My X called off our engagement last week but did it over the phone...Don't you think it should have been done in person? I'm having a hard time dealing with this...
2006-07-30 04:26:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not a matter of how she should have done it. What's done is done. What you should get out of this is that how she broke up with you tells you a lot about the type of person that she is.
And to think that you almost married her.
2006-07-30 04:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! she call you on the phone and not in person?? she must have a guy there listen to her telling you that engagement is off. I am sure that how normal people will do. I know it hard and You can find a better woman and when you do and She will see you very happy and being with this woman. She will not last long with other guy... she will call and beg you... I have that plm before and i found perfect woman and she called wanted me back I told her sorry I am married and very happy. She was so upset and she said that I learn my hard lesson.
Now my wfie for 9 years and 2 small children and working 3rd child and you find better woman. I don't understand why she didn't solve the plm with you than call you and said it over. Wow, she sure have no people skill to learn to commucate with you with the plm.
2006-07-30 05:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are having a hard time. Doing it over the phone is terrible but look at it this way at least you got it over with before the weeding. It is better she call off the engagement than tell you she wants a divorce during the honeymoon.
2006-07-30 04:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your problem, but the truth is, it doesn't matter how she called it off. She clearly doesn't care enough to go through with the wedding, and that would have eventually surfaced and been painful. If you had gotten married, you would have had the pains and financial horrors or a divorce to deal with as well as the hurt of breaking up.
Trust yourself; if she doesn't want to be with you now, isn't it better that you start to move on sooner than later? Good luck - you'll find a better fit and see that this was the best outcome....
2006-07-30 04:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, any break up warrants a face to face deal. But sometimes, just sometimes we are so wrecked with fear or guilt that we choose the easiest and most nonthreatening way to communicate our decisions.
The important thing now is to understand why the two of you broke up, come to terms with it and if there is anything you could/want to do to patch things up. If there is nothing you can do about it, allow yourself a period of time to be miserable before you move on with life.
Don't take it to heart by the phone break up, with the advancement in technology doing the act in any medium is possible and over time it will be acceptable.
Take care.
2006-07-30 04:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! It sounds to me like she chickened out and did not want a face to face confrontation about why she changed her mind. If you have given her an engagement ring, by law she has to return it because she is the one who changed her mind, ( if it was you who changed his mind she gets to keep it). Wait a couple of weeks until emotions are not high and ready to explode, then ask to meet her at a coffee shop for the ring back and have your questions ready, and let her know she is to deliver the ring in person not through a third person, because she owes you that. Good luck
2006-07-30 04:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did it with e-mail. We spent 2 years together, I learned to love her 3 kids, suspected something was up when I went on a weeks vacation, came back to find a e-mail saying it was over.
You have to love technology.
As for what she did....definetly wrong. Hopefully you've called her and discussed things with her. It certainly says a lot about her in the way she broke up with you. Time to do some serious soul searching, and be sure to confront her to find out the reason(s).
From someone who's been there- I wish you the best.
2006-07-30 04:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just can't tell you bad news face to face. My ex broke up with me over the phone twice. He's excuse was he couldn't get the words out to my face.
2006-07-30 05:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww I'm sorry that happened to you.And I agree that she should have told you it was over face to face.I hope you can find someone who will treat you like a king.Because you deserve to be treated like one.My you find you're queen someday in the future.Cheer up and keep looking for that good person who will want to be with you for the rest of you're life.
2006-07-30 04:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have been woman enough to do it in person... but look at it this way>>> if she wasn't woman enough to do that... then she wouldn't have been woman enough to love you like you needed (in the future)>>> to be there for you throughout a marriage.
2006-07-30 04:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋