and bathing the child, putting them to bed. is it wrong to think i deserve a meal or 2 cooked for me once or twice a year.
2006-07-30 05:15:46 · 32 answers · asked by 1meanmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, that is your job since you stay home. However, your husband should help with the kids in the evening and you absolutely deserve to have a break here and there. If your hubby doesn't cook he could at least take the family out to dinner. Also, since your job is at home and you never get to physically leave it, it is important that you take an hour or two to yourself a few times a week. If you don't you will drive yourself crazy! Good luck!
2006-07-30 05:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You deserve more then a meal once or twice a year. There is no excuse for your spouse to expect you to take care of all of the household end of things. Your spouse is literally off of work when he or she gets home.. your job is never done? When do you get a vacation?
Best advice.. the next free day your spouse has, don't ask, just leave the kids with him and go. It doesn't matter what you do, just take a few hours for yourself. Have dinner with some friends. Tell your friends in advance so they can plan to do the same thing. If they ask why.. tell them you are a Mom on Strike. See how he likes getting dinner together, cleaning it up, bathing the kids, getting them to bed....
2006-07-30 05:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! Your husbands day is over at five ( or whenever he gets off work ) There is no reason you should have to work 24-7. I'm a stay at home mommy too. We only have one 2 year old currently but there is one on the way. My husband and I share the responsibilities that come with having a child, whether it is changing diapers or doing the dishes. We don't have a set schedule or anything, we just do what needs to be done. If I had a bad day daddy helps more, if he had a bad day I help more. Once in a while I even get a day off, where daddy does all the baby stuff and straightening up and I get to play on the computer or something.
:) Good luck I hope you and hubby can come to some kind of compromise too!
2006-07-30 05:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by s c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is a stay at home wife and I expect her to keep the house cleaned care for the dog, we dont have kids yet, and have dinner ready at least 5 days a week. However, I do enjoy cooking so I cook pretty often. Although we have been together for 4 years and I have dont 2 loads of laundry and dishes maybe only 6 times. I think that every woman deserves a little help, even though you might not need it it is good to know there is someone there that can help.
2006-07-30 05:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by CT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Me and my wife we both take turn to help one another. she cook and I clean up the diner and kitchen. If she gave bath kids and I make sure PJ and bed made and eveyrthing ready when ready I take my son or daughter either way and then my wife and I dry our kids and then put on pj and bush teeth. I even go to coin laundry every early the morning while my family sleep. and come home and we all do things toether.. I don't care if you are stay home mom but I do give my wife a break when ever she needed to be doing and we both work real job and when she and kids goes vacation I clean up all the house and do yard work and clean garage. too.
I do cook my wife and kids most the time and clean up kitch en and diner room. I didn't want her to do anything in the kitchen only cooking when ever she feels like it.
Hope you like this. And it true now me and my wife married for 9 years and 2 small children and I believe both need to help each other no matter if housewife, househusband, both working or what ever both need to work as a team and it made marriage alot easier haha.
Hope that helps?
2006-07-30 05:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something you and your husband have to work out. I was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years with three kids. And, yes, it is a HARD job. And, yes, I think that your husband should help out. But don't discount things such as yard work, fixing things around the house, etc. Those are helping, too.
If your husband just refuses to help, there's really not much you can do. If he won't cook or clean, maybe you can put him in charge of bedtime or bathtime. Or maybe even feeding the child in the morning, etc, getting him or her ready for the day, etc. A lot of men balk at the idea of, say, bathing a child; but once they do it, they enjoy it.
My husband enjoys cooking. And a lot of times he will cook if he has a chance to. It's the dishes, laundry and cleaning that I get stuck with! It's not worth ruining the peace and harmony of the home for fairness in housework, though. So I have just had to find a way to take care of it without being angry or resentful towards my husband. I have to remember the things he does do, the lawn, cooking, folding an occassional load of laundry.
Have you asked your husband to help? maybe he just doesn't realize you want help or you'd like him to cook for you.
But I unfortunately know many women whose husbands REFUSE to do that. And they have had to come to terms with it, for their families' sake.
Good luck to you. Being a full-time mom is the HARDEST job in the world!!!
2006-07-30 05:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a stay at home mom then the childcare is your job description. But the other things, the cooking and so forth, yeah everyone needs a break and it may be night to get some help from your husband on the meals and cleaning.
2006-07-30 05:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by NolaD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! He should be still willing to help out because being a mom and wife is a 24 hour duty! We have no breaks unless the husband helps to give us one.
Ask your husband to put the kids to bed, while you relax on the couch. Put your feet up. If he isn't willing to do that...........
Get a sitter for one day out of the week, where you can have a breather from it all. Make it your day, whether you go get your nails, hair done or just go to a park and sit and read a book, mom's need time off too!
2006-07-30 05:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you stay at home doesn't mean you're not working. And you deserve more than one or two meals cooked for you during the year. Straighten up your backbone and get what you deserve...help from hubby....or a housekeeper. Hang in there.
2006-07-30 05:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, im my oponion, if you are the stay at home mom and your man works all day, than yeah maybe you should cook and clean and take care of the kids. That doesn;t mean on his day off, he shouldnt help you. he should cook you dinner once in a while, or even higher a sitter for the kids and take you out. Maybe you should talk to him about it.
2006-07-30 05:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋