my husband walked out again . This time i saw a man nd went for it .He has very promising future but i'm scared i've been through so much with my husband i want to move on what do i do please help i've been married three years and its been rough the whole time i thought i could help him with his drinking if he didnt drink we probably could last but drinking is first in his life not me
2006-07-30 08:30:06 · 17 answers · asked by lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to get over your husband and move one. Make sure that you take it slow with the other guy and let him know why. If your husband did not change while you were married he will never change. You should be everything to him and not his drinking.
2006-07-30 08:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be very nice and pack all of his things for him. Then give him 24 hours to come and get them before you put them on the curb. Too bad you can't do that legally!
1) Husband needs help with his drinking. Since he doesn't sound like he will go, you need to go to Al-anon meetings. You have to understand what happened and what your part was in his drinking.
2) I would suggest counseling for you beyond the Al-anon. Find out what went wrong in the marriage (besides drinking) and how you can spot it in the future. I found a church that had a program for divorced people and joined a support group there. They had trained counselors who guided group discussion. It helped a lot.
3) It is too soon for you to get into a relationship. You have not healed from your marriage and will only make the same mistakes again. Wait until you have gotten yourself ready before you commit to someone else.
4) You must get a lawyer to help you with the legal part of the divorce.
2006-07-30 08:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you do no longer, you will look like much less of a individual. although, it will be the load of the husband stealer to return meet you on your grounds so your ex-husband, for the sake of the 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous who will later comprehend what passed off, ought to set up the assembly. i recognize you're conscious that for the duration of their relationship you weren't in basic terms a sufferer yet you have been additionally a issue of communication between the two and in all probability to no longer your want. there's a clarification why he did it no count if it extremely is a valid reason or no longer, so this lady probably has an opinion of you it extremely is fake. make constructive once you meet you're a dignified individual, yet be your self. attempting to be somebody else won't artwork, she already is conscious too lots.
2016-12-14 16:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by bojerski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let an abusive jerk ruin your life. Fear is natural at this stage of life for you. But whatever you do, DONT take what has happened to you into a new relationship. Decide to accept your new man for who he is and forget what your husband did. No man likes to deal with the ghosts of a past husband or lover. Forget him now and move on. Let anyone new in your life be themselves and never compare them with your husband.
2006-07-30 08:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is your question? What do you do??? You divorce him, and get on with your life -- If you aren't educated, you go back to school, so that you can earn a great wage. You learn to take care of yourself financially, and at least you didn't say you had had a bunch of kids with this guy, because there is about nothing worse than being a single mom.......and if you are black, there is nothing worse than being a black single mom... men just don't want to take care of other men's children, and that is time 3 with black men......
2006-07-30 09:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your own words rough 3 years. Stop your marriage. 3 years and your not happy. Marriage should not be what you have.
The longer you stay in it the harder it will be to end. Don't ruin your life being married to some one that does not love you. You will be happier in the long run.
2006-07-30 09:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry to hear that your huband has left. but from what you said,you were not the love of his life! and when you get married you are to be the love of each others lives. i know that you would love for him to change but it will not happen untill he is ready!!! and as much as you love him that is not enough!!! people must want to change,and he does not want to!!! it will be very hard but please for your sake move on!!! life can be a wonderful thing if you make it that way. you must take care of yourself for right now!!! think about what you want for your life; down to the last detail and make it happenn!!!!
2006-07-30 08:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by kel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life and let your husband go on. Life too short to be miserable. Good Luck.
2006-07-30 08:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See it as better someone else than you, because I know if he is drinking he is hitting on you that's a must that comes along with a drunk.
Better safe than sorry!!!!!!!
2006-07-30 13:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't girls play video games or like rap?
2017-03-30 11:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋