I've been with the guy who is 46 years old Iam 37 years old for almost 8 years, No we are not married ,, Hes already been a parent 2 times with his ex wife so he knows what commitment is. I don't need him to raise the baby I just wanted the baby to have both parents thats all.. I just think its wrong for someone to leave at least the baby .. I'm ok with him not wanting me no more.. But I feel bad for the baby. But the person or persons on here that said it takes a man to be a daddy is right and maybe some day I'll find her a real man to be her daddy, if not I'll be both... Oh and to the ones that said use protection well I'm the type of person that can't use anything because I have tried lots of kinds, I'm allergic to everything!!!! and I also didn't force this baby on him he knew at the beginning of seeing me that I could get pregnant. I told him if he never wanted anymore kids to go get fixed, i didn't get fixed because this is what I told him I want another child.
2006-07-30 06:30:00 · 14 answers · asked by karen878806 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The same question can be asked of women. I know that there are guys out there that had a woman step on them during thier life. Not all men are jerks. My wife and I have been together since I was 21 and she was 19...four kids and 14 years later we are still in love. P.S. We only dated for three months before getting married.
2006-07-30 06:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by loescheszzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not see that you always had a choice to abstain or find another type of birth control? You knew you could get pregnant and it was your responsibility to work out those details BEFORE agreeing to have sex with someone. What did he say when you told him you were not getting "fixed" because you wanted another children? He is not being a jerk if he told you he did not want any more children or did not specifically say he did want more. As you have found out, it is the female's responsibility to make sure she is protected. It's much too easy for a male to walk away. Unless he told you he was prepared to bring another child into the world, you have put your baby in an unfair position. You expected him to stay or be happy with the situation and he's not. Guess who loses out? Your baby.
2006-07-30 06:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this man is EXTREMELY immature. He made 2 babies already. Did you know why he was divorced? What made you fall for this guy? It does take a real man to be a father. He obviously doesn't care about anyone but himself if he impregnates women and leaves them to do all of the work. I highly suggest that once you have the baby and get a DNA test, that you seek child support from him. That baby will have more than enough love from you. I can tell that you care deeply about the baby just from your message. I get it that you want the baby to have both parents in his/her life but sometimes that is not the case. Just do the best you can and love that baby with all of your heart. That's more than anyone can ask.
Take care of yourself and the baby. Good luck!
2006-07-30 06:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by catwymn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to be a daddy. Too bad some men are real jerks. Maybe you will have to be the baby's mother and father. It take a man to be a father. Hope he comes to his senses for the baby sake.
2006-07-30 07:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy I have no clue but I have a brother in law who has gotten atleast 4 different women pregnant and he has not been a dad to either of them it is so sad now hes on his 5th one maybe this time he will settle down
2006-07-30 06:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any *** hole can let out sperm but a real man will be there for a child. I know your situation i am 38 weeks and 3 days pregnant and have the same problem.
2006-07-30 19:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont want to be in the babys life thats his own loss i know u want the baby to have both parents but u cant force a deadbeat to do anything, i would put him on childs support just to be NICE
2006-07-30 07:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not classify all men the same way. Not all men are jerks you just don't know how to pick them.
2006-07-30 06:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because they can plain and simple. You know how he treated his other family, but it does not hurt any less. Good luck to you. And remember there are good men out there.
2006-07-30 06:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
birth control is cheap and effective..
buy some...even use condoms..they make them that are not latex
you don't need to get fixed to keep from making more kids/getting pregnant...
2006-07-30 06:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋