My ex and I was trying to reconcile, but last night he was over here, and hit me leaving me with a black eye. Now he's calling about every 30 min. threatening me. He is the father of both of my children, and I'm afraid to get the police involved, because I don't want him going to jail. What should I do?
2006-07-30 03:50:59 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get the police involved. Lay charges, get a restraining order and make sure you don't go back to him. If he's the kind of guy that can hit you once, he will do it again. Also, make a contingency plan that could get you and the kids to a safe place with a bag of essentials, as any domestic violence expert will tell you, it can go bad quickly.
You deserve better, your kids deserve better. Dump the loser, work on getting your self esteem back and move on in life.
2006-07-30 03:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nto physical abuse by this pusseye then I would let someone know. If you don't want to go to the police for fear of him going to jail and rightly he should even though he wouldn't be there long and would probably bond out and just get probation either way it is domestic assault. There is no reason that a person has to go through that and be abused because it wont stop there if he has the feeling that you wont report him. You call him the father of your children but he isn'
2014-11-02 12:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless your into physical abuse by this pusseye then I would let someone know. If you don't want to go to the police for fear of him going to jail and rightly he should even though he wouldn't be there long and would probably bond out and just get probation either way it is domestic assault. There is no reason that a person has to go through that and be abused because it wont stop there if he has the feeling that you wont report him. You call him the father of your children but he isn't setting much of an example. Please report him or if you have family members have them go kick his a** at the very least
2006-07-30 03:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a hard situation, no doubt about it. Yes, you need to get the police involved, as hard as that will be to do (it will). He will go to jail until he's bailed out, and there is no doubt that he will be meaner and even more threatening. Make certain the police and the judge know that. (The only thing that makes you safer is his knowledge that he can't get away with harming you. This is *not* any kind of guarantee that he won't harm you!)
Meanwhile, you need to get help from your family, if possible, and from a battered women's shelter. They can give you guidance on where to find a reasonably priced attorney to help you with a restraining order--and a divorce.
You need to do this, if not for yourself (although you do need to do it for yourself), but especially for your kids, so that they don't grow up to be wife-beaters and/or beaten wives.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-30 03:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by regnaD kciN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though he is the father of your kids no man in this world should hit you and then if he left you with a black eye that is not cool you should call the police yes they might put him in jail but at least you will be safe but they might just tell you to file a restraining order so it is really up to you but if it was me i would because i would want to know that me and my kids were safe i mean what if you are out somewhere with the kids and something happens then what you should look at all points when it comes to your safety
2006-07-30 03:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may not have a choice on whether he goes 2 jail, but behaving like this will put him there B4 long.
Contact UR nearest Womens Shelter, do not delay.
If U can't do it 4 U do it 4 UR kids the damage UR relationship is doing 2 them mayB Very hard 2 undo if U continue 2 keep in contact with a violent man!
2006-07-30 03:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely, call the police. The simple fact of the matter is that he should go to jail because he's just going to get worse and will very likely start hurting your children too.
2006-07-30 03:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand u not wantin' 2 get the police involved, cause he's the father of your children. i went through sumthin' like that as a kid. but there is no reason 2 put hands on u, at all. if he's threatenin' u, u should call the police. record when he calls 2 get the threat on tape. u c 2 many women killed by there exes on the news, cause the guy couldn't cope or sumthin'. get help, please. b 4 it's 2 late. things like this on escalate from here, don't let it get that far...u got kids 2 think about, dear...
2006-07-30 04:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by bfd_77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not getting the police involved, you are risking more. It's not safe for your or your children to resume this relationship. You can't be a good mother under abusive circumstances. He will eventually start hitting the children. The police will help you. Your ex needs help but won't get it if he gets away with violence. Violence doesn't improve on its own...only gets worse. Please seek help now!! (Speaking from past experience)
2006-07-30 03:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the police involved for your own protection... Sounds like this could get a whole lot worse if you don't.. Think of the impression on the kids to see him beating you up... And consider the possibility that the kids could be next..
Maybe going to jail might cool him off and regain his senses....And it lets him know your not going to stand for his behavior.... Call immediately.. If not for yourself but to protect the Kids!!!!
2006-07-30 03:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Fixitguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋