Why is it some people can't take a compliment?

Answer 1

I think it is because there is so much cynicism (please God, let that word be in spell-check) in the world today, that a true compliment seems like bait for a good laugh, or something. It seems if anybody hears something complimentary, they always pause and instead of a "thank you" they are just waiting for a follow up joke, or something negative.

Answer 2

Usually many people do not know how to react to a compliment. so they get embarassed when a compliment is given to them suddenly, particularly when they didn't expect one. To cover their uneasiness, they speak something or do something which projects their nature as if they do not like compliments. They give a remark in return which lefts u with a feeling that why did I give compliment to this person?

On the other side, most of the times people really do not hate compliments. Infact, majority of the people like comliments whether they accept or not. You give a honest compliment, even the most crooked person becomes normal, if not good. but again, an insincere flattery is different, that would create a negative response.

When people think that your compliment is sincere, they would definately love it. If it sounds as flattery, they never. So, give honest praise and compliment and not flattery.
People always like them whether they acknowledge or not.

It was a good thought provoking question to answer here after long time ! hope u like the sincere compliment :-)
Good luck. Bye

Answer 3

You'd need to provide a bit more detail. Usually, the case is that someone takes a compliment only partially or very reluctantly. People tend not to like to be perceived as interested in their self-concerns only. They might feel embarrassed by being put "on the spotlight" by someone else's compliments because the complimented are sort of singled out by the complimenters. Ultimately, I believe, the complimented DO appreciate knowing what they're worth to someone else but can't bring themselves to give outward signs of feeling that way. Of course, if someone loves your opinion of them but dislikes YOU, then they might not even want to acknowledge the validity of your compliments on those grounds alone. To summarize, it's all about the ego and how much people want or not to let it shine. But if you carefully think about it, even not wanting to be perceived as special can be considered to be a way for someone to aggrandize their ego!

Answer 4

we are brought up to be humble.

and to accept a compliment is tantamount to bragging or showing off. It is basically saying, "yes, you're right!" I am good! So we try to avoid that by making light or completely ignoring the compliment.

We do love getting compliments though (the sincere ones anyway). And when we don't get it we become sulky.

But you will stop getting compliments if you do not learn how to accept them gracefully.

Just say, "THANK YOU"

that's all there is to it.

Thank you, that was a very nice thing to say.

Answer 5

Depends. Some women are so self-involved that if you say they have a nice ***, but they've spent the whole year thinking their *** is flabby, they ain't going to believe what you're saying. And some women, (like me) get complimented too much to the point that hearing any more compliments just drives us over the edge. I mean, I know people like certain aspects of me, but it's like....is that all they can think about talking about?? Anything more intelligent than complimenting my eyes? Heh.

Answer 6

I always get a guilty feeling when I get complimented. I don't know why. Maybe its my low self esteem. It's really hard to shake the feeling too.

I've learned to just be neutral when I get compliments instead of reacting in a negative way, like I use to.

Answer 7

Either they consider the compliment superficial and fake, and they don't believe it, or they are just... shy?

Answer 8

Because they were not raised to do anything or be anything for appreciation. They do what they do for themselves, not for others.