with her earlier affair she had sex 15 times but now she loves me and promise me not to repeat it again
should i trust,marry her or i should leave her
please help me
2006-07-30 02:52:42 · 15 answers · asked by badal choudhary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how many u had? if more than her, yes marry her.
2006-07-30 02:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you call her your lover, if that is all she is to you, then, what is the problem? If she is more than just a lover to you, look back at the time of the affair and see what was going on in the relationship. Was it as intense as it is now, if not, was she really cheating or just trying to make sure that you were the only man she needed or wanted.
Do not judge her on this indiscretion...I have always believed once a cheater always, but I have softened on this, because there may not be a pattern of it, it may just have been what it was, a meaningless romp.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 10:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. If you care for her, than I say try to stick it out. I would not rush to marry her just yet. You have to build back your relationship and trust. It will take awhile for you to heal from the cheating going on. You will have to let that memory go sooner or later for your relationship to work out. That comes in time. Communication is a big deal too. You have to communicate with each other. Just start to enjoy each other. Give one another alot of attention. Let nature take it course. Good Luck
2006-07-30 09:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by tbknights 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She actually remembers how many times she had sex in her last affair? I personally think that thats pretty damn messed up but, If you do love her and all that jazz I'd make sure that she fells the same for you. Because she remembered how many times she had sex with this man so she must have enjoyed it.
2006-07-30 10:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop her. She cheated on you with someone else 15 times! Not once. 15 times was no mistake, so she'll do it again but find ways that you won't know or she won't tell you about it. But she'll be doing it. If you married her you'd be setting yourself up for a life of heartache and a divorce
2006-07-30 09:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by reynacatherinelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather she cheated on you. Sorry to be so blunt. But if you can get over that, just give her a chance, see how she behaves, and if you think she will never do that again, yes, you should marry her (obviously you think you belong together, since thinking of marriage). If you think you will always have it in your mind that she cheated on you, I say don't make any kind of promises and just give the relationship a try. See how it goes, but ALWAYS listen to how you feel.
Good luck and dream on
2006-07-30 10:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamie Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't believe she counted. You need time off, not a day, but a month at least. If you get back together, do just that. Get back together.
It's called a relationship for reason. Equal effort has to be put in by both people, good, bad, or great times.
2006-07-30 17:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by dancinginplace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but the same goes for chicks as guys, once a cheat always a cheat.. if someone cheats once they will do it again.
Its good that she told you about it but the fact is she did it and the trust has already been broken.
I'd say get out...
2006-07-30 10:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you trust her?
Leave the cheatin hoe
and like above GET TESTED
2006-07-30 09:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you will learn to trust her!
If you love her, it would be a shame to leave her.
If you love her, you will discuss things and be open with her ...
If you love her ... you will live happily ever after!
2006-07-30 09:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Shiry Madison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love her? Does she love you? what is love to you??
my ex cheated on me too. he told me that he loves me and he will never cheat on me again, but he was still talking with the girl as a friend. When i told him 'i want you to stop talking with the girl.' he said, 'no. i still wanna talk with her as a friend, but i love you....'
to me, talking with a girl whom he slept with is like chaeting on me agian. the girl is not just a friend to me.. i thought if he relly LOVES me, then he would stop talking to the girl. he didn't..
even if your girl says 'i love you,' that might not be LOVE to you. can yo really trust her? i think it depends on how she behaves from now on...
2006-07-30 10:25:42 · answer #11 · answered by makerunanrk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋