He comes home middle of August. We've been together for 6 years, married for 1. I've been looking forward to this for so long but I don't know how its going to be like having him adapt to everything again? I also have a whole different schedule its almost like I have a whole different life!! I need the perspective of someone whos been through it so I know what to expect .. I guess I'm just worried that he might be a different person!!
2006-07-30 03:40:12 · 12 answers · asked by Gyna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i came back from iraq a few months ago and when i came home i had a daughter i never met and a son who was a little older. I was gone over 7 months and it was a little weird for me cause i was alone over there, and now i had a house full of life. My wife was used to doing things on her way, so i understood that she would be mad at my styles of doing things. I was used to doing things over there a whole lot differently if you know what i mean?? I worked a prision of over 8000 iraqis and i yelled alot at them, and when i came home i had to take a break for a while cause my temper needed to be put in check if u know what i mean. I love my family just as much as i did before i left, and we are still working on the family thing. My son just turned 3 and it was the first birthday of his that i was home for... and the holidays are around the corner, and this will be the first Christmas in 4 years i will actually be attending. If you listen to any of the advice i give, the number one thing to do is listen to him and dont yell at hime for silly ****! being over there changes you a little, and telling him that will piss him off, cause i am sure he didnt intentially want to change. when he vents, let him, and listen to him! It will take a while to get back into the swing of things, and if you listen to him, he will feel better. Some of the things he tells you, might bore you, but let him get it off his chest. If people really knew the sacrifices military families are put through, maybe people would stop fussing about us???
2006-07-30 03:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by kram_7777 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had similar dynamics when I was in the Marine Corps. Every three years(on average) I was going to be gone for a year or so.Of course, in that time she got used to doing things according to schedules of her own design, then my return proved somewhat disruptive. Military life is hard on families even in the best of times, and now that we're at war, the anxiety is compounded enormously...I feel for what you're going through. There are Family Service Centers on every base with counsellors and other support services available to you: use them. Sometimes they can make all the difference in the world! Good luck to your entire family.
2006-07-30 03:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married to one but i have a friend in the US army, last time i saw him was 6 months back after he returned from Iraq.
Just be there for him and i'm sure after a few day's you will go back to being "one" again.
You know i guess you know that it's really hard being with someone from the military because they go on a lot of tours and such but i always think, bottom line if you really love each other then your meant to be together and will be no matter what happens.
Goodluck.
2006-07-30 03:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Viv C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this works out for you. Thank you for your sacrifice to our country. Please say thank you to your husband for his sacrifice. I can't imagine what you're going through. It must be a little scary.
Since I haven't been in your situation, I won't offer any advice. However, I did find the Military Spouse Support Network on webring. The link is below. One of those sites will offer some help I hope. Also I read somewhere that the Army has some counseling program for folks in your situation.
Good Luck. Be Well.
2006-07-30 03:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fifteen twelve months-previous son is sitting no longer 5 feet from me, taking part in XBOX-stay together with his friends at an identical time as i take advantage of his computing device. he's slightly taller than me, with hair that lays in delicate waves, and which truly desires trimmed yet he refuses a shrink. he's skinny, painfully so, and would't weigh better than one hundred thirty pounds. He and his friends are seeking for gadget faults on the hot Rainbow 6 game he bought the day previous, and from what i will tell they are having a superb time. His Easter candy is in a bowl between his feet, and his mattress room floor is tormented by Starburst wrappers. He is conscious i'm tucking some funds into his wallet for a deliberate holiday to Pittsburgh on Monday, and he's comprehensive no longer something yet communicate on the subject of the clothing he needs to purchase on the mall after my surgeon appointment. that's what early life would desire to be. twiddling with friends, ingesting candy and finding forward to an afternoon interior the city. no longer beating your self bloody and enduring crucifixion. merely analyzing this tale makes me want to cry.
2016-10-01 06:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father was in Iraq in the first war and he was a litle different when he came back. But his love for us didn't change at all. It will be hard and he will need help, but there are people the military have to help with that. It will be alright, don't worry, but give your husdand all the love you can. He will need it. Good luck with all.
2006-07-30 03:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can expect him to be a wholly different person. You will need to be compassionate and try to adjust your personal schedule as much as you can to allow yourself time to pamper him, nurture him, let him know how proud you are of him and how waiting for him and worrying about his safety was always on your mind and in your heart. Be patient and don't talk about the war unless he wants to.
I wish you both peace, dear one.
2006-07-30 03:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him love him. listen to him. don't assume anything. Massage his ego and play it by ear. Let him know he will always be your big strong soldier. Do those things that made him fall in love with you in the beginning. Love does not die it becomes stronger but it does take two. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-30 04:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's goin to be extremely diff when he gets back. he's prolly gonna wake up in the middle of the night thinkin there's shells goin off when really all it is is thunder boomin in the distance. he'll have seen s.hit that's hard to imagine for ppl like us. the only thing you can do is just be there for him and keep an eye on his mental health. there's the possibility that he could be really ******* up when he gets back. just be there for him if he needs you, it's bout all you can do
2006-07-30 03:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is surly different. just accept him as he is and do not try to ask him talk about bad times in Iraq
2006-07-30 03:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋