Why Don't Some Guys Respect Women?

Question

Hi,

It saddens me to see the way that ladies are used in this world, have you ever noticed how EVIL some are treated? It makes me feel sick to the stomach that some guys can't do that to them

In my eyes ladies are SO SPECIAL I just love them all, it makes you wonder why anyone can ill treat something so sweet, loving, kind, caring, and beautiful!!

Umm I say all this as I've seen a lot of girls in BAD relationships I want to help them but know I'ts not my place to intervene what are you good people's opinions?

Here are some examples of what I have seen:

1. Girl tries to be affectionate, man ignores
2. Girl is brought down for trying to make an effort
3. When the poor little thing is upset no kisses or cuddles

SO WRONG!!

Thanks.
Billie Joe

Answer 1

It is the way that they were raised. It is passed down from generation to generation. When a boy sees the way his father treats his mother, and the mother accepts this a normal behavior, she is considered helpless, has no other financial means, feels she does'nt have a choice, and has low self-esteem as a result. The son grows up seeking a subservient woman such as this. Girls grow up the same way falling into this "trap", & somehow allows this manipulation to occur. Women ARE precious, & need lifted up instead of being pushed down. How some cultures opressed women by not allowing them to drive cars, the ones that are not allowed in out of the heat to enter icecream parlors in foreign countries, who are not allowed to work or go to school this is an opression of women. This is totally unacceptable. Thank goodness there is the equal rights admendment in our country, creating equal pay for equal jobs, which is not always the case within the regions, as some employers get away with paying the guys more than the women for the same line of work. Which brings our unions into focus. Unions protect the rights of workers & eliminate unfair management practices. It is an economic reality. It is the idiot dinosaur male that treats women in such a bad way, this is not the cave man era! Then again, only women can give the men permission to be treated in that way. I had heard on a radio talk show the other day that some idiot wanted to pass a bill to eliminate divorce. Can you imagine? They couldn't build prisons fast enough big enough!

Answer 2

Now that is a tough question! I think it is a two way street. I have seen just as many cold woman as men. Sometimes people have a problem with public displays of affection. I guess what bothers me is that it has become a self centered world. Too many people are in their own little box to appreciate what they have. On the other hand sometimes someone can be too clingy. That leads a mate to start ignoring them.
Non the less we should not be with someone if we do not respect, adore and admire them! I have been with my husband for 17 years and we act as if we just started dating. Any chance to squeeze his behind and I'm there! As for him I can't bend over to pick something up without him getting aroused. What I'm saying is you have to be with the right person. If these guys you are talking about are ignoring their ladies...they are not really into them!

Answer 3

Well, I think it all starts with men starting out with wanting to "be with" women at age 13 because of insane hormones reeking havoc with their bodies and minds. If maturity came along with these hormones, then the world would be a brilliant place, but alas, that doesn't happen for another 10-20 years. While women are about 23 mentally when they're 13.

Now enter the lovely marketeers. An actress makes it big and she can be on the cover of Maxim ... half naked. Hollywood teaches women that the two biggest thing in a woman's life is to be thin and be young. Marilyn Monroe was a size 12. In "The Devil Wears Prada" Anne Hathaway's character is thought of as frumpy for wearing a size 6! Every cover of every magazine is airbrushed to a level where not even Jessica Alba can look like Jessica Alba looks like on the cover of Entertainment Weekly.

And just as women are taught to be like this, men are trained to see them for just their looks. They take for granted that a beautiful soul is beneath that veneer - and that is the reason they be in that relationship. Not because she is "so hot".

We are in desperate need of a change for men to stand up and put down the guys who abuse, who are light with women, and who don't realize that women aren't product, they're brilliant people who deserve the best life has to offer (just like men).

Answer 4

That's so sweet of you to say this. So many men out there know that this is the truth, but are not concerned about addressing it.

My belief is that men who do not have respect for women may have the following issues:

1. Hurt from a bad experience with a woman
2. Jealous of believed advantages women have over men
3. Witnessing their father or other influential person in the man's early years mistreat women
4. Horrible relationship with their mother
5. Just plain old insecure about his manhood

Unfortunately, there are women out there that have some of the same hang ups about men. All we can do is hope that these folks go get therapy.

Answer 5

Some men were not taught how to respect women, either because their fathers didn't respect women, or because they had no role model in the home.

Also -- if a woman tries to be affectionate and a man ignores her, it could be that he is not interested in a relationship with her. It may not be a matter of respect, as much as it is a matter of he just doesn't want that type of attention from her.

As for no kisses and cuddles -- some guys don't understand how important it is to care for and show concern for their women.

My advice to you is simple -- treat your woman with all the respect and love you have and you will be a very happy guy!

Answer 6

Your mother raised you right. I think it is because they live what they see. If the parents had a relationship like that and that is the way Dad treated Mom.....then you live what you learn. Also, how mothers raise their sons has a lot to do with it too. If a mother tolerates a lack of respect for herself, or teaches it then there is another way men learn.
Seeing how friends treat their women is another way (because it is macho to do this). And the biggest reason is some men think that "nice guys never get the woman".
There are a few hypothisis for your question.

Answer 7

True sometimes but don't forget sometimes you are only seeing one side part of a situation - nobody ever really knows what goes on in a relationship except the people involved. Maybe guy doesn't respond to the girl being affectionate because he's angry at somthing that happened before, or maybe he's just being an arsehole. Sometimes it can be hard to tell.

Answer 8

You know what? You're sweet! But I hope this isn't just a way for you to attract girl's attention.

Many girls are afraid you enter into relationships because of what they see from other people. However, we can't help falling for somebody when he shows that he's nice. Only to find out in the end that he was just faking it to score.

I don't want to stereotype but some men are just so insensitive to girl's feelings.

Answer 9

Some guys don't know how to treat a women, and don't deserve them!
I've just come out of a bad relationship so i know exactly what your taking about. I wish there were more out there like you, you sound really sweet!

Answer 10

I feel the men who mistreat a women lacked female role models in their life. They never got a chance to be shown that a women is special. Some men never had mothers therefore giving them the taste of not knowing how to treat them!!!!