i love him and hes a good guy hes not a violent sort of person should we try to fix this or move on please help me
2006-07-30 05:21:04 · 17 answers · asked by starrlphippslphipps2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being drunk shouldn't be an excuse for any behavior. People should know their limits.
2006-07-30 12:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by bonjovifan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that alcohol and your boyfriend do not mix in any way, shape, or form. His being drunk has liberated him to express deeper seated feelings...whether or not these feelings are toward you is another question with no easy answers. If the realationship has been good, IF he will not pick up alcohol again, there is no reason not to work it out. But, I think I would try to get to the bottom of why, when he is uninhibited (from alcohol), he hit you. Did you goad him? What was your part in this altercation? Try to fix it...it ain't broke yet, and may never be. We cannot answer this for you in any way. IF you are so willing to move on, then your attachment is not that solid in the first place. Good luck
2006-07-30 05:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he doesn't normally drink and he's not normally violent. If this is a one time thing that's out of character for your boyfriend, it might be worth talking to him about what happened, is he aware of what he did, and how does he feel about it? If he can recognise that what he did was wrong and he's prepared to work at your relationship, then you should go for it, but let him know that once is once too often. Don't let it develop into a pattern no matter how much you love him. Violence is not a show of affection and if he loves you, he'll do what he can to keep you. Good luck!
2006-07-30 05:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by liltinyone:-) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys get mean when they drink. If he normally doesn't drink, this may be why. Many people realize they have this problem and don't drink. Hitting is wrong, drunk or sober. If you'ere willing to forgive him, I'd tell him in no uncertain terms he gets a freebie this time, but if it happens again you're calling 911, he goes to jail and you go out of his life forever. Otherwise you could end up being one of those chronically abused women who stay in an abusive relationship "because I love him". I've heard it too many times before.
2006-07-30 08:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to never drink again, I would say stay. I would just watch out for the warning signs in the future. I used to use the excuse that my ex would only hit me when he was drinking. Over time, it was when he was sober too. I spent many days in the hospital and he has spent some time in jail. This isn't something to take lightly. Good luck to you....I hope it all works out!
2006-07-30 05:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... it's a tricky situation that I can understand. If he is sorry for hitting you then you could try and resolve the matter. (Remember one thing, love should never override your happiness. If he hasn't stopped hurting you then you can leave him). If you are hurt by what he has done the issue must be addressed. You can go to couple counseling together to work out the issues with his drinking problem and the fact that he hit you.
2006-08-01 08:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by SonicBoom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he never drink liek that before and never hit you before and now he is drunk and hit you firs ttime. and I think you tell him to stop drinking and get help if not you need to get the heck out of here asap. Because if he won't he will not stop and will drink and will give you far from more hitting to serious beating to death who knows might happen. I know you love him but if he love you and he wouldn't drink and hit you.
I wouldn't do that to my wife and I drink but never hit but When I drink and I go see other girl and she caugh me and I work very very hard to have her trust me again. I stopped drinking and Married for 9 years and it been 9 years no drinking and have 2 small children very happy. If he don't do what I do I will be end up more deep crap like that.
Think about it your life is imporant than love him. God Bless you.
2006-07-30 05:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him, drunk or not a man better not ever put his hands on me. If you don't want to leave for good at least leave him for a little while so that he can see the consequences for his actions, and before taken him back make him go to counseling and tell him if he ever puts his hand on you again you will have a man come put his hand on him in return. Make sure you let him know, one chance is all you get and you already used yours up, so if he fu*ks up again he will be gone for good.
2006-07-30 05:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. he is not used to drinking. now you both know how he is really like when he does drink again. if he continues to drink if only once in awhile and is mean then yes leave. if you don't it will become a habit with him and you may get seriously hurt.
2006-07-30 05:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Looks like he can't handle strong drink. He'd have to avoid ever getting drunk again, or I'd hand him walking papers.
2006-07-30 05:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋