i wish he would just saw our differences 3 years ago., would of been much easier.
2006-07-30 08:21:59 · 20 answers · asked by Tellie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing you can do. Just move on.
2006-07-30 08:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices here, and this will require some serious honesty with yourself. Is your boyfriend right? ARE you too different for each other? Do you share few interests? Are your work ethics different? Are your personal habits incompatible? Are your sex drives incompatible? Are your personal/political/spiritual beliefs at odds with his? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then your boyfriend is right and you will both be happier with someone else. I know it's scary to end a relationship, but you'll ultimately be better off.
The other possibility is that you've become clingy and dependent. The fact that you're this scared of being single again may attest to that. If that's the case, you may be able to salvage the relationship by backing off a little, (don't call him, let him call you, don't automatically agree with everything he says, make plans with your friends rather than him, etc.). I preface this by saying it's a long shot at this point, but worth a try only if you really feel you're "meant to be."
2006-07-30 15:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes relationships are hard and not always easy. If you love each other than you will get through this. You two need to talk about things and try to find some solution as there will always be differences in a relationship. If he loves you he will talk to you and listen to you. Tell him how much you love him. Make sure he knows it. If in the end he still wants out of the relationship than moving on may be the only thing you can do.
2006-07-30 15:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by cutegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. Read my most recent question and you'll see. Some of the answers people gave are somewhat helpful. My boyfriend obviously doesn't want to be with me anymore. He keeps telling me to leave, he's said it about twenty times in the last month. He says he doesn't like who I am anymore, but I haven't changed at all. I don't understand why he ever did, then. He told me yesterday that he has to force himself to have sex with me, but I am a very attractive lady (that shouldn't even matter anyway). He also said that he's tired of me leaving my **** around everywhere and made a swooping gesture with his hand, but when I looked around the room all my stuff was put neatly away and all I could see was his stuff laying around. When I mentioned this, he blamed his disorganization on me. I can take a hint. I'm getting my own place and getting the hell out of here!
2006-07-30 15:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've used that excuse when I was either too chicken to tell her I was or wanted to have sex with someone else. Also when I was just tired of being around the same person all of the time for a long time (like 3 years) but there wasn't really any specific thing she did to cause it.
In either case, if you absolutely want any chance of keeping him, get over it and let him go for a bit. Give him his space. Don't be the annoying stalker ex girlfriend. Let him be the one to call you back. If you were good for him, he will call you back. If you try to force him to stay with you through guilt, or play the stupid jealousy games by letting him see you with other guys, you're done.
2006-07-30 15:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ajosh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have to go through this. Are you guys young? My first boyfriend and I were 16 when we got together. We were together for 7 years. We were just too young. We grew up and grew apart. We are still friends though. Friends for 16 years. has your relationship been rocky lately? Maybe there is something else going on. If he is insistent, let him go. Maybe their is something about you that bothers him and you guys can talk about it. if he doesn't want to talk, walk away. If you don't you will end up getting hurt even more. beginnings are scary and endings are usually sad. It is whats in the middle that counts. Don't regret no matter what. grow and move on. Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 15:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going throuogh the same thing , that where both two differnt people and we have grown apart. After 7 years of being together, yeah where both changing. If you both love each other and give each other some time apart and lt him come to you. Tell him how yoou feel and leave it at that. He'll come around .Good luck
2006-07-30 15:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he loves you too ver much. He's probubly saying you both are different because he's annoyed or mad about something. Just give him time and he will come running back to you. Three years is too long for him to leave you cold heartedly. In my opinion, this is all an act your boyfriend is playing.
2006-07-30 15:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by michael J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps just an excuse to dump you. Obviously, you are not meeting his needs at this time. Broken hearts are a part of life. Don't waste any time on this.....you need to move on. Don't listen to people who tell you "if you just talk to him"......forget it.....when it is over, it is over. You cannot talk someone it loving you. In the future, make better choices......now stop whining and move on!
2006-07-30 15:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, but theres nothing you can do about it now. you can try talking to him..or use the old line "opposites attract". just explain to him that you don't care about the differences because you love him. and he should love you for who you are. good luck:)
2006-07-30 15:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a young girl. You'll find a real man later on.
2006-07-30 15:24:33 · answer #11 · answered by Jaime L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋