brother and best friend?

Question

My brother who i have a terrible relationship with decided that he fancied my best friend. My best friend knew my feelings towards him and how when we were younger he took everything that I cherished away from me, including the relationship i had with my mother. She lied and cheated her way out of the triangle by spinning me crap saying that she didn't want anything to do with my brother initally. A few weeks after I discovered they had been sleeping together after finding them in a tent.I was horrified and disgusted that my bestfriend had betrayed me and lied. She has split up with him a couple of times but always goes back. When she's between these periods of singledom she is around me constantlty telling me that she can't believe that she put him before me etc etc. When they're together I don't see anything of her and she practically blanks me if I see her.How would you react if this was your situation, am i being silly, and should I tell her to hit the road. Sensible answers only

You are right when you say it is none of my business but he tells her not to speak to me, so it has affected our friendship. Also my kids get upset by the situation and when my kids get involved it is very much my business

He does horrible things to her kids and she gets upset about it and comes running to me, so actually she gets me involved

Answer 1

it cant be nice for u it reaaly cant. If you dont get treated properly by your best friend why dont you tell her you dont want to play second best to your brother. Although it is your brother and best friend business if they have a relationship if knowing that they r upsets you y dont you let them get on with it and not pick the pieces up for them when it goes wrong. You probably have lots of other friends who will treat you proply and not make you feel this way. U have gotta do what makes you happy only u can choose. Friends r the family we choose ourself, u gotta get the right ones. good luck!!! hope it works out x

Answer 2

i would tell her you do not need the likes of her around you... and i would try to get along with my brother if i could ... but really i would just not let her come back into your life when they break up...this is not a real friend to you and you do not need that.. i am sorry for what your brother did.. and she oviously does not care or believe you...and i want real friends myself which i admit is few and far between...trust is a big issue for me.. i have been messed around from my best friends too.. i had a child by this guy and my best friend while i was living with him started seeing him behind my back and was leaving me home to babysit...you don't think that hurt.. they got married but it did not work out... but i still have my son but i will never trust her again and i do not see her or contact her in any way...

Answer 3

Sounds like your so called friend is really not a friend at all. Friends are there for you; not on a when they feel like it basis. She knows your feelings about your brother, but chooses to hurt you and stay with him and disregard you. She isn't a friend; count her out. Move on and if she asks explain to her the lack of respect she has shown for your friendship and that you aren't going to be played by her. Good luck.

Answer 4

i once choose my best friend over my brother and it was the worst thing i ever done i felt so guilt, but it was a different situation. i think u should dump ur friend she ant no friend to do that. im just sayin wot it can be like if u make a wrong choice hope this has helped abit good luck

Answer 5

Stop talking to her. She's no good for you, and niether is he. I'll bet once you really let her and your feelings about her and your brother go, he won't have any need for her anymore. His whole point of being with her was to hurt you. If and when that happens and if you are ready to restart a friendship with her, understand that your brother may again feel the need to persue her. I suggest you break all ties with your brother as soon as you can. No need to continue letting him abuse you like that.

Answer 6

hello, despite everything ur brother has done to you, your best friend still went behind your back and started a relationship with him which is awful. i think you should leave them to it and tell your friend you don't want nothing 2 do with any of it, u have warned her what your brother iz like but she still keeps going back, she obviously izn't listening to what you have told her so i would jus leave her 2 find out 4 herself and to be honest she can't be much of a friend if she went behind ur back in the first place coz matez don't do that! you need to put ur children first aswell. good luck wiv everythin xx

Answer 7

A better question would be...Is there anyway that you can repair the relationship with your brother???

I know....that there are cases where siblings are just evil and your better off just not being around them....but....Well thats for you to think about..

One word about best friends......they dont lie behind your back...no matter what....I would find another best freind....and let your brother and her ruin their own lives.

Answer 8

basically sit down back and enable the terrific female win. yet do no longer end any friendships basically be pleased with the out come. in case you lose be happy with the aid of fact your chum basically stored you from some situation gruesome interior the destiny. in case you win be happy considering you receive your guy:)

Answer 9

STAY OUT OF THIS!!! Just get on with your life...and work on your relationship with your mother. Good luck.

Answer 10

wat you need to do is tell your best friend tha tif she doesn't want to b wit u fine let her stay wit your bro it's gonna take some time to get used to it but find a person that won't neglect ya