When a single mother raises her child and get's welfare, how much does the government pay per child? Also, shouldn't child support be equal to what the government would pay per child? In many cases the man ends up paying way too much for child support, because he makes a lot of money. The child would have had a good life with the father financially so the amount of child support would have to match to the fathers income. That's bull, if that's the case, then why not give the father custody in the first place, a lot of dads end up being dead beat dads not because they won't pay, but they pay way too much and are broke all the time. Honestly, when a person pays child support and the parent that has the child lives a better life off child support than the parent paying child support, there's a problem here. Any comments?
2006-07-30 08:47:35 · 7 answers · asked by Enterrador 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I completely agree with ya man. I pay over 1/3 of my total earned income towards child support for my two children. In addition to direct child support payments, I am also responsible for all medical insurance, 50% of any additional medical costs, 50% of their school supplies/needs, and when the time comes 1/3 of post-high school education costs. This does not include anything I spend when I have my kids on their weekly overnight visits.
Do not get me wrong, I love my children and I am not advocating that father's should not be held responsible for supporting their children - just that the amount of support that is set by the courts seems to be unfairly biased towards the woman. I say this because I also know fathers that have been given custody of their children after a divorce, and the support they receive is minimal compared to what he would have to had to pay had custody been given to his ex-wife.
2006-07-30 09:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount that the govt. will pay per child is different per state.
As far as the father being only as responsible as the state in terms of the amount, that's just not cool. the state is going to pay the bare minimum. and the state didn't impregnate her. if the dad has bank, he should pay up.
what would be better is if the men and women involved would put differences aside and not use the children as a means of getting back at one another. Children need financial support, bu they also need parents who totally love them and would do anything for them. My baby's daddy and I are not together. When they lived with me, he didn't pay much support and i was on welfare. But he spend time With them. Then he got on his feet financially and now he has them. I got a chance to get my life together financially and i don't pay child support, but i pay for ALL of my kids needs including clothes, school expenses, and all the things that they want- games, trips etc. My ex and I made a deal that i would not give him money directly, just provide for them.
We have never had to go to court and they kids are doing well. Most important thing is that they know that BOTH of us will do our best to bet here for them.
No petty fights over money...no kid thinking that money is more important than them. the last thing a kid needs is to feel that they are less important than money.
2006-07-30 08:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you make a baby you are required to pay for the child's upbringing. finances are not a reason for deciding the custodial parent. many people make fantastic parents, but do not have the earning potential of the non-custodial parent. child support isn't paid to support the custodial parent, it is paid to support the child. any father or mother paying support that thinks otherwise is a fool.
certainly, sometimes the custodial parent is left without much money to survive on, but that didn't have to be. the parents could remain together to raise the children together. when a person choses to leave his or her family, he/she cannot expect to continue living life without paying a consequence. who cares if the non-custodial parent has enough money to live life big. all that matters is that the child/children are taken care of and are happy.
once you make a baby, you don't matter anymore. all that matters is the child.
2006-07-30 09:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because the one with the child should have a better life. and if a man can pay enough cause his job permits it why complain cause its helping ur kid . are you just a father that doesn't wanna pay for your kid, most guys just don't wanna pay for their kids they would rather leave and not look back , why do you think child support enforcement was put into place , cause fathers left the mothers and kids to fend for themselves while they lived it up
2006-07-30 09:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no easy answers to this... I feel your pain.
I am in the same situation... broke and struggling. She lives the high life and sits on her butt all day in an air conditioned new house while I put my blood, sweat, and tears into my work in over 100 degree weather almost every day, just barely surviving, to come home to an empty home in the ghetto... I feel your pain, Brother.
2006-07-30 08:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus H. Zeitgeist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully can't answer that question since my ex pays nothing.
2006-07-30 08:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by rutchy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be based on the sperm donors income.
2006-07-30 08:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋