HELP ! My husband Treats Me Like A Child?

Question

My Husband use to be the kindest person I have ever met until recently...he is not cheating on me I know that for a fact1 The problem ishe thinks he is right ALL the time accuses me of not telling him things,when I do ! He tunes me out..says I talk to much ...I like to talk ...he is 9 yrs younger than me and there are things I do know and he does;nt....he treats me like a kud..I stay in my rm watch my own tv because he will not share in the living room...I really think yhat he hates me at times but other times he is his self..should I leave him ? I am Lonely ,Bored and at my wits end..we have no kids together ..I have 2 17 and 18 that do not live with us...so thats not the issue!

Answer 1

Sometimes when we like to talk we can talk to much and that will tune someone out, so make sure it is something that needs to be talked about with him. If he treats you like a child do the same to him and see how he likes it. Once the two of you are not sharing and being together in the same rooms the marriage has went down a lot. If you two can't share the same thing something is wrong and you need to find out what it is that he wants out of this marriage. He may not want to share his life anymore and when a man feels that way it is usually because the love has gone from the marriage and he doesn't want to be in it anymore. Talk with him about what is bothering you and leave it at that and allow him to give you an answer before you start talking again and if he doesn't that is all you can do.

Answer 2

Here is a suggestion for you to consider. Make a nice meal for both of you tonight (or when convenient) and make sure the TV is off. Have a quiet conversation without too much of the chatter. (I talk a lot, too) When dinner is finished tell him you would like to have a serious discussion and please don't let your voice raise or let it escalate into a fight. Tell him in calm language how this situation makes you feel. Explain WITHOUT PLACING BLAME that you are feeling insecure because of this. Let him know that you want to make the marriage work. Listen to what he has to say and really consider his remarks. You may want to ask him about counseling, and if he would go with you.

Answer 3

Well, if you are in doubt, seek counselling. But first, both of you seek one you can see together. Aftewr the session, DO not (you or your husband) seek that same counselor seperately. If you do either one of you would feel ganged upon. Beliieve me that is what I went through. Good Luck

Answer 4

I think that if he's not willing to comunicate with you, then whats the sense in being in this relationship. marriage is about compromise, communication is vital for a relationship. if hes not willing to communicate verbally write him a letter stating how you feel. if still nothing dump the grump.... good luck

Answer 5

Seems to me that he's made is wishes known LOUD and CLEAR. You are 9 years older then he is...He wants out...he wants new...leave and move on with your life.

Answer 6

Seek marriage counseling. It really helps.

Answer 7

so the queston should be "why do YOU allow him" to treat you like a chuild. you need to sit and talk to your dear hubby and tell him what you think and what ever happens happens.

Answer 8

If he will not understand that you feel you both need to get into therapy, then you have a choice -- stay, or get out.....

Answer 9

I would try to talk to him and if he doesn't listen,than leave.He probably does all that b/c he knows you'll put up with it,he's not taking you seriously.

Answer 10

well, you need a talk... serious conversation about your life. tell him that this treating pisses you off and you'd like him to change himself in this way... good luck.