ok. my closest cousin got married on the 22nd of july. i was supposed to be the bridesmaid but her bestfriend and i got into an agruement and she took her best friends side over mine. so in the end she took her bestfriends side and i was put out of the wedding. my cousin and i have always been close but after she put me out of the wedding i dont know if i should forgive her or not.
2006-07-30 03:43:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds childish all around.
2006-07-30 03:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah thats messed up but im sure the bestfriend wanted to be the bridesmaid and started drama to be the bridesmaid.so she covinced ur cousin that u were in the wrong and im sure her and her bestfriends is just as close as u and her.so she family she will always have u right but would she have her best friend if she stuck with u.so there nothing to forgive.she family and u need to just brush it off.yeah u missed out on being a bridesmaid but thats ur cousin.so just move along and be happy 4 her like u always had.just put it behind u not worth losing a family member.so good luck
2006-07-30 03:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, dont be mad at her. She made a mistake by choosing her best friend. I always think blood is thicker then water. It was her day though and she did whatever made her feel more at ease. Perhaps the argument was validated in her friends favor. You can still remain close. I wouldnt want to be in a wedding anyway! Such drama!
2006-07-30 03:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let something like this come between not only a good friendship, but your love for a family member. this could cause you both so many years lost and over what? something that could've been resolved. be the mature one and let it go. i know it was hurtful and if you need to talk to your cousin about what happened, then do that, if it will give you closure. you were close at one time, i'm sure she feels bad about this incident also. this isn't worth you not being family anymore.
2006-07-30 03:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart with her in private ..to find out exactly what her reasoning was for making the decision that she made ......because maybe then you will find out if she really thought that you were in the wrong.....and in a calmer setting things can be worked out alot easier ...and the necessary apologies (if there are a need for any ) can be made at that time. All will be made right again.....because at least after the conversation you will know exactly where you stand with this person ...there will be no guessing ! You feel me......?
2006-07-30 03:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her. Life is too short to be arguing about things and when your cousin has babies you want to be apart of their lives don't you? Just make sure her bi*tch of a friend is not at any event you are going to (just kidding). Seriously forgive her. If you guys have been as close as you say then you do not want to loose that type of relationship.
2006-07-30 03:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what I would do. I dont think you should spend too much energy making an effort to stay angry BUT .. SHE was not right to remove you from the wedding. Did you pay for the dress? Incur wedding related expenses? If you did, she should reimburse you!
2006-07-30 03:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno u probably want to make up,but u did nothing wrong.it wouldnt be right for u to apoligize for something u didnt do.did u do anything that u should apoligize for?u could say "im sorry that ur best friend and i got into a fight but i was really upset that u took me out of the wedding."tell her how u feel and hopefuly it will work out.
2006-07-30 03:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving your cousin does nothing for your cousin.
If you want to get rid of your anger and bad feeling and hurt or whatever. if you forgive her you will feel better. it is all about you not her. you must be in control of your own feelings. it is your choice to feel hurt. she did not hurt you. no one ever hurts you unless you let them . again you and only you can control your feelings. it is your choice. do the right thing for yourself and forgive her
2006-07-30 03:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a hundred years, it won't matter... there's more to life than trivial **** like that. You will be much happier to let it go, and be happy. She will no doubt come to you one day, seeking forgiveness, to which your reply would be 'for what?'
2006-07-30 03:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mark MacIver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a horrible thing to do to you. But yeah, it would be the adult thing to do. Forgive her, forget about it, and don't bring it up in the past, it'll just casue more problems.
2006-07-30 04:35:46 · answer #11 · answered by Ani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋