me and my boyf live together and are both really broke, waiting for payday, today he has gone to his parents house for steak and chips leaving me at home with nothing to eat but toast.
should i be really mad?
i was ment to be at work today nad tahts why i origanlly wanst invited but i managed to get a holiday thru but he still went alone.
i dont mind so much coz me and his family dont get on great, but we are civil to each other etc, but the fact that he gets a slap up meal, leaving me here to eat rubbish is starting to annoy me.
Am i being silly?
Please help coz he will be home soon and i feel like this will turn into an arguement if he comes home and finds me in a bad mood.
2006-07-30 05:44:20 · 26 answers · asked by bananabex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of coarse you should be cross. He could of told his parents that you managed to get the day off work so you could all spend some time together! If she couldn't feed you as well then your boyfriend should of stayed at home and ate toast with you. You both work, you both deserve some treats. How would he feel if you went to your parents and he wasn't invited. Some men just are un-able to think of how a female brain works and how we get upset.
2006-07-30 08:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by claire 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think it will help you to get into an argument. Take a deep breath and try to let go of the anger. What he did was insensitive, selfish and plain wrong... even mean. BUT, it doesn't help you in anyway to nag or yell at him. Especially if you have any pride. Also, I understand him not taking you with him to see his family...he may just trying to be saving you and his family uncomfortable awkwardness. But if I was him, I would have gone to my family so that I could spend a little time with them and also bring back home some food for you too. I think you should try to develop a good relationship with his family. I've seen a lot of relationship crumble eventually when the bf/gf doesn't get along with the other side's family. I know it's a difficult thing sometimes, but getting along with your boyfriend's family is very important and crucial for the survival of a relationship. Even if his family is resistant to it at first... if you show effort and is genuine in your want to have a better relationship with them, eventually I'm sure they will be more accepting. It's hard but that's life. Good luck.
2006-07-30 13:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by adora_sakura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not being silly, if you found a holiday he should have invited you to go. the big problem here isnt that he didnt invite you to lunch, its the fact that you are broke. you need to sort out you financial problems which in turn will sort out the problems you have wit ur bf. try getting a loan but remember if you do, dont get into debt. be sensible whatever you decide to do.
2006-07-30 13:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by azaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it was wrong, bit of a shitty boyfriend if you ask me, he is just thinking of himself and not you you're all civil to each other so you should have gone or at least been included.
You should argue with him he's living with you, meant to be spending the rest of his life with you how come he puts his stomach and his family before you, I'd have kicked him to the kerb long ago to be honest & found someone who loves and respects me more than he loves himself
2006-07-30 12:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and buy your own steak dinner. Charge it or whatever. Write a bad check. The best thing for any relationship is to be petty and jealous and you have a great start!
2006-07-30 12:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Marshal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have told his family that he couldn't go and eat with them because you would be alone with no dinner. He should have said he feels it would be unfair to you and left the ball in their court.
If I lived with a boyfriend that did that to me I would leave. He is inconsiderate and it will only get worse the longer you are together. So do yourself a favour, forget your heart and let your head rule.
2006-07-30 15:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being silly , i had a boyfriend to that to me once when i did not have anywhere to go and i actually was stuck in the rain and had to walk all the way to his home to find out he was already eating a meal , so yea i was pissed and i left his *** right there if he did not respect me engough to come and let me know he was eating its not all about him if 2 people are involved they should go through things together no you are not being silly you are just being real .so its up to you if you want to stay in that relationship.
2006-07-30 14:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by ree_reese_reesebaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if you should be cross because when the arrangement was made you were unavalible, also would you rather you both only had toast, i think if it was me i'd be ok about it, it's a bit unfair to expect him to turn down time with his family.(Bit selfish)
ultimatly you can change the way you feel though.
2006-07-30 13:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, to me, this looks a little selfish. If he doesn't think about looking after you then imagine what it would be like if you had a child... he'd be off across his parents while you and baby starved at home??.. I'd ask him where his priorities lie... and then decide what to do..
2006-07-30 12:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Katy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a bum! Get rid of him & find someone else, oe better yet, go it on your own for awhile untill you meet someone nice. Don't be stuck with this loser the rest of your life.
2006-07-30 14:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋