My bf and I recently had a heart to heart - nearly broke up, and one of the things i had issues with was that he didn't hug me or hold my hand or give me a kiss on the cheek in public...never ever. I'm forever having to ask for a hug. Surely a gf doens't have to ask for a hug, or affection?
Anyways we decided to give us another go, and we went out last night, and the same thing happened, he wasn't giving me any attention, and i said something and he replied 'i don't HAVE TO hug you, you know'
Whats wrong with him?
2006-07-30 05:27:44 · 16 answers · asked by leffers55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing wrong with him at all, maybe (as some one has already said) he was brought up without a lot of hugs and kisses?
I don't like public displays of affection, a kiss and hug at the airport or similar is OK ,I suppose a couple walking hand in hand is OK, but no need to go over the top is there?
It doesn't mean he cares any less about you, but believe me he will if you keep pushing him! I don't think he will ever change,I haven't! You will either have to accept him as he is or start looking for a 'sloppy' feller who is willing to cuddle you non stop, and whenever you demand it??
Good luck in your choice,try and make it before your feller does!.
2006-08-02 08:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by budding author 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know some people are just shy and are like that for some reason I don't like kissing in public but I don't mind holding hands or hugging. But still No attention is not a good thing a girl needs all of those stuff. so I think you should talk to him about that, tell him if he can't pay you some atention it's over. there will be other guys, better ones.
2006-07-30 12:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by MMN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find public displays of affection diffult, there's a film with Adam Sandler in it where that happends...
But there is nothing wrong with him. He might be going through a faze.
Maybe you are so stressed with the fact that he is not showing you affection that you aren't actually giving him affection, are you doing the right thing too, we are not all perfect!
Go all teary eyed and tell him that you don't feel emotionally attached, but don't force him, if he says "I don't HAVE to hug you, you know" then say, "I know you don't INSERT NAME HERE, but I need to feel like you love me..."
good luck hun
2006-07-30 12:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with him, he is just not interested any more. Girlfriend save yourself allot of heart ace and dump the guy. If you like your man to give you allot of attention, then you should go out with a man like that. Never, but never settle for any thing els, because that is not what you want. You will just hurt yourself by going out with a man that does not fill your needs. Remember, you have always a choice!
2006-07-30 13:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Marlien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. I hate it when people touch me. Don't annoy him. Just enjoy his company. If he takes any medication like antidepressants, that could cause such an effect. Or if he does not feel good about himself or his body, that could be another reason. But it doesn't have to be from that. And it doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He just does not want to be touched.
Don't try to fix or change him b/c you will just cause more fights and another breakup. He will hug you, just maybe not as much as you'd like. Hug him or touch him when you want to if you can. Don't wait for him to do it. If it annoys him, though, stop.
2006-07-30 12:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever there is a prob wid somebody u love first check with yourself......how are you contributing to this situation?not as 2 blme urself butr juz 2 solve this situation faster better......"maybe" just maybe my dear friend he doesnt like u asking for affection & wd like u wait until he feels like it...or maybe he is uncomfortable wid public display of affection....some people are.Anyways how is he if u take d first step how does he react?..i thin u should focus on how u can give more......be more patient with him...give him the freedom to choose how to love u how to express that love....ok...dont forget to pray for help from God in this problem of yours................best of luck dear
2006-07-30 13:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by tianchifuerza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships work 2 ways.
Life is a mirror.
You get back what you put in.
Gradually without comments to him, you do to him all those things you want him to do to you, he should then feel your warmth and return the feelings.
Without you doing it to him it would only feel as if he was doing these things to you because you told him to.
2006-07-30 18:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Brian J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's uncomfortale with showing affection in public. It would also help to remember what he had issues with, because if you can compromise, then everything will work out.
2006-07-30 12:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jumpin Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with him; it's probably just the way he was brought up. So either love him for who he is, or move on and find someone who you'll be more compatible with.
2006-07-30 12:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he never got affection of any kind of his parents ,so he doesnt know how to give it to you. Maybe if you show him how its done instead of asking for it.
2006-07-30 12:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋