My boyfreind has invited me to his family reunion where I will, of course, be introduce to a lot of his family members...Now we are fighting...he does not want me to wear tight jeans and he does not want me to smoke...he says he was attracted to me for these very reasons, but he does not want his family to think he is attract to "this kind of girl". I say I should be me...wear tight jeans and smoke...what does everyone else think...should I be me or is he trying to change me for this one time? I like regular sexy look and so doe he...they don't call me tina tight pants for no reason.
2006-07-30 02:04:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
If his family is conservative, and if he's requested that you tone down your look, I would do it out of respect for him. It's a small thing in the scheme of things. Also, assuming you're intelligent and want to make a good impression on your boyfriend's family, smoking and wearing tight jeans and an exposed thong is not the way to send the right message. What you wear on your own time is another matter.
2006-07-30 02:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tina, you enjoy being an exhibitionist and perhaps a bit of a tease - and that's OK. Of course some people find this objectionable and some get very upset about it. I'm not kidding when I advise you not to dress like this in certain parts of the world - you can literally be harmed or even killed because of it.
But your issue with the boyfriend is a different matter. If he likes you as you are, by himself, but not where his family or perhaps others would object, then you may have a bigger problem than you think. If your relationship persists you may find him deciding to control you and dictate how you look and act in public.
From the outside we don't know that many of the particulars. So if we're wrong about the boyfriend, all the better. In the case of visiting his family, you might consider whether you think it's important enough for you to adapt to their customs, out of respect, rather than to hide the person you are.
As for me, I like your self-description. Just one irrelevant question - why bother with the thong?
2006-07-30 02:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Der Lange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what they say about first impressions? What do you want his family to think of you? You like this guy and you want his family to also think well of you. As this is your first meeting with them. I think if it was me I would try and dress approprietly. A family reunion isn't the place to wear skin tight jeans with your butt crack showing with a thong sticking up your butt!
Theres nothing wrong with this type of clothing but choose where to dress this way . You want them to like you and think wel of you. And dressing right is a step in the right direction. If your boy friend is against you dressing this way to go. Then he knows best what his relatives would think about you if you show up dressed this way.
Just wear your most conservative paif of jeans skip the thong and make everyone happy. As to smoking . I smoke but again theres a time and place for this. if you really need a smoke excuse your self and go outside away from other people and have your smoke. If anyone comments on you smoking. Say i'm trying so hard to quit.But I still have to have one here and there. More and more smoking is frowned upon in society. I respect others choice not to smoke or be exposed to 2nd hand smoke and I do NOT smoke around others. I go outside even in my home. Go and have a great time. And if you don't have a conservative pair of jeans. hit boyfriend up to buy you a pair!
2006-07-30 02:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would normally say be yrself, however if yr going 2 meet his family then surely u can compromise? u can still wear hipsters jeans without them being really low and showing yr Knickers! well lets face it thats what yr doing.
u want 2 make a good impression don't u, so tone it down abit and keep 'tina tight pants' out of sight for now.
as for smoking, its not something u can just stop but if u want a cig then do the decent thing and go outside for one. that's what i would do.
one more thing...sexy is good but not ALL the time.
good luck :)
2006-07-30 02:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by missilibi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's always good to just be yourself, but meeting the family for the first time is a big deal. I'd say keep your style, but maybe tone it down a bit. Maybe don't have your thong hanging out, maybe don't smoke. It sucks to feel like you're being fake, but first impressions really are important. Good luck!
2006-07-30 02:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For family i think you should wear something less revealing..see you can't be sexy forever..there are some things in life that you have to change for your good..get married..have kids and enjoy life..apart from being sexy there are many other important things in life..you need to take care of them also..life is divided into different phases..you live in a phase and then move on to the other..that's what you should do now..al d very best!
2006-07-30 02:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by pinks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear TinaTightPants: I say wear the tight jeans. There is nothing sexier than a girl in tight jeans with her thong peaking out.
PS Don't listen to the one below me.
2006-07-30 02:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and fixed that. Go as you are comfortable why lead them to believe you are something you are not. When my man told me this; I changed alright! into something more reveling and then told him that's the way it's going to be so if he didn't like what I was wearing I could change into something even more revealing. My father even told him that he made a big mistake...LOL. We did not go because I stood my ground. The family will not accept you just because you dress like they do. BE YOURSELF ALWAYS!!!
2006-07-30 02:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, on the one hand you have to always be yourself. On the other hand first impressions are important. On the other other hand What you wear does not define who you are. So I say wear what makes you comfortable and if he likes you I see no reason why his family (once they get to know you) won't like you too.
2006-07-30 02:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be nice of you to wear something decent for the occaision. sometimes you just gotta lady up here and there. I know its a pita but he'll appreciate it. A thong hangin out with his family around is not condusive to "lady like".
2006-07-30 03:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋