I still live at my parents house even though I am 18, and recently they have become a little bit violent, even though it is has been a while since I told them I gay... They are not too violent though, but it is getting annoying and after a while a bit painful. My best friend has asked if I would move in with him get away from my parents. But my parents say if I do I would be forever disowned. I do not want that, cause I care too much about them, but at the same time I think being disowned would probably be better than being their son...
2006-07-30 04:18:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What if you told them you just needed a break for a while. They may come round but in the end, if they don't it's really their loss. Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 04:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by muggle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe...I am the same way in the aspect that I make sure everyone else is happy before I make myself happy. I am very insecure and am always in need of approval from others. On the other hand, my parents were very respectful when I told them. Im 19 and live in appt with a roommate. Why would they disown you? For leaving them? Or for moving in with a certain guy? You have to realize that, yes they are your parents, but if they love you like they should they will respect your decisions. You are an adult now and they need to realize that. Do they know you are unhappy? Tell them. Sit them down. I know its hard but its needed. Just know ur not alone : ) This probably didnt help but if you ever need anyone to talk to or to just listen...hit me up : )
2006-07-30 08:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by JP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, honey, sit your parents down and talk to them about the way they are treating you. You are an adult and they are treating you like a child and also they are being violent.
You do not have to put up with it. Imagine if you started hitting them cos they are straight!
I think you should get out of the house, not to a friends, rent a place and live a free life away from your parents.
If they say they will disown you then simply walk away. Its blackmail. They will come around.
2006-07-31 03:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by ange1magik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Stay at home for now (my opinion) because family is very important and they may just need a little more time to come around. If you plan to go to college then pick a gay-friendly college and move into a dorm there. If you are going to work then try to start saving money so if things don't go well at your parents house you have the option to move out. Either way find a local GLBTQ youth group so you can have some support and can talk about the issue in a safe place.
Link to help find GLBTQ youth group:
http://www.youthresource.com/about/youth_group.htm
2006-07-30 04:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to weigh up what's best for you. Put your family to one side for now. If you are in a violent atmosphere and you are feeling the way you do you need to be away from that kind of situation. Even more so if they are threatening to disown you, as they clearly have no regard for you. I know it's hard, but make a stand otherwise they will take your life away from you.
2006-07-30 04:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie I feel really bad for you. If they are being physically violent towards you then you have to leave. It boggles the mind what people do to their children. Iwould show them your question here and explain that you can't live like this anymore. I'm sure they love you. I left home at 17 because I had enough of abuse physically and mentally. My dad threatened me with everything he could think of but eventually he came around and realized I was an adult. I'm not gay my dad was an alcoholic. He was one mean SOB when he was drinking. Leaving was the best thing for all of us. I'm sorry, after reading my answer I realized it sound's like I'm judging you for being gay. I'm not. I just was saying abuse is not acceptable from anyone for any reason
2006-07-30 04:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by chitchenitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you think is right. There threat to disown you is another form of control...just as be violent is a form of control. Move out, do you really want to be OWNED by someone who treats you like they do?
2006-07-30 09:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 years old and an adult who is free to maake his own decisions. Home sounds like a bad situation right now. take a break. Two weeks, maybe more. Tell them that they need to improve the way things are at home or you'll leave for good. If they really love you, they'll work on their relationship with each other, and you.
2006-07-30 06:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your parents are mad about you being gay. I wouldn't worry about being disowned unless they are rich but sounds like you need to get out of there fast. find neutral ground. like a girl that is just a friend or a straight guy to move in with. But word of the wise, get out.
2006-07-30 04:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they truly care for you and love you they must accept you as you are and respect any choices you make. They can always advise you but they should never try to enforce their opinions/beliefs on you. You should do what you feel is the right think for you.
2006-07-30 07:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by The Greek Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋