I have a friend that has had a special someone come back into her life. A few days ago she mentioned to me that she has feelings for him and likewise. They are both married. If there was an opportunity, should this guy and this girl hook up? He has already said to her that if his marriage doesn't work out he is coming for her. I need some other opinions besides my own.
2006-07-30 08:36:02 · 7 answers · asked by SAMMIE K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There marriages have nothing to do with their friendships. Thet are both very happy. It's the what if, that they wonder about.
2006-07-30 09:20:14 · update #1
its very posible. love works in strange ways. either those two people were meant to be together or not.
2006-07-30 08:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by lollypop 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They need to be concentrating on their own marriages instead of trying to create a whole new relationship. How in the world could their marriages survive if both of them are wanting to be with other people? Marriage requires 100%, anything less and it's going to be hell.
Tell her to leave this guy alone and let him work out his problems with his wife. Running to someone else from a troubled marriage might seem like a good thing to do - but those problems are just going to resurface in the new relationship at some point. Having an affair isn't the answer, nor is having a "backup" relationship if you feel your marriage is doomed.
2006-07-30 15:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a serious question with serious consequences. I know you want to help, but the wrong answer could be disasterous to your friendship and her marriage. The only person who can decide what to do next is her. If it's her decision and things don't work out, she has no one to blame but herself. The best advice you can give is to tell her the same thing. She needs to examine her life now as it is and decide if she'll be happier elsewhere. Dear Abby put it best when she said "Ask yourself, would you be better of with him or without him?"
2006-07-30 15:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have put themselves in a very dangerous situation. If the friendship is not enough then they need to stop seeing and talking to each other and they should never be alone together. If they put as much time into their marriages as they put into "their relationship" their marriages might be much happier and healthier.
2006-07-30 15:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by summer sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "friend" needs to look at this from a different angle. Is your friend willing to risk their marriage to be with someone that wasn't giving all they had to the one that they are with? Is your "friend" willing to hurt someone they said to love, honor and cherish till death do us part?
Think it thru long and hard before you make a choice because if your "friend" burns a bridge your "friend" probably won't be able to go back.
2006-07-30 15:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by lopezjri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy needs a door mat. So that every time he wipes his feet on one, he finds another to keep his feet dirt free. WAKE UPPP!!!
2006-07-30 15:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by cre8or 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a recipe for disaster.
2006-07-30 15:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Fightingpit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋