i am pregnant i feel like committing a suicide, what should i do?

Question

this is my story, i am 4 moths pregnant, i dont know what to do, the father of the baby abandoned me because i am pregnant, i wnat to give my child a good future, i dont want to receive welfare and also i dont want to live in a chelter or project because i mich will race god knows what , i dont have the money not even to support my self, i hate this world so much that i dont want to live anymore, sometimes i feel like committing a suicide, i can take it anymore, i dont know what to do, please help!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I just wanted to let you know I know how you feel and I know what you are going through I was in your shoes when I was 17 he ran out and told me he didn't want the baby at all. I knew I couldn't take care of her so I was going to give her up for adoption but he got her instead. And he wont let me see her or anything. Now me and my husband can not have children at all thats what the doctors told us. So all we can do is look for a child to adopt but we are having no luck yet. Adoption we were told would cost between 10,000 and 100,000 dollars to adopt a baby so we have to find a person that wants to give their baby up for adoption ourselves because adoption is really expensive. As for what that person C.C. said about you being a moron personally I bet C.C. is a guy that would get a girl pregnant then run out and leave her to deal with it herself. I felt like comitting suicide too but trust me it is not worth it for you or the babys sake you have a chance if you decide to give the baby up for adoption give the baby a better life and who knows you could be an ANGEL sent from God to give me and my husband the chance to be parents or if not us people like us. So don't let people like C.C. get to you and get you upset you don't need that right now. So please for me just calm down and I will be your friend if you ever need to talk you can e-mail me or message me on yahoo messenger my screen name is kitten16_18 and my e-mail is [e-mail] don't hesitate to e-mail me or message me on yahoo messenger if you ever need someone to talk to about anything anything at all I will be here for you to talk to I will be here for you no matter what. I Promise and I never break a promise.

Answer 2

Takeing your life is not the answer Luv. Life seems bleak now but there is help out there but you got to want it.. Talk to you Minister or what ever he is called seek out options that apply to you. Use welfare as a steping stone not a way of life and gain a skill that will provide work for you and you forth comming child.. The State will help you recover child support. Another option is to give the child up to a good family no shame in that but is hard to do. Just remember you are not alone, many other girls are in the same boat and they survied the experience. Hopefully your family will stand behind you and give both moral and financial help if not there are support groups, get more schooling and or training above all don't give up. There is always a way if you want it bad enough

Answer 3

Well, I have a few questions and then I can also help you out. How old are you? You seem very young. Why do I say that? I'm looking at how many misspelled words you have. I know a typo, but I also know words that weren't spelled correctly. First thing is, EDUCATE YOURSELF. Meaning, go find a counselor or someone you can speak with, and also find GOD. You need answers and you should seek someone that has been there. If you don't want to keep your child, you should consider giving this child up for adoption. No need in raising a child in a loveless home or a bad environment. Children are sometimes the product of their environment. If you decide to keep the child, you should surround yourself with positive people that are willing to help you lead your life down the right path. If you need someone to talk to, you can email me anytime. [e-mail]

Answer 4

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first. Needless to say I was pretty much alone. My bf was too busy being a drunk and idiot with his friends and didn't care about my pregnancy. I had to deal with it alone. I couldn't support myself or my child but I wasn't going to have an abortion and giving the baby up for adoption was something I knew I couldn't do. Luckily I had a very supportive family that helped me through it. It was rough though. I know what you're feeling..although I never really considered suicide or anything I was depressed. Having a baby is one of the greatest things you can experiance in life. You need to try to look on the positive side of things instead of always dwelling on the bad. Believe it or not things will get better. They did for me so they can for you too. I kept my head up and got through "life" as it happened to me. I just graduated college a few months ago and right on time, I got married in May and I'm pregnant with my second child. Things totally have a way of working out. Ending your life isn't going to do anything but cause other people hurt and misery. Maybe you should seek couseling. It could help. Good luck and hope you feel better.

Answer 5

I am a mother and just think you are overwhelmed with everything right now thats why you feel like committing suicide. Just take one thing at a time. Im sure you can see a counsler who would be able to give you information that can help you get the help you need. If you need assistance there is nothing wrong with that. It will help out a little until you figure out what you are going to do. The father of my daughter after 10 years left me and I'm doing it so I totally understand how you are feeling. Stay strong and take it easy. You will be fine, its hard but it does get better.

Answer 6

Give your baby up for adoption. That's the best way to give it a good future, since you can't even take care of yourself. You need to stop thinking these disturbing thoughts and get some help, talk to a friend or a relative. If you need a home, then you NEED to go to a shelter don't worry about anything else. You have a baby in your custody now that is your responsibility.

Answer 7

Don't kill yourself what ever you do. There are plenty of options out there, for instance you can give the baby up for adoption.That is a good way to bring the baby up good. I have 2 boys and I went through hell and back with both pregnancies. I was very depressed and had nobody because I lived 2000 miles away from all family and friends. I live in a state where I don't have any friends. So it was hard. But I made it and now I have lovely little boys. Your going through a roller coaster ride of emotions that's normal. Get help and talk to someone. Get info on adoption. But what ever you do DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!!!!!

Answer 8

Alohas Jessica,

You last statement is “Please Help”!!! That’s good that means there is hope for you and the Baby. Ok lets go from there now.

First off I’m an Old retired Social Worker Secondly I’m a Gruff ole Fart who cares about the baby First and you second but I care about both of you equally. Especially at this moment because you are both one of the same.

Now like it or not And there are some things you show you Don’t like because you keep saying “I don’t want”. Well if you truly want HELP then quit worrying about what you don’t want before it comes to you,, instead concentrate on what you DO Need for the both of you and Realize that God or Some Higher power will be there to help every step of the way but in his or It’s time and Not always yours..

I agree with what some of the others have said you do need to do,, starting with going to the hospital first of all for an OB/ Gyn Doc and Secondly for a Phsyc evaluation in all honesty with a doctor there. Thirdly and most importantly that will start things off for you to get the help you need so desperately..
Don’t worry about the welfare or the medical Expenses they’ll be taken care of, My Tax Money has contributed to it for years and yours will later for some one else. That’s how the system works.. The best thing you can do today, is go to the hospital today and start the process Tell them earlier today you wanted to kill yourself but then you sought help and that’s what led you there now.. You can reach me later on a reply to my e-mail at thoughtfuls and let me know how it goes.

One Final thing for the moment and I hope these words burn into your brain “For Right Now,, Until after you have had the Baby,, Stay away from all the men and Boys,, all they want is to play with your ***”… Get some Counseling or go to AA or both, I don’t care if you have a drinking or drug problem at this point AA stands for Attitude Adjustment for you. If you can learn to follow the directions of some of the ladies there You might find a much better life.

God bless Ill look forward to hearing from you.

Alohas for Now

Gran Pa Doug @ Thoughtfuls


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Answer 9

suicide is a permenant solution to a temporary problem. While you may think that commiting suicide may bring releif to oyur family there is nothing further from the truth. All that are left behind begin to wonder if there is anything that i could've done differently If i would've just said one more thing if we had hung out one more time. Please don't foloow through with this. Go to family and ask for help. Find a solid church where you can find a solid christian woman that you can talk with or even talk with the Pastor. I pray that you don't follow the thought of suicide to action. I will be praying for you and your baby daddy and the rest of your family.

Answer 10

I am so sorry that you are so hurt. Pregnancy is an emotional time in itself, let alone having to deal with relationship and financial issues. Right now, focus on you and the baby, forget about that a**. It's his loss. Talk to your doctor about your depression and your situation. They can help you with your feelings and help you find solutions. If you don't have a doctor, find a free clinic near you. There are always people out there who will listen and care - you just have to seek them out and have the courage to ask for help. Don't hurt yourself or do anything drastic. Sometimes when we are in the middle of a problem it is hard to see the positive and the light at the other end. Just remember that nothing is hopeless and the world is full of people willing to help out. Best of luck to you.

Answer 11

Can your family help you? Can some friend help you? Suicide is not the answer and you have this baby to worry about. Have you considered adoption? You need to get yourself to Social Services and apply for everything you are entitled to and do not be ashamed of it. After you have the baby you can go to school through welfare and they can supply you with daycare if you like. You will not have to stay on the system forever. God Bless you.