Yeah i'm gonna get a lot of "it's my body answers" whatever. Explain this to me, when is it a mans choice wether to bring a child into the world or not? It seems that when it comes to creating life and ruining a life, the woman holds all the cards. She can go to the clinic and get rid of the child, wether or not the man wanted the kid or not. If the man wants the kid, to raise, and support it, why is that not an option, why does the woman still have the right to just kill it? Oh, but when the man doesn't want the baby, it doesn't matter, now the woman can have the child and make him pay for it. So easy for woman to say i don't want it and get rid of it, but not easy to let a man say he doesn't want it.
2006-07-30 06:21:57 · 31 answers · asked by Enterrador 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It is the man's choice as to whether he wants to stick his little man inside her or not. If he doesn't want to be a father, he always has that option. There are two basic choices:
1. Have your cake.
2. Eat it.
Remember, it's easy to sit back and complain that women hold all the cards on this, but just remember that they also have to bear all the health risks of pregnancy, not to mention the pain, and the disruptions of their career. The man doesn't have to deal with any of this. Also, the man can walk away and guess who gets stuck with it?
So yes, there are some things women can decide and the man has no say in. Rightfully so. The world isn't a fair place and that's just how it is sometimes. But we can at least try to be fair when possible.
2006-07-30 06:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow this question got answered FAST. I think it's a matter of the strength of the relationship as to whether or not a man has any say in what happens with HIS (yes his, it's not just her's) child. Ultimately though, the woman does in fact carry and birth the child, and therefore it ends up being her choice.
The real discussion (which a lot of people have already addressed) is gambling without the intent to pay your debts. And that goes for both the female and the male in a relationship. If neither party is mature enough to bring life into the world in a responsible manner, than neither party should be having sex. That's like going to Atlantic City with 10 bucks hoping to win a million and leave, and then refusing to pay up when you lose.
2006-07-30 06:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Shane S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is just a tricky subject all around and no matter where you stand on it, someone is going to disagree. That said... I am pro-choice. I am not pro-abortion... but I do not think the choice should be taken away. I do think all options should be weighed before an abortion is performed and that includes finding out if the father wants to keep the baby or not. Yes, I think a man should have some say when it concerns his seed... but it ultimately rests with the woman as she is the host of the baby-to-be and will be giving birth. You are right when you say you will get a lot of "It's her body" statements, because that just happens to be the case.
2006-07-30 06:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man says he will raise the child, the woman has no right to take an abortion. I'm not talking about legal rights, those are not correct.
The first answer is not correct, as if the man was the only person present when making babies.
Answers about 'a woman carries 9 months, etc, therefore woman have the right' are not correct either. Simply because not taking a life is way more important then some 'work' and pain. That work and pain is chosen for, as soon as you have sex.
2006-07-30 06:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by · 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This topic is something I normally wouldn't comment on- but your question is really good. I believe women make the decision because in the end the MAJORITY (not all) of women end up taking care of the child. A mother (a true mother) will bend over backwards for her child- she will take off work, tend to the needs and stop her life for her child. Men don't have the instincts that women have. I'm not bashing men, I was raised by my father and he did an excellent job, but as a mother now, I understand that women's role in motherhood far outweighs that of a father. I know so many men, good men, that don't have or know their fathers, and they've turned out exceptional, because of their mothers.
People should know that when you become pregnant, whatever decision you make, is one that stays with you the rest of your life. If you abort, you will always remember that day. Everytime you see a child you think about the "what if's". Mentally and emotionally it's painful -either way.
This is only my opinion, and people are allowed to express their disagreement...
2006-07-30 06:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good point. I don't think that abortion is right unless you have been raped or if the pregnancy is due to incest. A woman should have to have permission of the father to get an abortion otherwise. She should also have proof of rape or incest. Police reports and court documentation. If the man doesn't want the child he should have some rights to. My sister refused to give the name of her son's father because he didn't even believe she was pregnant until after she had the baby. he later made the choice to be involved. She didn't want his money but she didn't want to kill an innocent child. They were both old enough that one of them could have prevented the pregnancy in the first place.
2006-07-30 09:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand everything your saying. I am a woman and I am Pro-life all the way. I think a guy should have a say if he wants the baby or not. But you do have a option if she decides to keep it. If you don't want to raise or pay for a child you can sign over your rights. Every state has different laws. You should look yours up.
2006-07-30 06:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by dreamer20692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be both the woman's and the man's decision on whether or not your going to keep the baby, but if you weren't 100% sure that you wanted the baby you shouldn't have had sex in the first place.If the man doesn't want the baby and the woman does he should have to help pay because he had sex with her and he new that she could get pregnant. He shouldn't take such a big risk.
Zinny
p.s. I hope it all works out if your the man in this situation
2006-07-30 06:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by Zinny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree she shouldn't have a right to abort it if the man wants to keep the child. It wasn't just the man that stuck his penis in but also the woman who allowed him to do so! (and yes she should have to pay child support just like the man would in the case if she wanted to keep it and he didn't)
I think an abortion should have two signatures. The woman and the "donor" just like with an adoption. Of course if she doesn't know who the donor or if she won't say who it is then that could be a problem.......
2006-07-30 06:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by timswife71099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually a agree with you on that. I would think there should be something that a man has a right to on this. On the other hand, I think a lot of men (maybe 75%) that aren't committed to the girl he got pregnant would 'opt-out' of payment on that child. We would have a lot more problem with the welfare paying for this. I don't know what we could really do that wouldn't hurt others. Maybe as guys, we should be very particular about wearing a condom? That is one choice we definitely have that is about 99.9% effective.
2006-07-30 06:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by johndavis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋