I've just been dumped by my bf. His last words were "I'll hung up our last phone." the damage was not so big than i thought. But I feel emptyness and so much lonlyness. How dose everyone fix broken heart?? Is there any good way to forget about it so easily??
I need da heip!
2006-07-30 06:47:37 · 11 answers · asked by kurumi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are experiencing a grief.
allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship and then move on..
2006-08-02 02:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just know this is the one you will marry. You enjoy each other’s company, you share common interests, and you sense a mutual attraction. Then, suddenly, the relationship dies, exploding in a burst of anger—or melting in tears.
In his book The Chemistry of Love, Dr. Michael Liebowitz likens the onset of love to the rush of a powerful drug. But like a drug, such love can trigger raging ‘withdrawal symptoms’ if it dies. And it makes little difference whether the love is mere infatuation or the ‘real thing.’ Both can create dizzying highs—and agonizing lows if the relationship ends.
The feelings of rejection, hurt, and perhaps outrage that come in the wake of a breakup may thus sour your view of the future. One young woman speaks of herself as ‘wounded’ because of being jilted. “I can only be a ‘Hi, how are you?’ person [with the opposite sex] now,” she says. “I am not letting any person get close to me.” The deeper the commitment you feel in a relationship, the deeper the hurt its breakup can cause.
Yes, indeed, the freedom to court whom you please carries a hefty price tag: the real possibility of rejection. There simply is no guarantee that true love will grow. So if someone began courting you with honest intentions but later concluded that marriage would be unwise, you have not necessarily been dealt with unfairly.
The problem is, even when a breakup is handled with the utmost tact and kindness, you are still bound to feel hurt and rejected. This is no reason to lose your self-esteem, however. The fact that you were not “right” in this person’s eyes does not mean that you will not be just right in the eyes of someone else!
Try putting the defunct romance in cool perspective. The breakup may very well have spotlighted disturbing things about the person you were involved with—emotional immaturity, indecision, inflexibility, intolerance, a lack of consideration for your feelings. These are hardly desirable qualities in a marriage mate.
What if the breakup is entirely one-sided and you are convinced that a marriage would have worked out well? Certainly you have a right to let the other person know how you feel. Perhaps there have simply been some misunderstandings. Emotional ranting and raving accomplishes little. And if he or she insists on splitting up, there is no need for you to humiliate yourself, tearfully begging for the affections of someone who obviously has no feelings for you. Solomon said there is “a time to seek and a time to give up as lost.”—Ecclesiastes 3:6.
What if you have strong reason to suspect that you were merely being used by someone who never had a sincere interest in marriage in the first place? You need not resort to vindictive reprisals. Be assured that his or her deviousness is not unnoticed by God. His Word says: “The cruel person is bringing ostracism upon his own organism.”—Proverbs 11:17; compare Proverbs 6:12-15.
From time to time you may still be tormented by loneliness or romantic memories. If so, it’s all right to have a good cry. It also helps to get busy, perhaps in some physical activity or the Christian ministry. (Proverbs 18:1) Keep your mind on things that are cheerful and upbuilding. (Philippians 4:8) Confide in a close friend. (Proverbs 18:24) Your parents may also be of great comfort, even if you feel you are old enough to be independent. (Proverbs 23:22) And above all, confide in Jehovah.
You may now see the need to work on certain aspects of your personality. Your vision of what you want in a marriage mate may be clearer than ever. And having loved and lost, you may decide to handle courtship a bit more prudently should a desirable person come along again—the likelihood of which may be greater than you think.
2006-07-30 07:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some one said that trust your fellow too much, in the end you will get a good friend or a good lesson. If the other breaks your heart at least you would get a great lesson beneficial for your whole life. Time cures the broken heart, after a year a man forgets every bitter behavior by others.
2016-03-16 08:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone -- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew
you never really stop loving someone. you just learn to try to live without them, as hard and as sad as it seems.
Life goes on and so should you. Your heart will heal in time, not completly, but it will heal.
(what do u think of this poem?)
I know this would happen from the start,
Now all I have is a broken heart.
Doc, I've heard you heal bones broken apart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Repairman, you can repair a broken cart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Engineer, you can make a broken computer restart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Astronomer, you observe sky and make a star chart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Painter, you imagine and draw the abstract art,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Cook, you are great at making the apple tart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
Teacher, you teach infants the colour chart,
But can you mend my broken heart?
I am sure no one can mend my broken heart,
But wait, I know a girl few miles apart,
She's the one who can mend my broken heart,
because she was the one who BROKE MY HEART.....
2006-07-30 06:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Dont settle. If he doesnt want you dont go trying to convince him otherwise. Let it go. Get out, enjoy yourself. When you find someone with common interests who wants to be around you, then think about another relationship. Until then.. work on your own confidence and you will have the guys running to your door!
2006-07-30 06:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that the only real answer in life is TIME. I've been broken and i have broken, and only time can truely heal you.
2006-07-30 07:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-06 12:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i jus asked a similar question here in yahoo answers few minutes ago.... see, be with ur friends they can fill ur emptiness.... u know everyone suggested me to find a new girl.... but when we love someone we love through heart and thinking abt someone else is impossible.... my gf broke off with me bec her ex-bf came back....worse thing is that i have to see her daily as we r in same college... moreover i lost all frnds to give her time...
hey anyways u r a girl... go ahead and find a guy... its very easy for a girl to get a new one.... follow this rule "guys are like buses, one goes next comes".... i wish if i could follow that rule for girls...
see kurumi i feel its very tough to be in same class... whenever i see her everything flashes in my mind so fast that i feel helpless.... there is another girl in my class who has got a beautiful smile.... and whenever i see her smile... i feel as if i jus saw a beautiful fairy... i feel so relaxed.... tough i cannot go on without my ex... but i can relax myself by seein something which is has purity in herself and u know that smile is especially given by her to me.............
and on my last talk to her, my last sentence was.." oneday, god will make u realise what u r losing"..... i believe that one day i will find a girl who will truly love me from deep inside her heart... and i dont think my ex really deserved the love i gave her..... the some who deserves is eagerly waiting for me..... jus waiting to meet that person..
2006-07-30 07:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by hell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time & change heals every wound.
2006-07-30 06:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by sukhwinder b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur stuck on him check if u can still be friends? and if not... get another guy who you like
2006-07-30 06:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by n8_ruler_of_the_world 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋