A christian with a question?

Question

Please don't bash me without hearing me out. I am a christian that believes homosexuality is a sin, not just because the bible says so. I believe it makes no sense for a man to love a man or a woman to love a woman. I believe we are males and females for a reason. To create children and live on. I know many people say they are born that way, but if I was born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible should I? Please don't think I mean any disrespect because I don't but I would like a good respectable answer for this question. Thank you and may God bless you.

Answer 1

First allow me to commend you for asking.

I am a Christian that is homosexual. Allow me to aid your understanding. Homosexuality is not just about the physical act of sex.

If relationships and marriage were only about sex and procreation, everybody should get divorced when their wife goes through menopause or the husband becomes impotent.

I am certain this is not your position.

Infact there is biblical precedent for same gender partnerships. As you read about the life of David and Jonathan you will note that they were soul bound partners in love. Infact they even had a holy union.

I am not implying that they ever had sex. I am saying that life long loving relationships transend sex.

I personally feel no attraction to women, sexually or emotionally. I am attracted to men. At 40 yrs old I choose to be celibate because I truly believe sex is to be the most intimate and personal gift one can give and I can not save my virginity but I can save the rest of me for my soul mate. I can honestly say it will not be a woman. I have been there and have the scars to prove it. having destroyed her life and her kids lives in the process of trying to be the "straight" man the world says I have to be.

Jesus commands us to "love your neighbor as yourself" Here is the thing, I have to love myself first. I can not do that living a lie. Being someone that i am not.

Should I behave responsibly? absolutely. just as you should not sleep with every attractive woman you meet i should not sleep wiht every attractive man I meet. Just as I should not try to coerce a straight man into bed with me you should not try to push me into bed wiht a woman.

I do not believe same gender relationships are a sin and the bible never speaks against them. I also do not believe same gender sex is a sin for homosexuals but is a sin for a hetrosexual. (that would be exchanging the natural for the unnatural) In the same way oposite gender sex is a sin for homosexuals.

Regardless, Jesus paid the price for all of it. Just as you still sin regularly in your life so do I. We both will be sinners our whole life and need to plead the Blood of Christ at the day of Judgement.

The only way homosexuality affects you is by you choosing to fixate on it. Even if your child is homosexual it is not about you. It is about your "neighbor" (anyone other than you).

You do not have to understand them. You do not have to like their behaviors/actions. You must love them for who they are just as you love yourself for who you are and how God loves all of us for who we are faults, sins and all.

Answer 2

It is my understanding that God created all his children, and only He can judge any of them. Homosexual relationships are no different from a heterosexual relationship. Homosexual relationships are not all about sex, as aren't all heterosexual relationships. The percentage of purely sexual relationships in either hetero/homosexual's is roughly the same. It is only that homosexuality is frowned upon by so many that these figures get inflated by most in the general public.

It is important to note that you say "I know many people say they are born that way, but if I was born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible should I?" In all honesty you aren't using two accurate things to compare. You are using promiscuity as a comparison to natural attractions and feelings. Maybe a better comparison should have been used and I see no real validity in actually answering that portion of your question.

Now while you're entitled to believe whatever it is you believe in. Keep in mind that whether you believe something to be a sin or read it in the bible. The bible also tells you that you should love your neighbor, and that only God can judge us.

Answer 3

Wait a minute. I am going to try not to get angry or defensive here, but it's going to be hard.

Who said that homosexuality equals promiscuity. You just basically called me a slut, yet you want me to keep my cool. Just because I'm a lesbian doesn't mean that I "have the need to sleep with as many women as possible.". I hope that you spend as much time and care worrying about all the straight women and men who go through partners like tissue paper.

I have been in a long term relationship with my life partner for almost eight years now. I don't sleep around, neither does she. We love eachother and show it with trust, loyalty and faith.

Your definition of sin is what you feel. It does not necessarily apply to someone else.

If your god gives us free will, why can't you accept it? You have made the choice to be a christian and believe what you do. And, there are many homosexual christians, by the way. They know that God is a higher power of many faces that loves all of humanity irregardless of race, color, creed or sexual orientation.

Love is love. I want you to go back to your bible and read the section that details what love is all about. I think it's corinthians. Talking about the fact that love is patient, love is kind....

Sex is for procreation. Love is for humanity.

Answer 4

I was ok with your question until I got to the part about "If I was born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible...." Here again this shows that the hetero world has it all wrong about the gay community! IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT SEX!!!! Look at your own relationship/s...present and past. When you fell for the person that you did, was it just ALL about sex with you guys? No! There was more to it than physical intimacy, wasn't there? This is probably one of the most misunderstood issues about gays and lesbians. Now, I'm not stupid enough to think that there is no such thing as sicko gays and lesbians with some disturbing sexual fettishes. But guess what? There are some real sickos in the hetero world, too!!! Just because we've been given the label of gay/lesbian doesn't mean we ALL fall into the catagory of sexual deviants! So while yes I thank you for your attempt at being respectful to us I do take offense at the implication that we're all sexual sickos!!!!

Answer 5

Well, God also gave us free will to make decisions. He also told us that all we had to do was believe in him and we would go to heaven. His son died on the cross for our sins.

If we were all born str8 and intended to have children over population would be worse then it is now. I believe it is mother natures way of a natural form of birth control.

It makes no sense for you that a man can love a man and a woman can love a woman because you are not that way.

Answer 6

"if I was born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible should I?"

Assuming that you are male, the difference is that you still get to sleep with the one woman who is your wife -- hopefully you have one that you love with all your heart and soul. If that is what you have, imagine the Pope claimed God walked the earth again and his message was that your marriage would condemn you both to hell. Would you leave her? Would you value the words of another mortal over those of your own soul?

This is not to be disrepectful of the Bible or the Pope. It's just to point out that the Bible was written and edited many times by mortal men. Many good things are found in the Bible, but what you take from it is your faith. No one knows God's way with certainty.

Peace to you.

Answer 7

The only question you posed was, "I know many people say they are born that way, but if I was born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible should I?" If, by some fluke of nature you were born with that need, then you would have to fulfill that need; if it were a need there would be negative consequences for not fulfilling that need, such as pain or death. This does not relate in any way to why people are LGBT. I have not encountered a single person who claims they need to be LGBT; we are who we are. Why are you attracted to someone? I'm sure you can't pin down the exact reason why you may have been attracted to any of the number of people you have found attractive in your life, but that does not change the fact that found them attractive. Further, even if you knew the exact reason why you found someone attractive you could not use that information to prevent you from finding someone attractive in the future.

Answer 8

1. you say you believe homosexuality is a sin because it makes no sense for a man to love a man or women to love women.
THAT'S YOUR OPINION. OH YES, HOMOSEXUAL IS CONDEMNED BY YOUR BIBLE.
2. You feel that different sexes exists for the survival of our species.
THE WORLD IS OVER POPULATED AS IT IS.
3. obviously you were not born with the need to sleep with as many possible women.
STOP CONCERNING YOURSELF WITH THAT Q.
as for a "good respectable answer " what exactly is your question.
Thank you for the blessings from God.
ARE YOU HIS SPOKESPERSON? and i don't mean any disrespect.

Answer 9

No one is born with the need to sleep with as many women as possible because we don't need to disobey God. Sin is not a need it is a bad want. We all want to do things that aren't right but you must learn to buffet your body by God's Power and keep it in subjection lest when you have preached to others you become a castaway. Read Ephesians and God will help you my brother. He did for me.

Answer 10

10 Questions "Have you thought..." for you.


Imagine all people were straight.
Have you thought how much would the population of our planet be by now and how would all these people live?
Have you thought how many homeless kids would live in the streets, shelters, institutions or orphanages?

Have you thought that when Christ said "Love everyone" he made no exceptions?
Have you thought that gay people are (surprise!) people with feelings?
Have you thought that they are able of loving and being loved?(surprise again!)
Have you thought that some gay people have helped or are helping or will help you if in need?
Have you thought that the sexual orientation or preference of a person is not a considerable factor of his/her personality?
Have you thought that if your best friend/sibling/person-you-truly-love revealed that is gay, you wouldn't love the same or at all that person?
Have you thought that The Bible was written in a time were the term gay didn't exist?
Have you thought that there is no reference in the Bible that says that homosexuality(or anything that describes it) is a sin?