My husband & I have nothing in common anymore. We don't have anything to talk about except our son or household matters. Right now, our 8 yr old son is gone for the weekend & I'm so bored I can't stand it. I'm thinking that in a few years when our son is old enough to move out, it will be like this at home all the time. I'm panicking. My husband is in another room watching a boring documentary on TV. Do I have reason to divorce him? Or am I just being shallow?
2006-07-30 05:15:45 · 20 answers · asked by DragonLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, doing that, but before you jump to the ultimate conclusion I think there are a few things to consider. Have you told him how you feel? He might feel the same way. Do you try to spice things up, keep things interesting in all aspects of your life? Does he? Would you like him to? Do you do anything together? Travel, hobbies, anything? Could you be? Or if you think it's over, as Dear Abby once said, "would you be better off with him or without him?" Good luck.
2006-07-30 08:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being very shallow. IF you are bored, don't blame your husband, blame yourself. You have at your disposal at the tools for a rewarding life. Yet you sit in a corner bored??? Get a life, get out of the house, volunteer for good causes, help others who have less than you, drag your husband out with you..get involved with things outside the house, .... there are so many things to do in life, so many in desparate need...and you have the nerve to tell us that you are bored???? !!! Put some romance back into your investment...11 years is a lot of time. YOu have NO guarantees that any other path will lead to a different place. ONLY you can change your destiny, and divorce should NOT be an option. I suggest your first step is to start reading all the questions in this section and find out what REAL trouble is. You are NOT going to choose this as best answer, but this is the honest answer. You are bored because you choose to be bored...nothing more, nothing less. It is NOT your husband's job to entertain you. It is NOT your husband's job to make sure you life is fullfilled and rewarding. These things are up to you. Take a course at the local college...expand your mind, take up a new career, make a cottage industry and produce a company that sells things. Lord, the options are so vast..and you sit here and say you are bored. Oh, I wish I had only your problems. Good luck
2006-07-30 05:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cant go to court and get a divorce because your bored. Would love to be in the court room to see the judges reaction to your grounds. Sorry but people would laugh,.
Bored. Do something. Get naked and jump all over him.
I don't think your really bored as much as you say. I think you just want a reason to leave him.
Talk does wonders sometimes. You just need to talk to him instead of asking Yahoo Answers. Doesn't your marriage and son deserve that much?
2006-07-30 05:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 27 years and I have had my share of boring nights with the guy. but ask yourself, will it be better w/o him? Sometimes we do reach a too comfortable place in our relationship and it takes a jolt to resuscitate it back to life. come on now you know there is something in that guy you like, build on that. It will get better. Our kid is in sports and this has been a good connector for us we joined the boosters together and seem to have a whole new world of other people to talk about. so maybe you can find something like that. I know that nothing unites us better that coming together on a subject and sometimes making fun of other parents. It's all in fun but we laugh together. Also, I used to think that he has to make all the moves and that too is not true. If you be a little flirt that can be fun and don't be surprised if it takes him a little time to recognize that, its probably been a while. Good Luck and remember we're pullin for ya.
2006-07-30 05:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by chrisrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask yourself, "why" aren't you cuddled under your husband watching the boring documentary with him? taking a interest in what he is watching. why are the two of you not enjoying the time alone, and going out for a drive? What is your husbands favourite color? buy something sexy and wear for him, take up photography together, nature walking, mall walking, ask him "How was your day", sorry being bored is not grounds for divorce, you have to figure out why you married this man and try and recapture some of those moments but in a more sultry fun way...good luck
2006-07-30 05:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Zeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my sister says "he is not the cruise director of your marriage"... if you are bored...go and do something...with our without him. You both got lazy and complacent in your marriage as so many do. You go about living your day to day life to where you are almost an android....like so many do. You get in routines which lead to ruts. To get a divorce because you're bored is silly...this is easily remedied by adding in date nights and spending adult time with good friends. To choose happiness in your marriage instead of boredom is a much better environment for your children anyways. If you can change your mind, you can change your reality...it really is that easy. Now go and play with your hubbie and have some FUN!!!
2006-07-30 05:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being shallow . you are giving up. if your really love your husband and most important your son , talk to your husband. Be open honest and serious. you are both in a rut and your habits of doing the same old same old are ruining your marriage. wake up and get out of your never never land . Talk .
2006-07-30 05:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most states have "no fault" divorce laws. if you see a hair that is not parted or if he forgets to brush his teeth, you can get a no fault divorce. if he doesn't like you being on the computer, he can divorce you. if you are bored, go for it. your son already feels stress between the two of you. he will accept it but both parents must be civil. good luck, sweetheart.
2006-07-30 05:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think un-reconcilable variations ought to come under boredom, this is grounds for divorce and you need to assert you wanted to pass out and experience your life and he didnt so which you receive bored. subject solved. usually if there is not any authentic rationalization for paying for a divorce different than you in basic terms cant stand one yet another any further or you in basic terms dont decide for to be jointly anymore then un-reconcilable variations is placed down yet i think of you need to be seperated 2 years before you could report.
2016-11-03 07:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in common.....but do you still love him!?!?
You need to find time for yourselves and do things that you used to do before the kids came. We get so busy in our daily lives that we start to lose ourselves. And then it becomes boring.
You need to go out and find things for you to do together, bowling, dinner and a movie, just hang out at a park......lay on a blanket with each other look up at the sky and just rest together...
It becomes dull and boring when you do nothing to make it exciting.
2006-07-30 05:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋