cause i am.
2006-07-30 04:16:03 · 10 answers · asked by i.luv_cedric 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To do so is idiotic.
There was a question posted on here recently where a woman talked about the disappointment of her wedding night. Apparently her husband was woefully ill-equipped and useless in bed.
Imagine the disappointment of having sex with a man who you have promised to spend your entire future with, only to find he is completely sexually incompatible with you. Just like everyone has different taste in food, favorite colors, movies and clothing, everyone has a different taste in sex. Everyone has a preferred style, position, foreplay, frequency and so on. The only real way to know if you are sexually compatible with a person is to actually have a sexual relationship with them.
While I hate to cheapen the concept of marriage it has similarities to buying a car. You can spot a wonderful looking car that seems attractive and well kempt. But you take it for a test drive and it is unreliable, horrible to drive, and you can't wait to take it back to the dealership and test drive something better. Dating a person is a very similar concept. They may seem nice and attractive etc. But until you live with them and explore your sexuality with them you probably only know about 30% of what you need to know about this person.
Remember that on a date both of you are dressed up nicely, you both knew you were going on a date. Both of you are on your best behavior, wearing nice perfume and clothes. Going on some dates and then plunging into a life long marriage commitment is completely irresponsible and ill-advised.
Proponents of waiting will tell you that growing to love one another after marriage is a wonderful experience. Learning what pleases the other in all aspects of life including sexuality, it a journey that you commit to going on together. Well sadly that is a ridiculous ideal world scenario. You will often find that what seemed like the perfect partner has many serious flaws, wasn't what you expected, and now you have just locked yourself into a life long marriage with this person who, as it turns out you don't like that much. Now this didn't really matter in years past because women were basically expected to cook, clean, raise kids, and keep their mouths shut. But if you want a marriage based on equality and mutual satisfaction, you need to think very differently from past generations.
It's a long answer, but I hope for your sake you will re-consider the huge mistake you are about to make in life.
2006-07-30 04:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never did, never will. It's like buying a cat in a sack. Who knows what you'll end up with.
Reminds me of the cartoon of a couple walking down 'the aisle'.
He thinks, 'I'll never have to beg for sex again'. She thinks,' I'll never have to have sex again'.
I think you are setting yourself up for a divorce. Is that better than having sex before marriage?
2006-07-30 04:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't wait for marriage, but I am still waiting.
2006-07-30 04:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mandee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am not waiting. I never intend to marry, but I am definitely unwilling to do without sex.
2006-07-30 04:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I didn't wait. Kind of wished I had.
2006-07-30 04:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't plan to get married, and I didn't wait anyway.
2006-07-30 04:22:53 · answer #6 · answered by bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thaz so cute..ur a gud person..i waz waitin for marriage...but then it juzt happened..lol...cudnt stop it....=\
2006-07-30 04:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ AnGeL ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'am...........not felling very good
2006-08-02 02:34:01 · answer #8 · answered by SabrinaMary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well!!!!
mabey it is better not to.
2006-07-30 04:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by escapegirl5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-30 04:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋