2006-07-30 03:54:03 · 10 answers · asked by Binky 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I think people are too hard on themselves when they can't "forget". You cant just turn your brain off and not remember offenses.
Forgiveness is deliberately choosing to not let the offense effect your relationship with the person, or your behavior and treatment of them, to genuinely want the best for them despite the wrong committed.
"Forgetting" is to never bring up the offense in an argument or in some other teasing, or seemingly innocent way ("hey this icecream reminds me of the time you didnt call me for a week and I thought you were giving me the cold shoulder, hahaha.")
It is to choose not to fling it back in their faces in an attempt to wound the person or win the argument.
Its not easy, the intense desire for revenge can taste sweet. "But vengeance is mine," says the Lord. "I shall repay." (meaning we are not judge and jury so dont stress about it) It is much easier forgiving someone when you know that their greatest offense in that situation is not against you, but against their Creator, who desires that noone should harm or fraud another, and who feels the pain more intensely because He knows what good we could be capable of if we only wanted the good more than the bad.
Dont want to get all preachy, but this is where my understanding of forgive and forget comes from. It is the way God chooses to forgive: wholly, freely and with no desire to harm the offender.
2006-07-30 04:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To err is human to forgive is devine. If you can't forget then you have not truly forgiven. Some situations are harder to forgive and take time. But again don't say I forgive unless you are willing to forget.
2006-07-30 11:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by Michael_Pro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a pragmatist, you tend to take things as they come and do not bother about forgiving or forgetting. Being level-headed helps to come out of situations like that.
2006-07-30 11:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it's easier to forgive. Only time can help you with the forgetting (or at least time will smooth over the anger so you can funtion better).
2006-07-30 10:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not good at doing either one. I don't think you can really do one unless you do both. Ofcourse it depends on the situation. If you really care about the person that hurt you than it is harder to forgive them.
2006-07-30 10:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by lady25mo2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older I get, the harder it is to remember what I was mad about, so it's earier to just forget everything bad. Carrying grudges gets awfully cumbersome after a while. Don't worry...be happy! Try it. You'll get used to it quicker than you think. Of course it helps to avoid situations where you're likely to get hurt feelings...
2006-07-30 10:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jack430 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive, but I never forget. Especially when lessons are involved.
2006-07-30 10:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by kitty fresh & hissin' crew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation and how deeply it affected you. The deeper the wound the harder it is to heal.
2006-07-30 11:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by genaddt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up to follow this rule:
The first time, forgive & forget
The second time forgive
The third time do neither.
It works.
2006-07-30 10:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its take a longtim bfor i truly forgiv it bt i'l never forget!!!!!!
2006-07-30 10:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Emma D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋