why are we such hypocrites?

Question

why are we such hypocrites when it comes to sexual aspects?

what i mean , when somone talks openly about sex people call him "pervert" , openly i mean, school, job, public places??

we already know that 98% of man and 96% of females do masturbates or have been, we know that is it normal to think about sex, as everyone does, we know that sex is good for us, many people have sex, so why we can not just talk about it openly?

no short answers, i want seriuos point of view, if you are here just for spam , find other place please.

Answer 1

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I must admit there are times when questions like this particular one gives me pause, or even shock. It comes down to never being desirous for others to really know us. The masterbation question is the biggest culprit.

Answer 2

Everybody likes it, but we like to keep it private. Sex- real sex, not some substitute- makes babies. You should not make a baby unless you are in a committed relationship and you can stick around to care for your child. So you see, you cannot just have sex with everyone. It remains a private thing. Why should you expect that you could talk about it with everyone when it is so clear that you can't do it with everyone. As for hypocrasy in general, our minds create much higher expectations than our bodies can live up to, so the mouth says one thing while the body does something else. It is a matter of finding a realistic, workable compromise. Let your mouth say something that your body is actually capable of and learn how much control you can actually exert over your body. You could say- in a fit of dramatic rage- that you will never eat or sleep or have sex again- but your body won't help you make good on that oath. Marriage is such a workable compromise, but only if you can have all the sex you want with your spouse.
As for what is and what is not an appropriate place to talk about sex, schools are for education and sex education is quite appropriate at school, but un-restricted talking about sex may or may not be a good thing in every case. If you are under 18, you are not supposed to be having sex, but let's be realistic: if you have been through puberty, you will have sexual thoughts and feelings. Education and careful discussion are important at this time of a person's life, but "on-the-street" talk might not be good. It is easy to get wrong information, such as the belief that 96 to 98 percent of all people masturbate. That has almost no meaning. I could say "so what?" or I could say "how often?" or I could ask how all these people filled out the survey if they were so busy masturbating, but the truth of statistics is that they are always based on asking a limited number of people a limited number of questions and then trying to make us believe that these limited figures actually represent some "average" or "normal" point-of-view. The statement that sex is good for us is equally vague. Healthy sex in a healthy relationship is healthy sometimes, but people can be abusive and promiscuous and people can over-do any good thing.
What is your deal, here, anyway? Did you try to talk to someone about sex at an inappropriate time and place and you got called a pervert? Or maybe you made an advance and you got rejected? There's a time and place and it's personal and you can't do it with everyone. But now I'm repeating myself. It must be time to masturbate...

Answer 3

In my own opinion, i guess it all boils down to culture and upbringing. Some people thinks talking about sex is a taboo and some don't. Sometimes the truth is in your face, yet some people just choose to avoid it. Its not really that bad actually. Sometimes lying to yourself makes you feel better about yourself. But at the end of the day when you are at your deathbed, you will realised you had always been living a lie.
As to why are we such hypocrites, blame it on society i guess. Since young we had been taught not to do this and not to do that. But being a kid, do we all question why without being told that because its the right way? So as time goes by it became a way of life. Although deep down inside we know its ok to talk about sex, but to avoid the possibility of being an outcast of society we chose to stand with the majority who believes that talking about sex is wrong.
Honestly speaking theres a pro & con in everything. Some people believe in creation and some people believe in evolution. Its pretty obvious sometimes that evolution is more logical but majority chose to believe in creation. No offence to religious people. But honestly how perfect can we be? We are all humans.
I hope i make sense. Anyway its just my own opinion. :)

Answer 4

True! Many of us are hypocrites whether we like it or not. We consider ourselves living in free societies. In the strict sense of term we are not. This is because we are subject to what is known as societal indoctrination or some kind of brain washing which we are under going without our realizing it. This happens all the time. At home, at school,in the church, in the community and while reading books. The problem is we start accepting things in the name tradition,culture past practices without ever questioning them whether they are ok in present situation. This is the reason why we do not talk about sex although it is as important as having any meal while we are hungry. It is the direct consequence of our conditioned and inhibited mind over a period of time. We need a lot of effort to decondition our self all over again to get back to asking basic questions and never get inhibited to speak truth however basic or unpalatable it might be.

Answer 5

, every one has reservation on what they think (suitable) topics are for normal conversation sexual topics are sometimes more difficult to speak about, like was i a better lover than(one of the partners exes) and if they say yes will you still have self doubts you see when it comes down to it (no pun intended) we all think in a self concerted way that we are good not perhaps the best but good at everything we say or do, but when it comes to sex do we have hang ups and self doubt OH YES WE DO, and you have to live with any shortcomings we have in this department, you see some things are very much best left unsaid, or you can hurt the one you love, by dragging up the past, if you think about it,

Answer 6

Because there is a sense of moderation and decorum that keeps people modest so as to ensure that things don't get out of hand. You have to remember in certain circles especially (Like here) their are children watching, listening and looking at everything we say and do. Life is not just about rolling around blatantly in whatever pleasure crosses the mind. We should be living our lives for children... they are our continuation, our extension of self, our lineage and our future! Responsibility toward them should be paramount. Sex is great... I have had plenty of it, enjoyed all of it but to be graphic or irresponsible with every tiny little detail is not only unnecessary, it is redundant especially considering (as you mentioned) we all have it we all know about it, so then why "beat it to death" so to speak... Hee hee It just isn't necessary.

Answer 7

Because some people live in a world of 'sex equals strictly private time' and even in this day and age those people are shocked when others talk openly about what they consider strictly private time. Men get branded pervs and women get branded promiscuous/easy

Answer 8

It goes back to our Puritan origins and Jesus's statement that whatever you have thought in your heart, you are guilty of (paraphrased) so it was a sin to talk about it. We don't punish for sin anymore, at least not in our legal system, but the custom is still being passed down, starting with, mother's place is to teach the children while father earns the money, and women's monthly cycle is a curse, so we don't talk about it lest we bring it down on our daughters. And boys will be boys, but a girl who plays is a s!u+. There are lot's of unwritten cultural rules like that.

Answer 9

I think we historically have been very prudish about sex, and although it is more open to debate and discussion, its easier to criticise than to openly;y debate and acknowledge.. I think it is also the classic public and private thing to.. lots of people have never been encouraged to openly ask sexual questions or discuss sexuality and the like from childhood.. add religion and prejudice to this and you have your answer.

Answer 10

i think its ok to talk about such things we just have to b careful that we do it in the right place and time and in the right context. there are so many ppl who have sexual problems these days peodophiles being the main one and living in england we are not allowed to no where these ppl are and who they r, therefore we have to b careful wot we say where and when as we could easily be misinterprted as one of the above.

Answer 11

I think that we live in a society which chooses to conform to codes of conduct which see sex as something dirty, immoral and private. I am convinced that this boils down to religious conformity and controls. Much of our society has evolved as a direct transference of religious law even though it is only palpable when deeply scrutinised. This corruption of self expression is just a form of control to keep the masses in check. Even if individuals choose to opt-out of this conformity, those individuals are still confined by the society in which they live. If you choose to speak out on any particular subject then you will always be regarded with suspicion. As much as our ego drives us to be individual, we still primarily choose to conform for the sake of comfort and security within our own groups. I am at a loss as to how this will ever change but so long as there are individuals out there who choose to formulate their own opinions, and be honest about them, then perhaps we will continue to develop as a species. The innovators of this world are never conformists!