i have been with my boyfriend for about a year. during spring break (mid mar.) i went out of town and he stayed here. well, i recently found emails from him telling her he loves her. needless to say i was LIVID. i told him if he wanted to stay with me he can't talk to her anymore. after realizing how wonderful i am and he's on the verge of losing me he said he wouldn't talk to her again. he sent her an email. about a month passed and she starts calling him again. OBVIOUSLY he didn't make the point clear and i saw the email in which he told her he didn't want to talk to her. of course, the email made it sound like it was all me. i did give him the ultimatum, but it was his decision. the email went on to say i was jealous (not, i just don't like my partner telling other that he loves them when he's telling ME the same thing), i'm pretty much the reason why they can't talk anymore (well, boohoo - did he already forget how horrible i felt when i read that email??).
2006-07-30 04:10:50 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, do i just forget it now and move on? he claims he sent her another email "making it clear." should i think he "made it clear" like he did the first time? also, he's lied to me before about talking to her. when he went home for summer he told me he wasn't talking to her (because this was AFTER he told her he loves her) and he came back to visit and a f*cking instant message pops up while i was working on his computer from HER! ok, as i type this i'm only getting more and more p*ssed. should i just forget it and move on? i believe he really cares for me, as i do him. i don't want to lose him, but i don't want to share him. i don't want to constantly worry about a third party (who in no way is comparable to me, btw).
2006-07-30 04:13:38 · update #1
you know what girl u sound like a really nice girl who dont need this garbage.if he wanted to he could have told her to back off and im sure the reason why she calling again is cuz they must have hooked up again.so she calling cuz she means something again. this guy is cheat and is only going to hurt u harder in the long run. so let him go now and move on.he dont deserve u and u know this thats why u posted this.so hear if what u wanted to hear.he will look back and say damn she gone but it will be to late.so go ahead and do what ur heart tells u and leave him he cant be trusted.good luck
2006-07-30 04:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're getting too mired in the details.
Step back and take a deep breath.
Now: remember that the only thing you can control... is you.
Your actions. Your reactions.
You can't make somebody "be" a certain way. Well, you can for a while I suppose, but do you like yourself when you do?
You're in a no-win situation. Your anger isn't getting you anywhere. It's like taking poison and hoping he gets sick.
You can't control him. You can't control email babe.
(Nor, in a healthy realtionship, would you want to)
This isn't about some email. This is about trust. You either have it... or you don't.
If you don't-- let him go.
You'll feel much better.
Good luck!
2006-07-30 11:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have created this problem by being jealous. You can call it whatever you want, but it is jealousy. You made him make a choice.
If he wanted you and only you this would have never happened. I can guarantee you that if it's not this girl it is going to be another one. And trying to make a man change never ends well for the woman (ask every guy you know that will be honest with you).
Also, what kind of sickness is it that you tell him he doesn't have the right to tell people other than you that he loves them? You got issues girl.
2006-07-30 11:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by n0h0pe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, just another day in life. Accept it, even though it is hard. Give the next person an honest chance, there's the difficulty.
2006-07-30 11:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his a$$ to the curb and begin a new relationship. Life is to short to play second to anyone unless you like being walked on.
2006-07-30 11:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by dasani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, theres plenty of fish in the sea so why waste time on one person when theres millions left out there.
2006-07-30 11:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by rocky52632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too long, too many details, I got bored. But from the quick scan, here's a quick tip: Get together all 3 of you. Make him choose. Take it from there.
2006-07-30 11:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by mokui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gave teh ultamatum, either stick out the circumstances or he will know that anything you say will have no meaning.
this would live fot teh rest of your relationship
if that is the way you want to live, then continue
2006-07-30 11:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SHOULDNT BE TELLING ANY OTHER WOMAN HE LOVES THEM UNLESS ITS HIS MOTHER SO WATCH OUT FOR HER AND YOUR BOYFRIEND SHOULD OF TOLD HER IT WAS HIS DECISION NOT SPEAK TO HER HE MADE IT SEEM LIKE IF HE COULD HE WOULD SPEAK TO HER ITS JUST YOU THATS MESSED UP DONT TRUST HIM KEEP AN EYE OUT IF YOU FIND ANYTHING ELSE I WOULD TELL YOU TO MOVE ON GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-30 11:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him goodbye. The more chances you give him, he'll feel like he can run over you. It'll only get worse.
2006-07-30 11:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by shawty_256 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋