I am worried it may be something that will bother her seeing her
father thru glass and not being able to be inside with him.
2006-07-30 03:10:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No she's to young. She won't remeber that he was gone for 6 months down the road. Let her talk to him on the phone as much as possible.
2006-07-30 03:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is a good idea. It's just going to frustrate her and make her sad. Children do not need to be subjected to that. Besides, she is 4 and that is old enough to understand what is going on and to know there is nothing she can do to get to her father. There is a woman I work with whose husband is in jail and she has two boys, ages 10 and 3 and she just told them that their dad is working far away and they can't see him just yet. If it is only for 6 months, I would just tell her something like that. A little white lie like that is not going to hurt her the way seeing her dad behind glass would.
2006-07-30 10:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not take her to the jail. That is more than a four year old needs to deal with. Just let her be happy talking to him on the phone. He'll be home soon enough. Taking her to the jail could really cause problems for her plus all the questions she'll ask you. Just let them talk on the phone. It's the best for the child
2006-07-30 10:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by reynacatherinelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not my life and who am i to judge, but you asked us for an opinion and i'm going to give it.
if he is only in for 6 months, i wouldn't bring her. tell her daddy went on a long business trip. it's not worth it for her to always remember, like you said, seeing her daddy through the glass. does she even know what a jail is? maybe she doesn't need to know, and doesn't need to know her dad is there.
she should be having tea parties with her teddy bears, not singing her name in a visiting log down at the local prison.
2006-07-30 10:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by kogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her Daddy had to go away for a while, but let her talk to him over the phone now and then. It's not worth it to let her have bad memories of Daddy in a scary place where they couldn't touch....or seeing daddy cry. And she WILL remember.
2006-07-30 10:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it would be better to let her see her dad and take the risk that it might bother her a bit, than her not be able to see him for 6 months, also if you explain things to her she might understand she might not, if he is only in for 6 months is must be a very minor offense that you can tell her about
2006-07-30 10:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by rachael01181990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet all she does is want to run around and call everyone daddy..she is to young to visit her daddy..and since its only 6 months then just show her family photos or home movies of daddy...its all the same to her----> ;o)
2006-07-30 10:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by dreamzzz102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should.this is her dad and assuming they had a relationship before he went to jail it should continue.it may be difficult the first visit but she will get used to it.by not bringing her to see her dad is only distancing her further from him.its a jail not a prison.and for gods sake do not lie to this child.
2006-07-30 10:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by rodney m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, just to spare the child the trauma of seeing her daddy behind the glass.
2006-07-30 10:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should take her. 1). She'll just want her daddy even more. 2).She won't understand why he can't go home with you. 3) She will drive you CRAZY wanting him more and more and it will be more of a headache for you than any comfort to her. I think she is too young.
2006-07-30 16:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋