is it considered cheating if you write about it and your spouse finds your diary?

Question

i never actually did it it was just stuff i wrote when i was mad at him

Answer 1

would you consider writing about a fantasy to someone on the internet to be cheating?

would you consider it differently if it was your spouse writing it to someone else on the internet?

So tell me... is writing about cheating still cheating?

Answer 2

Diaries are for deep personal feelings and if you are writing about cheating, then it's on your mind. Therefore, although writing is not actual cheating, just you emotionally thinking about it is and you aren't being there 100% emotionally either - that's robbing your spouse of having all of you. As for your spouse, they should never have read your diary, but be glad they did before you really did go ahead and cheat.

Answer 3

If you wrote about you actually having an affair and it is true then it was cheating before you wrote it and your spouse found it. If you are writing it as a story and it never actually occurred then it is just a fantasy and not cheating.

Answer 4

If you don't physically have contact with someone, it would be difficult for it to be called cheating. It would be a fantasy about cheating. Though you could be cheating your husband out of feelings that were meant or reserved for him, if you started thinking about someone else as a lover, especially if your heart and emotions were involved with another person.

If you wrote it down as if you had done it, I would imagine he'd think you did, though. Why write something like that unless it happened? Unless of course, you knew he'd read it and be hurt or jealous? I think marriages should be based on mutual love, so each focuses on making the other happy. It worked for me.

Answer 5

Foolish girl. How on earth will he ever believe you did nothing wrong.

No it isn't cheating just because you wrote down a fantasy. I suspect you wrote it for him to find or because there is someone that you fancy and would like to cheat with. but is that important? What's important is he thinks you've done those things and you need to convince him that you haven't.

Grovel girl, do a lot of grovelling. God you have put yourself in it.

Good luck anyway.

Answer 6

That's a fantasy, not cheating. You didn't do anything with anyone else so how can it be cheating? You should never write down something you don't want other people to see. If you do, find a really good hiding spot. Good luck.

Answer 7

I think everyone is confused, did you or did you just write about it? My opinion is it doesn't matter, your thinking about it so you might as well do it. Cheating phsically, emotionally whatever. I keep nothing from my husband we are best friends. When you keep little secrets from your mate, it's cheating, regardless of if you had sex. You are with them for a reason, for better or worse. I think if people really let their spouse know what they need or what they want they would have a healthier relationship.

Answer 8

People end up doing stupid things when highly frustrated. You should take deep breaths before your impulse gets the better of you. Especially when it involves your spouse. Any cheating, though may be forgiven, cannot be forgotten and will play in the mind throughout life. Do be careful in future before making such silly blunders in life.

Answer 9

Cheating can only occur in your own head. If you think its cheating then it is. If you dont then maybe you should just move on. If your share it with him it might just be a fantasy that you can both share.

Answer 10

It is out of way to read any ones diary, as it is very very personnel.