i'm leaving her cheating a$$?

Question

my wife loves every man but me, her husband. i finally decided to leave her lying butt! i know "there are a lot of fish in the sea" but, i feel terrible about myself. i guess you could say my confidence is in the toilet....lol i feel unattractive, old,(32), out of shape, and i couldnt keep my wife satisfied, so what woman will want me now. what a waste i was with her for 10 years. how do i move on and feel better for doing it? staying is no longer an option it makes me more ill by the hour! i cant stand it. we have 2 boys (5 and7) now she is trying to use them against me. saying she will take them and run off to who knows where. what the hell do i do?

Answer 1

you know what you do babe, stick to your guns, kick her to the curb ( she isn't a good woman anyway to do that **** to you) and find yourself another woman. there are some women out there who actually want a good man, and they say the easiest way to get over someone is to find someone new, so.........go for it. and she will try to use your kids against you, to make you feel bad. but would you rather stay with her because you love her, or because you feel bad for her???? you know what you want to do deep inside your heart, SO DO IT

Answer 2

OK right now it would appear that life sucks for you. But this is the absolutely worst time for you to be down on yourself. First you are young 32 is really young 32 is the new 21! Whether you're out pf shape or not has no bearing on what you have to do right now. Right now you have to protect yourself and make sure your boys are ok. Is your wife really cheating with a lot of guys? Is she really cheating? If she is cheating and you've been a good father there's every chance that you could get custody. If she is threatning to take the boys first thing is to go to their schools and make it mandatory that both of you have to sign out the kids if you're taking them out of school. Then if she is screwing around just tell her that you're planning on getting full custody (if that's what you want) and if she wants to go to court, cool she'll have to defend what she's being accused of. Don't look at the 10 years as a waste you got those great kids, and especially don't wallow in pity right now. Now you need to take action and get life back on track, you can wallow later! So protect yourself, get a lawyer, get the boys either full or part time, get rid of the wife and move forward. I am not heartless I've done this, I know that every waking hour is heartbreaking, but you've got to be there for the kids.

Answer 3

well i would definatly get a lawyer and make sure she couldnt leave STATE with my kids .. women can be devious and use there children to get what they want from you which is really sad ..my heart goes out to you .. If she has cheated more then once then i understand the divorce ..you know its really sad cuz the kids always have to suffer the most .. try to be the bigger person ..if she thinks the grass is greener on the other side let her go ..ppl sometimes dunno what they got till its gone..about you wer usually our own worst critic but it sounds like she made u very insecure as a person I think u should work on that ..Im sure your great and its her loss ..32 AINT OLD and everyones outta shapeLOL..and as for finding someone else THERE IS ALWAYS someone out there ..I wouldnt worry about that .. do what makes you happy omg enjoy the single life for a while get some confidance in yourself then worry about women later .. you dont needa women to be happy LOL you got your babyboys ..be strong and remember there is nuttin wrong with you ..women sometimes take there husbands and everything they do for granted and its terrible im sorry your hurting .. and I wouldnt look at being with her as a waste of 10 years ..she gave you your children and that is worth alot !! I hope everything works out for the best way possible and i hope whatever happens you always be there for your boys..

Answer 4

Good for you, you should leave her sorry a$$. I hate cheaters. Cheating is for the weak and selfish. you feel terrible about yourself because of what she has done to you. im sure that you are attractive, 32 is not even coming close to being old, gyms are great for giving you an energy boost and for getting you in shape at the same time, no one will be able to keep this women (your wife) satisfied, because of who she is (selfish and weak) and you haven't wasted the last ten years you have learned from them. Now as far as moving on.....you must first realize that this failed marriage is not your fault, she is a whore and nothing more, then you must realize that you are worth a good women, because you are a good man. Never feel bad for doing what is right, and right is moving on. as far as your boys i would talk to an attorney, don't let her use your children against you. She dosen't care about them as much as she wants you to believe, because if she did care about the kids she would have never cheated. she knew that cheating would tear her family apart,but she was to worried about getting screwed. she didn't just hurt you she hurt the entire family, because she was thinking about herself (selfish).

Answer 5

You should not be down on yourself. I think you should seek professional help before you get started with anything. Talk to someone to help you straighten yourself out, and make you feel better about yourself. Then go from there. You sound a bit depressed and its not good to separate when your like that, no matter how hard things may seem.
Yes it is very wrong for her to be the way she is, and dint let her use the kids to confuse you. Its a scare tactic, if she loves her men that much she will not want them around to cramp her style. Think carefully before you do anything.

Good luck.

Answer 6

First things first. Go to the nearest book store and by this book called 40 Days and 40 Nights written by ILENE SEGALOVE. Start reading this book and don't give up on it. Next you need to seriously sit down and talk to her and tell her what you are feeling. Then if things are still going bad and she is not willing to change then you need to get a lawyer and see what your options are. This is also after you have left her that is. If she is not a good mother then she has a chance of looseing those children to you anyways. Just see all the cards instead of just the one card. Know the whole thing and then go for your bite. Good luck. Don't forget to get that book.

Answer 7

Good for you! I'm glad you had the strength to leave. There are too many disease out there to be hanging around. Your best revenge is your success. Start working out and getting yourself together. Go through the courts for custody and keep it moving. You are way better off. If you weren't pleasing her sexually she should of communicated that to you so you guys could work on it. Some people just have cheating in them and no matter how good their spouse it, they'll cheat.

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong with you. It is your wife that has the problem, so don't be so hard on yourself. Some people just have to run around, and are not satified with anyone. She is insecure and probably has doubts about herself. Fight for your children, if you want them. Don't let her threats back you down. You can move on, one step at a time. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Now you have the time to get in shape,which will help you get over what you've been through.No matter what take care of your kids(child support)and know that every day that live through these trouble days just makes you stronger.The time will come when you'll meet someone,don't rush it.Good luck.

Answer 10

well what i would do is kick her out and keep the kids and maybe start working out and get yourself together and maybe u will find somebody else that will accept u the way u are and help u take care of the kids and give u and the kids love like u needed to be