Why do some men (not all) not help more with childcare and housework?

Question

A study recently suggested that women still on average (there are obviously exceptions) do 19 hours more work - when taking into consideration the monotonous, thankless tasks such as housework or the challenging job of childcare into consideration compared to her male partner.

Women who work part-time especially over compensate.. they share the breadwinning but do not it seems in many (not all) cases have this reciprocated in the home.

Unpaid labour in general is not given much regard by a patriarchal society in which money and wage labour is paramount yet this unpaid work is essential for society to survive.

Incidentally some women too are lazy at home and some men are exceptional - lol - have to say that so people realise the focus of this Q is about this particular statistic NOT in general.. otherwise all ya get it TJ's (thread jacks..)

We're hunters - lmao - if it were not for the reliable and continous sources of food done by female gatherers then you hunters would not survive! Women's contribution to mothering whilst you lot are off hunting is what has helped the species survive.. hunting is an irregular source of food and i'd be interested in specific references you have to say women/children were entirely dependent on males in pre-historic times.. that is a myth.

John S - you are misinformed.. it was only with the industrial revolution and the seperation of work/home life that this distinction was made. Women morphed into dependant housewives and men breadwinners..Before that textiles and agriculture demanded a familial contribution done in or near the family home - it was less defined..

M - lol - I KNOW it is excruatiatingly boring - it is tedious, thankless, montononous! Hence the saying - be wary of any task a man readily gives up for a woman.. just wondered do you think we actually enjoy it? It is just as boring for us hence why it should be more equally shared...

Answer 1

Majority of men are under the impression that the household works and children are basically the responsibilities of women.
The reasons are many like,

1. On basis of Work :
Men feel that they are working hard to earn a living for the family. so, they expect the wife to do all the work at home [ incase of unemployed women]. when they finish their work and come from office, they think that they did their duty. Home and children are the duties of his wife. so, they never bother to help.

2. Superiority complex :
Many men think that man is more powerful and capable than woman. They feel that men are born to be served and respected by woman. They think that they are here to do some manly or hard works. such people do not do any household work. They strongly believe that its not their duty, it belongs to their wife.

3. Inferiority complex :
Some men are dominated by women or they are under the influence of women directly or indirectly. They are afraid of their position in the family or society. They feel that their value and prestige may further go down if they involve in household works, which they think belongs to women. They are afraid that it would further decrease their value and position of authority and so on. So, they too never indulge in such works.

4. Laziness or irresponsibilty :
Some men are quite lazy and are also irresponsible towards their duty at home. They do not want to do any work. they feel that home is a place to eat and sleep without paying any money.
They never do any work at home.

Reasons may be many, but over all, it comes to lack of understanding, lack of responsibility and lack of positive attitude. if more men learn these things like taking up responsibility at home also by proper understanding and patience, we would find a better world and more happy families around us.

Answer 2

Attitudes are changing in the UK anyway. the days when men worked hard in factories and then spent most of the rest of the time in the pub - while the wife looked after the home and children are over. men don't generally speaking have to work so hard. But many lack the skills do do the jobs traditionally done by women and so still prefer to do the DIY and gardening around the home. But many more men are doing the cooking, many actually enjoy spending time with children. It started with the guys doing barbecues and now men often cook and often better than the women. Women have a different role, coping with work and domestic work and child care. But they have a host of appliances to help them that their grandmothers wouldn't know how to switch on! Personally, I'm single and live alone and I've looked after children - not my own - I like to give them back! But some household tasks I try to get a woman to do - even after nearly two years of living alone. I think men would design things differently, if they did more around the home. I have a great way of keeping my home clean - don't mess it up! I know that is impossible with children though. I will have someone clean my house for me next week - and her children will mess it up - in a sort of constant struggle. Fortunately, I have a way with children that many women don't - I scare the **** out of them! lol

Answer 3

I think it depends how they were brought up. I work part time, but still have to go in four days a week and often bring work home. We have two children at primary school. I find I do most of the childcare and housework during the week because my husband leaves the house at 7.30am and doesn't return until 6.30pm. However, he willingly changes beds, hangs out washing, vacuums and does a lot with the kids at weekends and days off. And I don't touch the garden. That's all his! It helps if you are a team, but invariably at different times, one partner will feel aggrieved that they are more put upon than the other. Most marital disharmony concerns division of labour these days.

Answer 4

existence is supply and take. I do a little issues that i'm maximum suitable at and my significant different does what he's maximum suitable at. we don't shop score. yet i could by no ability do for a guy what he's able to doing for himself whilst relationship. Marriage is a distinctive undertaking than in basic terms being around a guy. I do my own bathing room; significant different does his. His is a large number lots of the time, yet he must be in it, no longer me. we don't proportion a bathing room with the aid of fact we've 2, and that i do no longer care to freshen up his messes; works effective for us. yet we proportion issues like housekeeping and gardenwork and procuring. each and each couple has to artwork on their own formulation. yet whilst it ability looking after a guy's desires, like a mommy, forget approximately that. As to childcare, those are wonderful people who belong to 2 people, yet whilst one is likewise appearing childlike, i could by no ability use the youngster as a weapon. with the aid of then the relationship is over besides, after which you return to a determination in case you reside or go away. however the youngsters are no longer pawns. Whoever can meet their desires, ought to, or bypass to penal complex. this is the regulation. Childcare isn't a pawn in 2 people's lives. Why have babies in the event that they're for use as the thank you to get at one yet another. combat over some thing else. do no longer make his lunch, or despite. yet go away the childcare out of the formulation. Why are you with this guy in case you resent him plenty.???

Answer 5

If both partners have daily jobs, then both have to share the responsibility of chores at home. 95% of the doctors in Russia are women.
Yet, the men expect them to cook and clean the house. Well, we're not Russians. Hopefully we are more enlightened. A working woman should not pick up for a man. If she does, he'll be lazy and let her do it. Let him clean up his own mess or forget the joint bank account.

Answer 6

Because women are superior to men !!!!!! or so they keep telling themselves. That is why they (apparently) do 19 more hours work per week. ( stats by womens own no doubt ).
As a hard working husband and father who can cook clean and parent equally as well as any female I say stop reading useless reports and do the washing up.

Answer 7

Well i have to be honest here and admit that i don't cook or irpn at all ..But i do all the hoovering,dusting make the beds etc and always help with the washing up..I dont think it should all be down to the female of the house to do all the work,,

Answer 8

lol 99gail Ha Ha i love that answer!

Seriously: I hate to admit I am the same way. Women seem to be more motivated to do work to improve living conditions in the home.
Men are more motivated to work outside the home.
ie many women want their husband to be with them "in" the house or "at home" Women seem to be more inclined to be "nested" in their life.
Men want to "fly" and experience adventure, or work quietly alone. I wish I could explain it better. Housework is excruciatingly boring.

Answer 9

There are tons of single mothers with full custody or the majority of custody. These mothers usually have a job to support themselves and their child.

Answer 10

don't expect men to change into something they haven't been for millions of years, its only in the last thirty years or so that men have been doing there share of those things but, its only in the same time that women have changed there ways to.