To me, a married one who cheats seeks for something better than what he/she already have. It cant be for something worse, logically.When told to go to the other better side, yet he refused. Why?
2006-07-30 05:35:49 · 33 answers · asked by DiL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want him to leave becoz I had enough of his lies and cheatings. I want to live my own life now without him but he wont let me go easily.
2006-07-30 05:50:10 · update #1
Your opinions on why mates cheat is not entirely on target. Men cheat for egotistical reasons. Women cheat because they are seeking momentary relief from feeling unloved. Very different reasons. Men know that the grass is NOT greener, it is just mowed differently. The "grass" that flatters a man, makes him feel that he is King for a Day, and makes him feel irresistable has a good chance of success...for a moment. Trust me, your husband will no sooner be finished than be wondering what the hell he is doing in that bed with that jerk...he will instantly know this was a very stupid thing to do...and yet, he will do it again and again...IF, and only IF, he does not get fulfilled at home. A wise mate will heap on praise at every opportunity. A wise mate will let the other know that life would not be good without them. ALL too often, we forget the little things that make romance fabulous. The mouth is the best sex organ we have (get your mind out of the gutter!) for it is the spoken, daily things we say that really count. If your husband leaves the house feeling that he is already KING, trust me, he will not go looking for a court jester. Granted, a few men are insatiable when it comes to flattery, and these few are destined to live a life of misery, for no matter who they bed, they will not be happy enough...these men are not worth the time of day, and certainly not worth investing a life into. Good luck...Don't tell your husband how much you love him...he knows that. Tell him how good looking he is, how sexy his outfit makes him look, that he has a great body you want to use for a moment or two, that he has a killer smile, that his eyes are brighter than any you have ever seen.... a few white lies never hurt anyone, and they can work wonders in the long run.
2006-07-30 05:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
um, dont quite get the question.. but your thinking is flawed that it cant be for something worse! do you know how many married men cheat on their wives with prostitutes??? i know that some wives (and woman and men in general) can be horrible people and horrible wives, but a prostitutes is the lowest of the low! so right there your thinking has been proven wrong...now if he feels the need to go outside the marriage, then he is breaking sacrad vows to you and the rest of his family... the grass is not always greener on the other side... and you cannot tell a man to go to the other side bc 1. he will not admit it if he was going to cheat (at least not right away and def not right in front of you when you suggest he cheats) and 2. he (think about this one) might really love you! and doesnt want anybody else! it sounds like you have trust and self esteem issues!! go and get help from a professional psychiatrist...while you having these issues doesnt mean he cant, wont or hasnt cheated on you, it does mean that you risk losing him in the future with you unhealthy views on marriage and your self... u sound like you are begging him to go and cheat so that he can find something better than you ...like you think you are not worthy and are a pathetic person.. you are not or he wouldnt have married you in the first place!
go get help
2006-07-30 05:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by derek s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people don't cheat for that reason alone. Most do, but some just do it to do it. Sad but true. Maybe for him it's not about better, just about getting away with it.
The grass is always greener for someone else then it is for you...that's the way of the world.
2006-07-30 05:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most affairs are about sex. Leaving a marriage is a heavy burden. Cheating spouses may remain in the marriage because of the safety and certainty that exists in the history of that setup. Some fear that they could not live with the guilt should they leave. Most know that they craved additional sex, but deep within they still loved their loyal spouse too much to risk it all.
2006-08-01 16:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married person who cheats may not at all be seeking something better.
>They may be seeking to solve insecurities.
>They may be seeking to hurt their spouse.
>They may be seeking a cheap thrill.
>They may be seeking to build their ego.
None of these things has anything to do with 'greener grass' and falling for that line is simply falling for a line.
It's better to stay away from married people, because even if they leave their spouse for you, it just makes you next to be left for someone else 'greener.'
2006-07-30 05:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side but the water bill is higher-learned that from a movie.
'Learned from my best friend that the grass is never greener on either side and you'll always have hard times either way.
:)
2006-07-30 05:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the grass is hardly ever greener on the other side some people just have to see it to belive it.
2006-07-30 05:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass isn't always greener.sometimes it's just younger,and less mowed.any guy that cheats is looking for something he is not getting at home.which is always more sex.he doesn't want to go to the other side cause divorce is very expensive.and given the choice of lots of sex or being broke.a smart guy will always choose his money.cause sex is only as far away as his hand.if i was you i would start divorce procedures and watch how fast he starts to see how green your grass is.good luck.
2006-07-30 05:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he might really want to turn over a new leaf for his wrong doings. but, tis turn over might be just another fling to get u back. who knows...???he even might not be sure for himself getting u back will solve all the problems and everyting will be put into rest. for sure now is that his target is U! i DOUBT u will let it rest as there are too many thorns in yr heart already and NOBODY can pull them out accept U yrself can pull out those painful spiky thorns.
a marriage of 18 years and a familiy of a son and daughter that he have built all tis years... hoping..., wishful tinking.... and not realising that a disaster he might creat for himself for not treasuring it. all tis tings going to disappear from him, his life, just like that. thats is y he refused to accept d fact that he have to pay back so much or rather ALL of it for his wrong doings. NOTHING! is FREE in the world.
if u have made up yr mind and decided wat to do with yr life then move on and dont turn back. he will eventually have to give in to yr decisions. we can only hope that yr decision will teach him a very good lesson he will never forget for d rest of his life that have cost him so much for being unfaithful to u and that includes everyone of us here who cheats their spouse.
nobody wants to see a broken marriage...but sometimes when tings happens it just happened and there is no turning back.
take care...
2006-07-30 15:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness we were born with a conscience,and if he/she takes the time to listen to that little voice inside, we can make a right decision instead of a poor decision that we will have to live with for many years to come.
If we don't rush into a wanna be decision,we can make our own better judgments.
2006-07-30 05:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋