I told him I finally talked to a divorce lawyer the other day and he asked if I'd wait to file until he talks to one, which I said okay. Well I got served with divorce papers yesterday. Here I was trying to be nice to him and he, once again, lied which has been our entire problem - he's a pathological liar. We're still in the same house and i just need some pep talks, folks. I truly dispise this person. I guess my pride is hurt a little that he turned around and filed on me first - before I had even talked to my lawyer - but I was trying to be nice about it.
2006-07-30 06:06:10 · 13 answers · asked by DianneSB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he won't leavr, you leave. the divorce papers will create what needs to be done with your assets
if you are renting, get yourself off the lease so if he defaults it does not affect you
2006-07-30 06:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to tell you to ask your lawyer what to do and if he doesn't know then get another lawyer? I'm sure it would have to be deteremined if you both on the deed to the house or if one of you are, but I believe regardless standard community property would apply if you bought the house after you got married. If the house was yours before you got married and you just added him or never added him, I think it's yours. The judge will only divide up what you aquired during the marriage.
I would not take the advice of the person who suggested you move a man in, that would be insane. You husband will really get everything if you do that. Play it smart. Don't tell him what you are doing. If he asked lie. How will he know? Make your moves and don't worry about him. And don't tell anyone else, becuase you never know who will give him information.
And the one lady was right about the journal. Keep notes of everything. and try to keep vm and recordings as well.
2006-07-30 15:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Smooda 1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sucks because girl I am going through the same thing. We are renting and the lease isn't up for another month. Sick thing is that he thinks we should renew the lease. I almost died. What I think you should do it either move out on your own if you can (or with a friend) or stay there and kick his butt out. The thing about divorce is that no matter how nice you try to be about it, you almost always end up getting hurt. Just look at it like it's better that it's over now than a few years from now. Time to have some time for you. It'll be good for you!!!
2006-07-30 13:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by sexystarfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So relax, just because he filed first doesn't mean anything. I'm sure your lawyer told you that. From this point on don't even think about trusting him. Why don't you move? If you cant afford it then your probably stuck til he decides to leave. I served my x papers and then I got papers from his lawyer telling me I had 7 days in which to vacate or property. That's what I got for being nice. And yes I was nice because he knew I was filing and we agreed I could stay until the house that our daughter and I was moving into was livable
2006-07-30 13:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lori L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to first look and see who's name is on the house papers if it is yours you have every right to call the cops and kick him out, it being your house. If this is the case make sure you have a copy of the mortgage papers with you when the police come.
If it is his name you need to start looking for a place and soon it looks like. Most judges in a divorce case will have you sell the house and split the profits if neither one will move out.
If it is the both of you, call your mortgage company and speak to one of their represenitives and ask them what YOU should do as far as what they are concerned for getting him out of the house and transferring the house into your name.
You will also need to check with your state's divorce statues. Each state is different. Go to http://www.law.cornell.edu/topics/Table_Divorce.htm to see your state's statues. This way you aren't suprised by any of the actions he and his attourney may take.
You should also keep a running record of the things in the house that are yours that you had before you both were together, give a copy of this to your lawyer and give a copy to his. (they will ask for it anyway) Take all those things that are meaningful to you and are yours and yours alone and get them out of the house.
If and when he moves out make sure you have a police escort with you when it happens. They can settle any dispute you may have when it comes to certain items in the house.
Keep your attourney up to date with any and all actions you take twards removing him from the house, they also may be able to help you.
Good Luck in your divorce, hope you get it all!!!
2006-07-30 14:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by lopezjri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me. We lived in the same house with the kids for 10 months and neither of us could get the other one out........until the night he made the Big mistake in judgement! We were argueing and he chased after me, shoved me and I tripped hitting my head on the dresser. I had a big swollen bruise. I immediately left and went to the police station and filed an abuse report. I had three cops escort me back to the house, he was handcuffed and removed to jail. The very next day I had my attorney file for temporary custody, alimony and child support order. He never showed his face in the house again! Stop trying to be "nice".....play it smart! Don't waste your time worrying about what he is doing.......plan your next move. Also, keep a diary on everything.....in the end, it will be your best friend!
2006-07-30 13:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice people finish last!!! Find the biggest, meanest, nastiest looking guy you know to put all his stuff in boxes and set it ouside the back door, change the locks and get a restraining order to post on the door. Get your own lawyer first and foremost; preferably one with a disposition like a rabid pit bull with PMS. Make him aware that if he hits you or anything he can be arrested, go to jail, lose his right to vote, own firearms, hunt, get a passport, serve in public office, the list goes on and on. Don't let him play mind games with you and quit being nice; get a lawyer and get mean or you will look like the matt you wipe your feet on after a muddy rainstorm.
2006-07-30 13:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, THIS SHOuLD TEACH HIM::::before he moves out, wait until he leaves to go somewhere.when he does, take all his things and dump them in an inorderly fashion in the middle of the drive way. then change every lock on the house and refuse to negogiate with him he "wants to talk a bout it." take it even one step further: demand you get everything the 2 of you had of any value. wait and see his reaction to that one!!
2006-07-30 13:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by taxas_cowgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have answer to your question, but i am feeling bad about your divorce,, i mean breaking a relationship which we once nourished ourselves,, feels like killing your own dreams.
Wish u all the luck!
2006-07-30 13:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by distant d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u come up with a solution, let me know!
2006-07-30 14:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by furbee_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋