Equality and struggles?

Question

I don't expect woman to see our struggles, seeing how they were oppressed before, they have a pretty close mind set that women struggle more than man. Take this for example, If a woman gets pregnant and the man wants the child, he'll take care of it and pay for him, does it matter, no, because the woman can just run to a clinic and get rid of the child. Now the man has to deal with that emotional trauma of loosing a child that he wanted. Now if the woman gets pregnant and the man doesn't want the child, does it matter, no, because the woman can say she wants it and now the man has to pay for the child wether he likes it or not. Basically there's no equality, in different situations a man or woman get special treatment. In the abortion case, woman always come on top no matter what, it is easy for a woman to say she doesn't want a child and get rid of it, but for a man to say he doesn't want the child, it doesn't matter he still has to pay for it. How's that for struggle?

Answer 1

As a woman, I can completely recognize how men have to struggle. I agree that there are things in life that are not equal. Someone, somewhere, somehow always has the advantage in certain situations. The only thing that equalizes it is that sometimes as a man, you get the special treatment, and sometimes as a woman, I get the special treatment, hoping it all evens out in the end. I feel this happens in all issues of equality, whether race, creed, or sex.

All the more reason for you to be educated and to not be a victim, but someone who has choice. Give yourself at least that. And only you can do that. For instance, in the example that you gave around abortion: make sure that you are always using protection and having sex with a condom. That way, a woman won't be making choices for you on how your struggles have to be. Make sure you are not sleeping around, but sleeping with a partner whom you can have disscussions with, and therefore choose when you want to have a baby. Make sure that you are involved with a partner who respects you as well as you respecting them, so that she will take your feelings into consideration when making a choice around whether or not to keep an unplanned pregnancy.

When you go through life without a plan, or operating on luck, that is when the largest issues of inequality arise. Why? Because at that point, you are leaving your life up to chance, and as the old saying goes....Life is not fair, and anyone who tells you different is only trying to sell you something.

I believe men have their struggles. The myth that we all operate under is thinking that anyone has struggles less than our own.

Answer 2

You seem to focus on having a baby which involves equal responsibility. There may be struggles too in the process but without sacrifice one can't have a new scenario in one's life, especially having an additional life to support in a couple's life. Of course, in the context of having a baby, women do struggle and sacrifice more than men and women do deserve a 'salute' from men. But women have the moral resonsibility to also recognise the role of men in that process and give credit where it deserves. So, should there be a struggle or misplaced thoughts, a compromise is what matters most and should be given due attention.

Answer 3

Dont you miss the good old days, back when women weren't allowed to own property in their own name, couldn't vote, couldn't be raped by their husband, could be legally beaten by her husband (if the stick wasn't larger than an inch in diameter). I sure do. In fact, wouldn't it be cool if the government, or perhaps a truley rightous religious leader could decide whether men should be circumsized or better yet castrated. I think somebody like that also should be allowed to decide whether we are eligble for surgical procedures. Actually there are a lot people out there with two kidneys when they really only need one, maybe we could form a committee of community leaders to decide who should be forced to donate kidneys or other organs for the benefit of those who really need them or are obviously more deserving to be healthy. Yeah, lets put somebody who doesn't have to live with the consequences in charge of all medical decisions, then the world would be perfect.