will he ever marry me?

Question

i have bin with my partnerfor 11 yrs we have to children and he still wont marry me should i wait another 11 yrs or get rid of him

Answer 1

someone had a question close to yours earlier today and I'm going to tell you the same thing that I told her, have you ever heard of the saying why buy the milk if you have the cow? This is the problem, you live with this man, he has children with you, he has sex with you etc.etc.etc.
he has everything that he would if he were your husband so why get married when he already has a married life. you need to give him an ultimatum marry you or be with out you, otherwise you will still be giving him the milk and if he don't have to marry you he won't

Answer 2

Is it really that important for you to be married? I lived with a woman for 14 years and we have two children, unfortunately she passed away, but I will always love her. I wanted to get married to her and asked all the time, she was divorced twice and said that a piece of paper didn't make a real marriage. I think I know how frustrated you must feel, but if you love him give him the right to choose. I believe that love is more important in the long run.

Answer 3

If he hasn't already married maybe he never will. You need to have a conversation with him and tell him how you feel and what you want out of life in the next 11 years and that's to be his wife. See if you guys are on the same page. He might think things are fine the way it is. And clearly that's not what you want.

Answer 4

Be honest, why should he marry you? You have lived with him for 11 year and had 2 children with him without marriage so what difference would it make if he married you now. I don't see what you would gain from it. If marriage was important to you, you should not have lived with him as his wife until he had married you - unless you were hoping that having children would trap him into marriage.

Answer 5

I had a friend in a situation where the guy was married before, then divorced. So although he has 2 children with her (my friend) he is not going to marry again. Its so sad, because she grew up in a christian home, and her parents are still marriedm and she is living with him, but unhappy about that part.

Anyway, most likely he is not going to marry you. But is that important to you? Does he provide for you, support you and your children, love you? Well then?
marriage is just a piece of paper to some. but I am sure you have the answer to your own qu.

Answer 6

Ask him why he dosent want to get married. Some men are more frightened of weddings than they are of marriege. Some men will just let things tick over, because they are affraid of making things formal. Any change the kits could speak to him about how they would like to be brides maids/ page boys, and convince him that way?

Answer 7

Go to a lawyer and take care of the child support checks and then get rid of him. He played so now he can pay. Don't put up with the idiot any longer. There are deserving men out there who will appreciate you AND marry you. You have set your sights too low.

Answer 8

Are you mad? 11 years, you might as well be married. Why would you want to go and spoil what you've already got? If you are both happy together there is no need for marriage.

Answer 9

No one should tell you to get rid of him due to they don't know enough about the relationship.I can say this though you have 2 children by this man so.ask him if this is the way he wants to bring up his children.The message he is sending to his children is their daddy is afraid of commitment to marriage.Plus marriage is a responsiblity that for some reason their daddy doesn't want to except. Not something I would want my child to learn.

Answer 10

Why won't he marry you? I think its because he's convinced that he still might at somepoint want to use the door and doesn't want to make things too complicated when he does. If he is more committed to his escape plan then he is to you, then you should be thinking about wether or not you really want to marry this guy.