What should i do?

Question

My boyfriend is interested in a threesome..I'm bi but haven't really cared for girls since me and him have been together..but yea sometimes i'll look at other girls and be like 'hey she has big boobs' or something..but i don't know if i should do a threesome ? i don't know if it will hurt our relationship or not?

Answer 1

Not at all. Lucky him to have you who can bring in the scent of another woman in the relationship.

Answer 2

Threesomes have to be an agreed upon thing for all parties involved. If it is going to be girl girl boy then the odds of emotional complications are increased.

You may look at women now and say hey they look cute, or I like the shape or whatever in passing. I do the same thing. I had a couple of girl with girl experiences before in the past... and then mixed in the threesome thing and a couple of other problems (of my own) that didn't sit right with them. They asked for honesty and that is indeed what they got. I gave it to them and they never called again. It wasn't like it was anything that out of the ordinary terrible about myself. Plus the man had issues with erectile disfunction... he blamed it on "nerves" but then again, how can someone be nervous about that three times in a row...

Strike three!

And shoot! that is supposed to be a lot but not every man's most thought of fantasy!

So... would I do it again? sure! but it has to be with the right couple. and it has to be under healthy and honest preface. There are issues of jealousy that have to be contained or dealt with. In the middle of a threesome, there is jealousy both ways, envious of more time given to the "other partner", worry of time spent with one of the other trio members in secret (if there is any dis-trust issues before the 3X they are going to come back to haunt you 10X worse!

And last but not least, this is the one point that I wanted to get across to you throughout all of this. If you are NOT ABSOLUTELY positively wanting this as a lifelong fantasy of yours, and just doing it for the bf, I wouldn't do it. It could be a big mistake. You have to live with the consequences of emotions you don't want to have b/c something like this had come up in the relationship, adding extra stress and other issues that don't need to be dealt with in a "normal" (whatever that is) relationship.

Most guys and shoot most women for that matter have some kind of a freaky fantasy that gets them to the point of orgasm when help is needed. That doesn't necessarily mean that it has to be fulfilled at every whim.

He may even regret it himself. Have you talked about both way 3X possibilities? shoot see what his opinion is on two men and you... see what the reaction is then!

Good luck to you... the safest places to go to even begin to start something like this is to go, as a couple, to a swingers/adult club in your area. Look it up on the internet. If you live near a large, metropolitan area, then there is a good chance there is one or more of these clubs exist there.

I wouldn't look into personal ads or adult friend finders or any of that. Well, maybe some sort of personal ads, but not online. Also, you know, the atmosphere at an adult club is very open and inviting, relaxed and you see these people face to face. And when No thank you, is said, NO is meant.... Single women are protected most of the time at these places, from my personal experience.

I would also like to add that I think that if the couple who is about to have the threesome has discussed it in detail, and if the relationship is a mature, stable one, then there is no reason why, if both parties agree and want it all the same level, then I think adding this kind of spice/adventure/dynamic to the relationship can be a VERY POSITIVE experience!

Answer 3

Buddy, if you love him truly (yes Truly) then you must not be a hypocrite.. Be sensitive to Love and Purity of Heart.. Remember, True Love means unselfishness!! Love is always unconditional.. if he is genuinely in love with you, your act will hurt him and could drive him away from you although he would continue loving you truly silently.. So choose him or your threesome.. You might fool him but you can not fool yourself and so you ask your heart what you actually want.. and please never cheat yourself or you might cheat others too.. do what your heart wants.. and decide like a mature being!!

Answer 4

I don't believe in threesomes at all. I think it gives one or both parties and excuse to cheat. And that's not cool. Sounds like he has issues that need to be straightened out.

Answer 5

ok, i think you shouldnt do it coz in the end they could want to make it a relationship without you in it, if your boyfriend wants a threesome thn there is something he isnt getting from you and if i was you i would find someone else rather then waste my time on someone who isnt satisfied with me.

Answer 6

sounds like your a freak. why would you want to share your man with someone else ? if he cheats after the fact , remember you introduce him to cheating by having a threesome.

Answer 7

Hey your bf doesn't love you...you need to drop him like a hot potato & move on honey! As far as you being a bi...see a doc that's not normal it's a sickness!

Answer 8

No don't . This is a fantasy for your boyfriend. You will get a reputation I am sure you do NOT want. May catch something as well.
Yes it will hurt the thing for you and your boyfriend.

Answer 9

tell him no, if he really loved and respected you he wouldn't have suggested it in the first place, or throw the problem back to him and say you will consider it if the third person is another man! watch him squirm then, straight men don't like the idea of being naked with another man!!!

Answer 10

if its a fling, than it may be fun but if you truely care about him and want this to go somewhere, the bedroom should be sacred.Only for you two.Maybe incorporate toys and movies but not other people