What is it that gives long lasting confidence to a person?

Question

I would really like to have a well thought out and deep answer to that question.
I know doing things that are considered good gives confidence, but considered good by whom?Maybe the people who really matter or the values that really matter, but how do certain set of values or people start mattering and others don't

Answer 1

Values come from within. We may see others displaying certain actions and attitudes but our choices have to resonate with what we value. If our choices respect others, then usually we will be respected. Confidence comes from our experience of being competent.

Answer 2

Doing good deeds for others can give someone temp. confidence. Yeah it feels good to help others but the feeling of confidence is not normally long lasting.

To really have a long lasting feeling of confidence one must help themselves. What I mean by this is a person should get an education. Oh but wait it's not material. Nope it's not materialistic and it shouldn't be. As a person gets more education the more they grow and they feel better about themselves.

Education will always be my answer for confidence bulider, but there are other ways to gain confidence in ones self. Any interest one has such as sports something one can be good at. Doesn't have to be the best at it but feel good that their doing it.

Buying nice new things will make one feel better for a day or so but that is not confidence thats called masking.

Also cognitive thought process. (The way one thinks.) One should try to have a positive thought process and not turn everything into a negitive thought. Too much negitive thinking will bring a person down.

Answer 3

It starts out with having a stable frame of reference. Ability to dress well. Think and dream big, and then having the balls to go out and do it.

Self esteem will come by itself. Its a cycle, Success breeds success.

Above everything, you must never lose the ability to be honest with yourself and every once in a while to laugh at yourself.

The fact, that you are thinking about being a confident person, proves that you have the desire. You just need to organize your god-given talents now and make it into a reality.

There is an old saying, "a wish without a plan is only a wish, but a wish with a plan is a goal."

The best part about having a goal is this. Whatever goal your mind is capable of thinking up, you are most certainly capable of achieving it.

Answer 4

Personally, I do not feel that doing good things give confidence, for who are we to define what is good?? The definition of good differs from one to another..
Faith is my root of confidence. Have faith and always believe that there would be someday, someone that recognizes your effort, and appreciates you for your contributions. Have faith in yourself, and have faith in God, if you are a believer of any.
Always understand that there are no 2 alike souls in this world, and you can't expect to please everyone. You might be judged, but do not judge. Just do what you believe is right, and there through the test of time, there would be people who understand your works,and appreciate you for what you have done.
You can't be impatient to gain confidence. Confidence is nurtured, and for the fortunate some, it is inborn.
So always believe that whatever tests that come along your way, it has a purpose to make you a better person, so if you manage to face the obstacles with courage, overcome it with strength, and look back at it with a smile.. You are already a confident person!

Cheer up buddz!

Answer 5

Confidence is about belief in yourself and your abilities, but not the absence of doubt. so basically one can't be 100% confident in real life, or else u would be overwhelmed with urself...like to tell u the truth it depends on the situation, u can be confident talking 2 children, but at the same time it is hard 2 be confident when u find yourself infront of a bunch of scientists!

Answer 6

Long lasting confidence comes from inside. This is an internal gratification that comes from having developed a possitive self immage and self respect . Look at someone without confidence and they lack possitive self image and self respect.

Answer 7

Confidence is hard won for those who grow up without it. Lack of confidence is usually based in fear of judgment, very rarely in a lack of ability.

I began by 'faking' it in those situations that were the worst for me... walking into a room full of strangers, giving presentations and so on.

I would first try to dress nicely, but paying close attention to comfort since there is nothing worst than fidgeting and tugging at clothing to evaporate confidence in front of others you think are 'judging' you. Next, I would work on the idea that the worst that could happen is that they would kill me and that, believe it or not, helped because it was ridiculous enough to make me smile and see that I had nothing to fear in reality. Life would go on afterward, no matter what happened. I pasted on a pleasant face and forged ahead in spite of my qualms.

Practical application in confidence building came by taking jobs that forced me to face my fears. A couple of summers of group photographer and as a waitress... jobs that didn't impact my choice of profession, but gave me a place to work on my fears.

With repeated experience the first summer of photographing groups, I got over the horrible dread of being the focus of attention. I proved that I could do it... most of all, to myself. Each tip I received as a waitress was proof of my ability and helped build confidence in interacting with people. I learned that my attitude directly affected their perception of me as a victim/loser or a winner. It didn't matter how I felt so long as I "presented" myself as knowledgeable and solid in my position. It was continued experience that integrated this understanding into my daily routine and built solid confidence in my abilities.

In summary, you have to have adequate content or ability to do anything well, but it is largely your "presentation" that gains positive reception.
Dress comfortably and suitable to the situation.
Take the time to Know your material or job or situation.
No matter what you are feeling inside, practice a calm, steady demeanor and remember to breathe slowly and deeply.
Place yourself in situations to practice these skills, for with repeated positive experience, confidence grows.
Learn from your failures. We all have them... they are what show us what doesn't work. Being able to face a failure gracefully can be every bit as important as the successes.

Answer 8

Doing something good to others gives happiness. This happiness gives you confidence.

Answer 9

a big part comes from yourself but also from the people who surround you. if you have someone who loves and supports you in everything you do then it's a lot easier to have confidence.

Answer 10

be sure;if you bilieve yourself others will be respect you and your belief it means that they believe you as a person who has some idea for life and all the things that are related to it so when you get this reaction you will find this question