I think my 11 year old daughter needs to watch her weight but she gets mad whenever i tell she needs to?

Question

my daughter is 11
shes weighs about 88 lbs
she is going to be in 6th grade in august school year
she wears a size 12-14 slim in girls
she is small on the top but has medium thighs and a big butt
she likes to eat and snack alot sometimes
she looks good in a bikini
her boobs are growing but are small
she says she want s to go back down to a size 10 and 70lbs
shes gained about 10 lbs
SHE DOESNT NOT HAVE A PERID ...YET THE DOCTOR SAID ABOUT A YEAR
how can i delay her period and get her weight down so she will feel COMPETLY content
and is this weight thing average or is she on theverge of getting fat

Answer 1

Why didnt you talk to the doctor about her weight when it sounds like you asked about when she would be getting her period. He or She would be the ones to tell you if her weight is normal or not and also help her if she does need to take off some weight. Trust me it's very hurtful when your parents tell you you're butt is big or you could lose some weight. At 26 my parents tell me that and it still hurts my feelings and I'm not even a large woman!!

Answer 2

Please stop criticizing your daughter about her weight. It will make her eat more. She is only 11 years old and too young to be dieting. Put yourself in her place at that age. How would you like your mother talking about your butt and if you look good in a bikini. I think you need to fill the house with healthy snacks and the both of you can take up jogging. Show by example and lead your daughter. Don't even think for a minute you can control her natural development so she will feel content. You need to concentrate on things other than weight for an 11 year old and make her feel special just the way she is or you are going to have a very mixed up unhappy child.

Answer 3

My goodness woman... you are setting your daughter up for an eating disorder already!! She is absolutely perfect! And why in gods name would you want to delay the start of her period? It will happen when it happens and there is no reason at all it should be delayed.
At 88 pounds, she sounds like she is where she should be. Don't encourage her to lose weight. It is unhealthy in a child this age. Talk to her Dr, what do they think about your behavior?
My daughter was around 90 pounds at that age and she was quite thin and bony, I can't imagine her losing weight. If your daughter gets down to 70 pounds, she will be underweight.
Quit obsessing so much about the numbers. Let your daughter develop and grow up normally. More than likely if you weren't pushing about the weight, she wouldn't think she had any to lose.

You already posted another question about your 14 year old becoming anorexic... seems to be an issue in your household. Sounds like you need to back off!!!

Answer 4

Well how tall is she?? I'm 12 and i'm going into the 7th grade and i haven't had my period yet either but i'm really short and i weigh 83 lbsbut i'm also 4''7 so how tall is she maybe you should ask the doctor if it is a normal weight for her but to me it sounds like she is preety thin cause i am really tiny and she on;y weighs a few lbs more than me and she definatly doesn't need to worry about being 70 lbs at this time but i don''t kknow we are all different i basically never gain weight cause i have a fast metabalism so it all depends on the girl!!

Answer 5

Do not tell your daughter at the age of 11 that she needs to lose weight. Instead, find new and fun activities for her to do, according to her hobbies, etc. Does she like to dance, do gymnastics, play sports?

Get rid of the snack foods around the house and prepare healthy snacks. Prepare healthy foods. Have her help you in the preparation and make it fun to learn about calories and proper / low fat food preparation. Make cooking a treat not a chore and stay far away from fast food restaurants.

I know its easy to run through a McDonalds or Taco Bell drive thru. Or, order take out, but this is not going to help your daughter.

Encourage her to get outside and be active and do it with her when you can.

Get her into the habit of waking up early and going for a brisk walk. In fact, get your whole family to go. Show her that it is such a good way to start her day.

Obviously, you need to tailor activities that will work with you and your husband and your family's schedule. But, my point is implement activities that the entire family does together to lead a healthier lifestyle. Don't single her out. Educate yourself and your family together. When your daughter sees her mom and dad working so hard to have a healthier lifestyle, she will want to emulate you.

Answer 6

It's important to right at this moment change your mind frame, for her and for you. Instead of telling her you're worried about her getting fat, stress how important it is to be healthy..which does mean not being fat but carries a whole lot more meaning also.

Research the benefits of exercising with her. Pick a something the two of you enjoy doing and can do together. Healthy bonding while working on healthy bodies. Make it something fun! With your daughter being in school you could even turn in into a science project for use come science fair time.

She's at a age where you control a lot of what she eats. Go shopping together and buy healthy foods with her. This is a great time for her to learn which foods benefit different body functions. You'll also be teaching her how to shop for herself later. Teach her things like carrots are good for your eyesight because they have beta carotene in them which helps your body to make the fluid that surrounds the cornea in your eyeball. Fish is great protein that helps your muscles grow by strengthen the cell walls that comprise your muscle tissue.

This is a great opportunity to begin teaching her things she'll keep with her forever, this is when you get to mold her into the sort of healthy eating and living that will stick with her the rest of her life. Have fun with it!

Answer 7

First you need to just be a positive role model for her and show her by example how to eat right. Never should you emphasize weight with a young girl, especially at this age. I wonder, as I read your question if the weight issue is about her, or you? I couldn't believe you were breaking down her body size for all of us. It is so irrelevant. Putting too much focus on all of this could damage her self esteem and cause her to develop an eating disorder. Again, the best thing you can do is lead by example. Provide for her good foods and offer her healthier choices. Inspire her to want to make good decisions that affect her health. Increase her activities, but don't get preoccupied with lbs. and body image. This isn't healthy, at all, for young girls. Believe me our culture will put enough stress on her to be thin.

Answer 8

She is ELEVEN - the more you get on her case about it, the more you're going to scar her. Instead of telling her she needs to lose weight, why don't you do some family activities together that involve sneaky exercise. Go for a walk together, go swimming, walk around the mall a couple of times.....start making healthier suppers, and if you make her lunch give her a healthier lunch too. Trying to delay her period is just silly - unless you put her on hormones or on the pill, and I really, really hope you wouldn't do that. Don't give the poor girl a complex -she's only eleven and shouldn't be worrying about her mother calling her fat. Just love her and try to encourage her without the name calling and making her feel bad.

Answer 9

shes eleven, please dont mess with her mind by telling her to be uncomfortable with her weight. She might have been content with herself before you started a list of criticisms on her.
She is not going to do anything about it until she feels she wants to, not just needs to. Suggest fun activities for her but dont put her down and press her into exercising. Also, does she do the shopping for the household? Buy healthy foods, and dont buy junkfood. What she cant get to, she cant eat. Cut up fruit and veggies with dip for her to eat as snacks, or find other things that arent processed and salted and fatted to death. No Fries!

Answer 10

when i was 11 i weighed over 100 pounds which was unnormal. then i started runnning around the block with friends everyday. it worked and at this point i still do it. this is good for your child becuase when she wants to go out and leave the house (or the stage when she doesnt want to be around you) she will get to exersize and gossip it is good for her and running is one of the exersizes that doctors apporve of the most. if your child has a breatheing disorder you can always get her involed in a less running sport. With the snacks i would have to say...instead of junky snacks get her bananas,apples, something sweet and yet healthy. tell her to eat a snack and then go exersize that way she will burn calories and still be energetic. If she gets upset when you tell her to exersize...lay it down for her nicely and then show her pictures of people fat, and what they look like. let her see what a healthy heart looks like and what a non healthy heart looks like. take it from me, my mom is a doctor lol.