My boyfriend says I'm driving him crazy because of the pregnancy. He needs his own space.?

Question

But I love him and don't want him to leave any advice. I'm so sensitive right now.

Answer 1

I understand my man got really upset about my emotions to....but he didnt leave. how old ru guys...if ur just teenagers then of corse he is overwelmed i would suggest that you suggest to him that you guys try councling...if he is willing then try it...even if your adults for a man it is a lot to take in you need to give him time to execpt was it going on in his life...even if you are not together he should be there for the baby and he is prob. just trying to figure all this out for himself

Answer 2

Give him some spacce?

I know you are going through a tough time, but his mind is spinning right now. The mental stress of having a child applies to both sexes. He is probably frieking out, knowing that
1. He is stuck with you for at least 18 years
2. Won;t have a spare Penny for him for 22 years
3. Will probably have to work too jobs to support you and the baby


He really does just need a bit of time to hang out with his friends alone. If you want him to stick around for the next 18 years, you have to give hima reason why othere than the baby. The reason of course is that you are a fun loving gal who won;t be a ball 'n Chain

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Answer 3

He's definitely not ready for the baby. If he was, he'd be giving you a ring and setting a wedding date. The fact that he's saying he wants his space...I"m sorry, sweetheart but he is thinking of getting out. I know it's not what you want to hear, but he's scared and obviously doesn't want the responsibility.

And if he does, call your local child support office. The court will make him keep a full time job, and can charge him with contempt if he doesn't. You'll get a percentage of his check, and it is now standard that this is at a set rate - so if he loses or quits his job, he'll still be legally responsible for paying you to help with the baby. Not only that, but he'll be responsible for paying at least 1/2 the birthing expenses of the baby. (If you have insurance, he'll have to reimburse you. If you have state aid, he has to reimburse the state.) He'll also be responsible for obtaining medical & dental coverage of the child. In some courts, he'll also be responsible for paying 1/2 child care costs. Not only that, but all the visitation rights that he'll get for a newborn is "reasonable times with reasonable notice." This is reasonable for the mother.

Deadbeats who leave...well, the courts really stick it to them. Get the info you can - educate him on what you'll be entitled to. But, if he leaves - there is nothing you can do to stop him. He should be taking care of YOU.

Answer 4

That's exactly why he needs to be considerate of u, when ur pregnant it's hard, ur going through changes u've never been through before and hey it's his child !!! that's inside u he's gonna have to treat u better i mean for all he knows it's easy to be pregnant but u know men, always insensitive, their feelings come first so i'd say tell him hey we're in this together ur gonna have to treat me nicer, im carrying ur child here and it's not like i can just put my pregnancy aside and tell it " hey i need my space" it doesnt work that way !!! ur both in this and he should be considerate, sweet and he should please u in everyway possible, if this is ur first child take advantage that the baby isnt here yet, relax, sleep a lot, walk a lot cus once the baby is here u two will never be able to have alone time anymore u know a little person is on the way so try to do things together tell him that its ur hormones and deal with it (him) because its not like u can control it or its not like ur doing it on purpose. good luck

Answer 5

I am so sorry that you were immature enough to getpregnant by such a scumbag. Either abort it or deal with the fact that you're going to be a single mother.

He is dumping you and trying to avoid his responsibilities.

Start legal proceedings now, if you intend to keep the baby to get child support from your scumbag, irresponsible immature boyfriend. He should be responsible for pre-natal care as well as child support until the child turns 18.

If you deliver and keep the baby, remember that your wants, goals and desires are subservient to the needs of the child until it is an adult.

Answer 6

Its a tough time for both of you. As a woman you have hormones getting you ready for the joys of motherhood but your partner doesn't have this helping him so he is scared.

Talk to him, maybe if he talked to his father it would help, I know my partner found that useful.

Give him space to enjoy being a carefree man for the last time, let him go out with his mates and have fun - he won't get a chance for that when the baby arrives.

Most of all TALK to him. Having a baby isn't the end of the world, its just the start of a whole new one!

Good luck

Answer 7

Well, try to think before speaking, like 'would I be thinking this way normally?' or 'what is my usual response to this behavior or tone of voice or mood, or whatever?' If your emotion is much higher than your regular emotion would be, then you need to check yourself and get some alone time to cool off, so you arent aiming the brunt of your emotions at your boyfriend. and if hes reading this, he needs to learn to understand that pregnancy is a traumatic event for the body in that it throws all hormones and chemicals out of whack, not to mention discomfort and throwing up. Not pleasant. So he should try to be supportive, since its not just the woman who has the baby, its his too.

Answer 8

he needs his own space with a baby on the way...With a baby there is no such thing as your own space...Sound to me like he is indeed dumping you...yes you are sensitive and he should know that if he is truly ready for a child...I think the pregnancy is not all that he wants space from...

Answer 9

maybe your boyfriend thinks that your getting all the attention, and that makes him jealous. Also maybe the baby talk is burning him out a little. Try giving him his space for a while, he will eventually come around, he also could be scared. just be patient with him. GOOD LUCK . hope he's somewhat of a man and can deal with his responsbilities.

Answer 10

let him go if he really loved you what is space that a form of a nice way of someone saying they dont want to be with you. let him go think about child he still could be a father to his child though. or give him some time and maybe he will come back.