My son is 13 year old now, how to tell him to be responsible for the things arround him... especially I want him to study hard.
2006-07-30 04:27:25 · 11 answers · asked by friendship 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Homework Help
In this instant era, no parent should think using harsh or hard word would help their children to concentrate more on studies. Especially son.....as you said he is 13...means he is no more just kid....but a teenager, and this is the beginning of his coming to use his sense. So take it this way - just try to make him your friend (great that you have adopted friendship as your Yahoo ID) and drive his attention to the most important things of life, of career and his prime target of the life. Of course, do not make him as if you were his class-teacher, on the contrary let him feel as if he were having a talk with one of his buddies.
Well....next, do not force his attention only in books, have him enjoy TV, sports, biking etc....by these measures he will start to feel true independence and by that way your anticipated worries begin to dissipated.
2006-07-30 04:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by indraraj22 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are no fixed formulas for teenagers as they are different individuals.
You may try a combination of methods to see which ones are more effective on your child.
1. Find out what he likes and use those as a rewards and incentives for achieving his targets.
2. Discuss with him on his expectations and your expectations and come to an understanding.
3. Try to get him to understand "consequences" of his actions.
4. One thing parents should note is that often a teenager will openly disagree with you even though they somewhat agree with your reasoning. They are at a stage whereby, they want to explore their independence but yet they still want the support of their parents.
5. Unconditional love from parents, this is the strongest motivator for any child, even though they may not show it. It is a life message that they will not be able to deny when they grow up.
2006-07-30 04:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen is about the most difficult age with the average boy. This means that things can only get better with him.
Meanwhile, though, he can do permanent damage to himself - I know that's not so comforting!
Don't worry too much about the damage he does to others. That's the way to develop paranoia.
So, keep yourself under control and be patient. After all we all knew what to expect (or should have known) when we brought kids into this world.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 04:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by RebelBlood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great summer job to get a boy to realize school is worth it... is something outdoors in the heat with lots of move this sand pile from here to there and back again... seriously a hard labor construction job would be great for his attitude.
2006-07-30 04:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by Charity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling or lecturing will not help, the best you can do is either bribe him or sit down and have a serious discussion.
2006-07-30 04:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain him in polite manner... find out his interest on which field.. encourage him in the same field... He should feel comfortable about parents ..
2006-07-30 05:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ananth P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer him gifts and verbal recognition..when he does someting gud..
2006-07-30 04:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by AD^ONIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tactfully.you can get him books on stories of great men to inspire him
2006-07-30 04:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by raj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should've started that about a decade ago.
2006-07-30 04:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by jlrgds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...lol...Tell him that you are a NERD !! And you want him to be one..lol...And you heard it here first from a REAL Nutcase!!"""NUT'S"""..PS ..did i wn...did i wn...did i win???
2006-07-30 04:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by dl200558 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋