whole thing!". Try processing this in writing. Just type/scribble away...words, paragraphs, pictures, pictures AND words. You'll start to understand more about yourself and your experience, and then be able to articulate these insights to a caring adult.
2006-07-30 09:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by sunday siren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything can happen to anybody. Some times dads go over the
top you still have to live your life to the full.
Better to live one day as a lion than a lifetime as a lamb
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-30 09:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by chieriog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋